Ask Your Question today
Some people always say how it is impossible to arouse the other gender.
Why do some men and women struggle so much to arouse the other gender?
| The truth is with some men and women you can't. | 6 | |
| They don't know how to and they blame the other gender rather than accept the problem is them. | 11 | |
| It is not their fault but the other genders fault. | 1 | |
| I don't know. | 5 | |
| Other, please state. | 1 |
People think that men and women are different species. Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. Guys are in for sex, girls are in for love. Guys always want it, girls have to be convinced.
The truth is, both like the same stuff: hot person licking their lips, soft whispers, getting their neck caressed, romantic dinners, secret nicknames, getting slowly fondled as arousing music plays in the background.
Getting horny works the same for everyone:
Seeing a hot guy/girl/trigender pyrofox/furries voreing each other => Heartbeat speeds up => Blood flows to the penis/clitoris/alien tentacle, making it bigger and harder => Dickhole/vag/the gateway to the abyss gets wet => Brain goes "WANT"
Some people have different needs. Some like redheads, some like getting their feet fondled, some like getting whipped, some like someone dressed up like a Pokemon to cover them in peanut butter. Unless you meet someone on the Internet, you might not know such things from the beginning. So ask. "What do you want?" "I want to play. Any ideas, sexy?"
Don't see it as "How to make a man horny" and "How to make a woman horny". First go by generally sexy things, then ask the person what they desire.
Or at least that's they way it should go. After all, there aren't only two, radically different ideas of what is sexy on this planet.
Yeah, I agree. I actually know all of that and originally in the question said I did but I got accused of bragging so I removed it. I personally have no trouble at all turning women on. I give advice to other guys about women all the time. I give advice to women about men.
I personally have this woman that I am starting to feel attracted to. This woman is so nice and kind. Her and I make great eye contact, we can just look into each others eyes while talking and it does not feel at all uncomfortable, the personal space bubble between her and I is just about nil now, even if her shoulder touches mine or something like that it does not even feel uncomfortable for either of us.
The other day I did not have an umbrella and she did. She just moved close to me and put her umbrella over me as well.
I have started noticing her instantly when she walks into the room and she brings a smile to my face, she is not judgemental either.
Isn't is simple? All people have a preference at the end of the day as well as the fact some people aren't easily aroused but with having said that, if its the right one they'll most likely become easily aroused. Each to their own..if someone isn't reciprocating your moves back, its obvious they're not interested. End of.
Probably a combination of lack of confidence and preference.
Basically, confidence is universally sexy; a person can wear anything, and look good in it if they're confident. As for preference, that depends on the person they're trying to get, and whether they find them attractive from appearance, personality, etc.
In the end, we can't please everyone and we shouldn't let that bring us down. Just move forward, and know that the only person you got to impress is yourself.
There is a woman I know and she is a very nice person. I am a guy and she talks to me a lot, makes fantastic eye contact when she talks to me and the personal space bubble is basically nil between us now.
She has got a lot more comfortable with what she says around me also.
The other day it was raining and I did not have an umbrella with me and she came up to me and put her umbrella over me as well.
Every-time she walks in the room I notice her super fast now because I feel happy when she is around.
Ooooh! You like her!!
Is that what this thread is about? If so, why are you beating around the bush about it so hard?
Anyway, you got to confess, but before you do anything, become comfortable with all possible negative outcomes/consequences. Get yourself in a state of mine that this may not go anywhere. A huge mistake both men and women make is assuming the attraction is there on both sides, and having their expectations very high due to misreading signals.
Once you have yourself together and you're alone with her, just simply tell her you like her as more than a friend, but okay with continuing the friendship if she doesn't feel the same; no pressure. That's it, you're just stating facts (like saying the sky is blue) without expecting anything from her than acknowledgement.