Why do some gay people act opposite their sex?

Did you read the story? Did i say ALL gay people act like that? I made sure to say SOME throughout the whole story so i wouldn't get any stupid comments like yours.

"They do it because that's who they are." That doesn't make any sense and it doesn't explain anything. Gay people are attracted to the same sex for a reason. So if a gay man acts like a woman, why would another gay man be attracted to him?

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“Of course there are some similarities between how some lesbians dress. Just the same as there are similarities between how some straight men dress and straight women dress. Some gay women like to put on a dress and heels like my beautiful girlfriend, while others prefer to wear jeans and a polo. But I'm not sure what link you are referring to, other than the fact that some lesbians like to dress in guys clothes. Which is not disputed.”

But you didn’t really answer the question. You keep saying that it’s all based on comfort which is an overly simplistic/inaccurate answer. As soon as gay culture started becoming popular all lesbians got together and decided that dressing in guys clothes is comfortable? There is no way you can be this dense which is why I think you’re purposefully deflecting. You’re using straight girls as scapegoats. Because some straight girls like wearing guys clothes you’re saying that lesbians who do the same thing are doing it for the same reason.

That’s like saying Gothic people wear black but since many non-Gothic people wear black that must mean that Gothic people wear black for the same reasons as non-Gothic people. FALSE. I can use the same exact question that you used but replace a couple of words.

“Do they dress in black because they’re Goth? Or are they Goth because they dress in black?”

Gothic people have a reason to wear black, because it’s part of their personality, part of their image. That’s exactly what gay people do. A girl will act boyish BECAUSE she’s a lesbian. You see it all the time and you can’t pretend that it’s not there.

“Is it so hard to believe some lesbians feel most comfortable dressing in those types of clothes? And are you saying they dress like that only because they are gay? I don't seem to really get your point. Wasn't your original question WHY??”

I find it funny how you try so hard to completely avoid this trend among gays like it doesn’t exist but I don’t even have to convince you because I’m not the only one who sees it. It’s actually a big stereotype among the gay community. Why do you think in comedy skits and movies whenever a lesbian is depicted she’s most likely wearing a flannel shirt, has a boy’s haircut, wearing some type of slacks, work boots, and talks in a deep voice? You think I made this up? You KNOW what I’m talking about.

“How is a person supposed to answer your question if you don't like the answer they provide? You got a full fledged lesbian answering it for you and you are still arguing with me over why I dress the way I do”

Omg a “full-fledged lesbian”, I guess I should just nod my head and agree with everything you say. . . . .lol

“You say you want to be educated and to understand these things, then you argue with me when I answer your question. If you're not interested in hearing the answer then don't ask the question. I assumed you wanted enlightening on the matter from a person who lives it. If you knew all the answers, why did you come on here and ask? Were you just assuming everyone would agree with your views of human sexuality?”

You leave a comment on a question I asked two years ago and you’re surprised that by now I’ve already come across my own answers and that I won’t just accept everything you say as fact just because you’re a lesbian? Lol wow. And “enlightened”? Really? I think you have a lot of soul searching to do. Denying such a big part of who you are and what you represent is not healthy and will only lead to unhappiness in your future. I really do actually think you’re a good person but perhaps due to struggles going on in your life or long-held insecurities you have a hard time being honest with yourself and taking valid criticism.

“I didn't realize you were an expert on gay culture. I thought that's why you came on here and asked.”

Yea I came here and asked this question over two years ago. Since then I’ve had conversations with gay people about this and have gotten different points of view and I know a lot about homosexuals and their lifestyle. The reason I’m even responding to you now is for the sake of conversation in hopes that maybe one of us could learn something. It seems like you have a problem with the fact that I’m responding and contradicting your points. If you send someone a comment expect to get a comment back, don’t be so aggressive. You’re kind of assuming that because I’m not gay and because you’re a lesbian that I must be wrong and you must be right. But I like to base my info on facts and observational evidence so sorry but I’m not just going to take your word for it.

“You asked a very specific question and I answered it for you in the way that all lesbians would be able to answer it for you.”

I asked a very specific question but you decided to focus strictly on clothes and avoid any other part of the question. It’s not all about clothes but the way they act as well. If I were to just accept your answer of “it’s all about comfort” then how do you explain their personality? Many gay guys ACT feminine. And lesbians ACT manly. I guess you decided to leave that out because it kinda crushes your whole theory of “comfort”. You seem to think that you speak for all lesbians which is pretty presumptuous of you, more presumptuous than anything I’ve ever said about lesbians…which is ironic since you’re accusing me of generalizing.

“The reason WHY I wear the clothes I wear is simply because I feel 100% comfortable in them.”

That’s great but again, you’re not the queen (king?) of lesbians. I appreciate that you want to share your experience but please stop thinking that you represent everyone’s voice. There’s a difference between wearing guys clothes every now and then for the comfort and dressing like a guy 24/7. I’m talking about the lesbians that, even when they go out and they want to look nice, they dress more like a guy than a girl. I’m talking about lesbians like Ellen Degeneres. She’s a lesbian, and her style just happens to be a short boy’s haircut, and suits? Blazers and vests and ties? And you think that has nothing to do with her being an outspoken lesbian? Come on. This has nothing to do with comfort. If you go on google images and type her name you will not see anything that looks like typical women’s fashion. And I don’t have a problem with that but if you can’t see that her style is very common among the lesbian community SPECIFICALLY then you’re in denial.

“Throwing on a dress would feel awkward for me. So do I feel that way because I'm gay? Is that what you're getting at?”

I don’t know? Why do so many lesbians feel like they can’t do anything girly? Is that a coincidence? Is that what you’re getting at?

“I doubt it. By using that logic, my gf who dresses like a girl would be straight and any tom boy would have to be a lesbian.”

No. If I had said ALL lesbians dress like guys then you would have a point, but I didn’t.

“You're trying to box people up and label them according to the clothes they choose to wear.”

Again, if I were trying to “box people up” I would say, with a definite certainty, that all boyish looking girls were lesbians and girly looking guys were gay, even though I went out of my way not to do that. It seems like you’re slowly trying to change the conversation to the stereotypical “enlightened gay person tells off a bigot” scenario but since I don’t fit the mold of that description you’re having a bit of a tough time.

“Do lesbians dress like guys because they are gay or are they gay because they dress like guys?”
Um, they dress like guys because they’re gay. That’s my point, I never said dressing a certain way makes you gay, but lots of gay people pick and choose the way they dress because they’re actively deciding to express their sexuality through embellishment in extravagant and flamboyant colors and/or styles that are contrary to the typical styles of their gender. The fact that you can’t even admit that this is true again just shows me that you probably don’t like being contradicted by someone who isn’t gay and who you thought was “out of the loop”.

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"The reason I wear them - along with other women who choose to dress similarly - is simply because it's most comfortable to them. It's how they feel most comfortable and makes them feel good."

Ok come on, you're acting as if there is no connection between being a lesbian and acting/dressing more manly. Are you saying that it's a complete coincidence that a lot of lesbians have that same specific style? I really don't think you believe that. Sure there are many straight women who do the same thing but this style, I believe, is specifically linked to the lesbian lifestyle.

You know what I think? I think it has a lot to do with the "girl/guy" relationship. You know how gay guys often say "I'm the wife and he's the husband"? That's what I think this is. A lot of gay couples feel the need to have a gender specific relationship where one person has a more masculine role and the other is more feminine. Granted, I don't think most gay couples do this but a lot do.

Also, I think it has a lot to do with the current "market/propaganda" of homosexuality. There are many gay people out there who you wouldn't be able to tell at all if they were gay, but then there are the other gay people that you KNOW right away are gay. The guys knowingly act flamboyant, have that same voice that a lot of feminine gay guys have (like a valley girl voice), and act overtly feminine. You're telling me this personality has NOTHING to do with the fact that they're gay? You're telling me that if they were straight they would have the same openly feminine qualities? Again, I don't think you really believe that.

It's not a coincidence, they do it because they're gay. Now, maybe they recently came out and they don't know how to deal with it. Maybe they think that they HAVE to act that way in public, who knows. All I know is, there is definitely a correlation between the two.

As far as the strap-on thing goes, I never really wondered about that but thanks for clearing it up lol.

Not all lesbians are girly like you and your girlfriend. My question is why do some lesbians present themselves as butch. Yes, some straight women act butch as well, but lets not pretend it's a coincidence that a lot of butch women are lesbians. They are butch BECAUSE they are lesbians.

But if straight people act the same way as those so called homosexuals, then that means that acting that way is not a natural thing.

Homosexuality is an inhibited social thing that has been passed down from Europe thousands of years ago.