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I noticed the people around me do this to other people. Why are we expected to sugarcoat advice, criticism, or responses? Maybe the users in this community can explain the reason why?
Because sometimes people are more inclined to take advice that's delivered in a considerate and sensitive way, than they are if it's delivered bluntly.
It's all about tact. Tact needn't obfuscate the truth. You don't need to pick between tact and honesty.
Sugarcoating makes something bitter bittersweet, and that can take the edge off the harsh truth.
Of course, it's up to you how you deliver advice. Just be aware that your advice might be better received if it is more carefully given.
Beat me to it and said it a million times better.
It infuriates me that some mongtards can't seem to understand that being polite and considerate is a good thing, and sometimes brutal or even just matter of fact isn't the way to go.
All have their place, but most of the time, it's kindness that will be the nost helpful.
A lot of people make very valid points in the comment section, and it does have a lot to do with human compassion, sensitivity, and understanding of fellow man. But a lot of the time it is just to avoid physical, verbal, and social conflict. Examples Telling an unattractive person they're attractive. If you were to tell the "bitter truth" that person my physical harm you, verbal assault you, and people may socially label you. IE the internet, and cyber bullying. You take away the real life conflict, and people say what ever they please with no fear of conflict.
"Sugarcoating" is a word with dirty connotations which completely obscure the nature of the act. Putting sugar on a pill doesn't stop the pill doing its job, and that is the key point to remember.
It would be very sad to live in a world where kindness and compassion were not valued, and even worse to live in a world where they were seen as harmful and untruthful.
People nowadays try too hard to make other people like them. You call it sugarcoating. I call it ass kissing.
People don't wanna hear the truth! You're right they want it sugar coated and I won't do that...
Because people value feelings over facts nowadays. They think giving a feel good pseudo-advice comment will help them in the long run when it just doesn't, it just makes them feel good for a while until the issue they had slams in to them again, and because they weren't given any real pieces of advice that sidelines the feel good attempt if it comes between telling it how it has to be told that will help them and make it more likely to get over the issue in the long run making them happier due to it.
See it around everywhere nowadays.
That can happen, but I don't think it happens nearly as much as you seem to think.
Just because you don't value emotion, doesn't mean that most of the world doesn't function on it.
It is entirely possible to be honest AND kind.
Who said I don't value emotion? I am saying I do not think it should be prefered over giving the advice straight, and that you can be sympathetic all while giving the facts. I am talking about when people use advice like "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so don't worry" and crap like that.
It's true, and I agree. A little more truthfulness, spoken in love, is better than sugarcoat.
Because people carry Glock 40s and our views on reality are distorted. POP POP POP is that your feelings or are you even feeling ? It's life now days and we ain't playing no more with words cause words be playing us. You bout to get dropped if you drop your act. So put on your rat suit and run this rat race if you want no person taking your cheese.