Why do people just take whoever is "there"?

There isn't *really* 7 billion people to choose from, though, is there? Firstly, if you're straight, that number instantly splits by about a half. Also, people obviously aren't going to be interested in every age group. Children and the elderly are probably taken away from that number (unless you're an elderly person looking for someone, etc.), or basically anyone who isn't in your age range (so there goes tonnes of more people, although how many depends on how picky your tastes are:P). You've also got the language difference. If you don't speak the same language, then it's going to be hard to build a relationship. If you live in different countries, it might be extremely difficult to meet. And many people are already taken (married, etc., and therefore not willing to pursue a relationship with someone else).

Oh, and of course there's the whole issue of whether you're actually attracted to them:P. Anyway, I think you get my point! You don't instantly become attracted to someone purely because they're "there". I would have thought several people "fighting" over the same person would probably be due to them all being attracted to that person. I think there are loads of people who we can find ourselves attracted to, and having differences with that person doesn't necessarily mean that there's someone better out there. Perhaps if someone's desperate, then they'd go with someone who just happens to be there. But I don't think it's always the case.

Maybe people should consider being more open with who they'd consider dating, but it's not as simple as choosing anyone in the world. There *are* limitations, and realistically, there's just no way they can make themself available to everyone.

People are impatient and just want someone to be there for them, be nice, and affirm them. It doesn't matter who they are or the rest of what they do, or if they have much/anything in common, or the fact that they know they would never marry this person. They just need someone / anyone to be there, and they usually take the first person to come along and be nice to them.

I don't understand why I should have felt the need to look around more if I was satisfied with what I had. With that mentality, you'd never find anyone that is good enough. You'd find good and want to find better. You'd find better and you'd want to find better than that and it's not like people are like cars where you can just keep upgrading until you get the best and baddest model.

Eventually, you're going to either have to say "I am satisfied with this person" or say "I'll never be satisfied with anyone" and contrary to what a lot of people (namely, the SINGLE people on this website) think, you don't have to go through damned near every name in the phone book to meet someone that definitely satisfies you, beyond a doubt.

If you're thinking in terms of "settling" or "second best", like it's some competition and people should be competing to be good enough for you, then don't plan on ever settling and please don't get married. These kind of people skew the divorce statistics and make marriage and commitment look like a joke.

Yep, it's kinda sad but people do that cause their lonely and desperate I believe.

Cause we're not all models and super models.

Because there's a lot more risk and effort involved in trying to date a complete stranger instead of someone you kinda know.

Not meaning to sound misogynistic, but what I don't get is when a woman starts going out with a man then begins to change everything about him which attracted her to him in the first place.

But that's a different kettle of fish.

Because they usually have cigarettes.

I've always wondered the same thing.

People do this with most of their relationships. Look at your circle of friends and see how wide you cast that net.

Because they just want regular easy sex and women just want money.

Because there are bags for putting over peoples heads.

It is kind of sad how people will go for just anyone. In my whole life I've only felt love once, and I wouldn't want to be with someone I don't have that feeling for.

I hate this fact too. I'm into inter-racial dating but have no girls of other races in my immediate friend/relative circles. I'm not good at approaching girls I don't know and assume they hate that anyway.

Lol, I do agree I'm focused on one guy in particular, because he's fucking perfect to me.
Although there is other people out there, it's your choice. And I choose Mr. Perfect.

Because relationships aren't just about sex.