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Well im a nice guy. And I treat girls with respect. I would never do anything to hurt them. But, what really pisses me off is when I girl leaves you for a bad guy. Someone that disrespects them, cheats on then, and talk bad about them. Whats up with this?
i dont think nice guys finish last, they may appear to finish last at first but later they win, i believe this and nice guys are winners in my eyes
Youneed to find yourself a real women. I know a ton of women that are looking for a man like you. Myself included, you need to find someone who wants a man and not a boy. Not all women are horrible like that, you just haven't found the right one yet. Nice guys don't always finish last, your not looking in the right places. Keep your head up, keep trying even if you have to date a ton of people. But keep trying, not all girls are like this.
Why are you going for women that treat you like that then?
If there's a problem: focus on you, not them, because you can only change yourself and not others.
Maybe you are only attracted to the women who like to be treated poorly in a relationship (some have daddy-issues which has nothing to do with you, so don't take it as a reflection on you).
Open up your heart to all the nice girls who "always finish last" because there's just as many of them as there is of you out there.
What thisissomuchfun says! Someone is on a roll today with intelligent, insightful comments.
Thank you Dappled!
I appreciate knowing that, especially coming from someone who's comments I always enjoy.
Although, someone here doesn't like my posts (not that they must)... I noticed that someone went through my comments and gave them all a thumbs down. Oh well, you win some and you lose some. This was the only comment that didn't get bombed - it could be that your comment has influenced "them", like it often does.
I make an effort to not sugar-coat my comments and I try to focus on the words, chosen and presented by the original poster in their question. In those words are so many inadvertent clues to their biases, which tend to be the root of their worst problems. Most people don't enjoy those deep parts of them being exposed (I know I don't!), but when they are participating in an anonymous website, asking if they are normal or not, then we will serve it to them.
This site is entertaining and fun, despite whether people like your writing, or not.
Again, thank you. You are one of about 3-4 people on this site that I look forward to reading; your comments are insightful and candid.
I know a few weeks have passed since you posted this, but this happens to me too. To the extent where a lot of my comments (including historical ones) were being erased. Someone went to a huge amount of effort to wipe anything I said off this site. Freedom of speech, eh? Seems like left to our own devices, certain people really don't believe in it.
Unfortunately, girls are attracted to guys by their looks at first until they get to know the personality, etc. It sucks, but its life. I was one of "those" girls who liked the bad guys because they were good looking, seemed to have confidence, and created a challenge. But as I am getting older, I am looking for the nice guy and not focusing just on the superficial attributes. So I believe that nice guys finish last at a younger age and after women mature and realize this, they look for the nice guy.
I don't think they finish last. They just aren't as loud and obnoxious so they go unnoticed, don't confuse this with last.
Bad boys= appear to be a challenge and fun
Nice guys= you know what they want, not interesting
Most of the time that how it looks. Nice guys do finish last because we get the women after they "have had there fun" and want to settle down. The bad boys already got them first.
What irritates me most is that most mothers try to install this be nice to girls attitude in their boys but this will actually keep them from getting a long term relationship especially single mothers. No offense. I am one of them thinking I was ahead of the game when really I was behind.
Some guys get lucky and get a woman early. But not alot. So nice guys get ready for leftovers!!! Lol
That is pretty much the exact truth but it is kind of funny because the real bad boys are the ones who pretend they are the nice type. The ones who look and act like bad boys do it to try look the part even though to be the part you have to make sure you dont look the part so in reality by the fake bad boys trying to look bad only makes it obvious they are posers.
they deserve eachother...
sorry but true.
how would you feel if someone you loved lets say your mother or father for example, was in the dating world that you are in, and kept meeting these self absorbed assholes who only responded to their own types.
wouldn't it sadden you to see your mother (or whom ever we are using for this excercise)
to be pining for some guy that thinks shes a loser.
thats how us considerate respectful girls feel when we meet you men that have been ran through the mill.
its just sad almost pathetic but that would be the wrong word.
you can still be the bombass man and manly with out being chauvanistic
My actual girfriend was hanging out with a jerk for 9 months before she finaly accept being my Gf.
She always Was crying because of him with me; but she knows in all that 9 months that she likes me, in fact i like to her but as you can figure out, the girls love to be punished by assholes who have a nice smile only for 1 week and then, welcome to their nightmare jjj, fourtnley she decides to leave him and give me an oportunity, we have 6 months of hang out and shes happier than ever so if u want to be a nice guy, get ready because your going to find a lot of girls who first are going to enjoy the pain and then the arms of a guy like you :) just be strong!
Because there are an awful lot of "users" out there in the world, and as long as one keeps helping them with their problems / and situations, they will take advantage of it, and figure all of it is "owed" to them. How many times do you gret a THANK YOU..?
Rachelle
Bad boys represent confidence, strength, and charisma. Girls are attracted to those things.
2 + 2 = lol nogirlfriend
Understood?
Because nice guys play by the rules and every other fella cheats don't worry us girls know the difference
Its simple biology. Women are programmed to seek out more dominant, agressive males even if they say thats not what they want. This is why i prefer the "weird chick" sterotype. Generally if a female has separated herself from the rest in her behavior and attitude then their biology is different. Their brains are wired differently. These are the ones in my opinion that deserve us nice guys.Of course there are other dangers like them trying to eat because they just decided they are a werewolve. It doesn't matter this is preferable. Because i learned the hard way that it doesn't matter how good you are, how respectful you are, how devoted and supportive you are, normal women don't want that.
I get so angry when girls complain about the attitude on men towards them and yet reward this behavior. I'm not some whipering emotional mummy's boy, in fact i pride myself on mental strength and resilience. But until i find a female that can resist her biology long enough to make logical and considered descisions i'm not trying again. I probably will be search a long time.
It's because you don't have a fizzy water tap, if every bachelor pad had one of these, BAM! the chicks would be yours
No offence but you are kind of a fool if you believed the women who said they want a nice guy rather than the hot guy with a 6 pac.
Sorry but thats not true i know plenty and i do mean plenty of women who much much rather have a nice guy that cares and repsect them then a hot bad boy jerk who wont' give a shitt. and yes many of these women are in fact with nice guys that treats them well and they wont change a thing. I am single girl, truth be told i would fuck the hot bad ass jerk but leave him the moment i met a nice guy who i would want to have a honest serious relationship with.