Why do i want to sleep with my late cousin's husband?

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My cousin killed herself over a week ago. This past weekend, I was visitiing her hometown and reunited with her inlaws and her husband. He looked so sad, and all I want to do is sleep with him. I dont want him to be lonely and I dont want him to suffer anymore than he has to. I love and respect my cousin as she was a wonderful woman. I also have never looked at her husband in this way. But she left him all alone and he is so lost now. I just want him to have a companion to ease the pain. Nothing malicious or slimy, I just want to relieve him of a little sadness. Please talk to me

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  • neopythagorean
    14 years ago

    Normal...but...
    Maybe you should offer your emotional support in a nonsexual way. Why not try to make him dinner or take care of the household chores for a week or two? I'm not suggesting that it's your job as a female to do these things, by the way. Remember that even if he gladly agreed to have sex with you, it would be under extreme duress. The man could not possibly be thinking clearly and you would just be giving him a reason to hate himself even more than he already does. One suicide is enough.

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  • SadMostOfTheTime
    13 years ago

    Sounds like you have an overwhelming need to want to make him FEEL BETTER. And the only thing you could think of sleeping with him, like they do in those movies. When the person is fragile and "alone" they find the comfort in a random romp with someone close to them...but then they find that it was wrong to do from the start.

    I understand it's just thoughts and I think it's somewhat normal. As long as nobody acts upon it, maybe spend time with him and other loved ones so that he can talk about her. You'll eventually come back from that feeling.

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    your offer of sex to ease bereavement is inappropriate to say the LEAST.

    also, there are some things that having sex with you won't fix. this is one of them.

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  • bigtoy
    12 years ago

    So did you do it in the end?

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    • ddollclothing
      12 years ago

      I began to talk to him on the phone and gave him lots of emotional support. We would talk on the phone till he fell asleep, It was a good was for us to aquaint ourselves with each other since we had literally only spoken twice hile my cousin was alive. Its been a year now but I did not act on my feelings and he met a young lady to live his life with. Thank you for asking and not judging me. I think I made the best descision by just being there emotionally and not sexually/physically/codependently

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Right make him feel guilty that's all he needs right now just some more guilt mmhmm

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  • Junk-Food-Night
    13 years ago

    In my opinion I think it is normal for you to think that way, and I don't really understand how he would have guilt issues if his wife is dead but as a guy I think if i was in that situation and you did something like that to me take it or leave it I would feel a little better that you cared that much.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    That kind of drama will not allow him to heal but only add to his stress and possibly make him have guilt issues. It is not normal for you to think it is appropriate to pacify someone through sex.

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  • ding0
    14 years ago

    Sounds absolutely normal to me. Read something about this recently; either as the plot of a film or story. He might not want it, but even the attempt a) might make him reconnect with life, and b) make him feel 'human'. Im not saying definitely go do it, but as a guy, I think even if I turned down the attempt, I'd be thankful for it.

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  • ddollclothing
    14 years ago

    No i am not being inappropriate because I have not acted or even spoke these feelings out loud. These are thoughts within my mind. Also, I am not trying to fix anything. My wish is to simply relieve this person of a little bit of tension and frustration. Thank you

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  • BreezyOne0608
    13 years ago

    I'm just curious, what if my bother in laws dog died...should i sleep with him to make him feel better or does that just make me a whore???

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  • twixzy
    14 years ago

    U r a huge redneck

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