Why do i hate being touched by my mum?

'Mum'? Isn't it 'Mom'?!

Maybe it's the molestation anyway.

You look to your parents to protect you and they didn't protect you from the molester.

You're acting like this only because you have been molested before and the idea of somebody touching you. Even if it's your innocent mom who loves you very much. You feel guilty and disgusted. Try going to therapy to help you over-come this problem. You should always remember that your mother is the most loving, caring person. And she wouldn't do something to hurt you.

My mom likes to touch me sometimes, like on my head, or arm, or something like that. I often don't like it because she pats my head or rubs my head and that gets a little annoying. Sometimes she'll be holding something and she rubs me with it, like on my arm or leg. I really don't like that because it's usually unexpected.

I might have started disliking physical contact (from her or either altogether, I don't know) when she accidentally crashed into me roughly and suddenly one day. I flipped out and started crying because she really startled me and it kind of hurt. It might not have been because of that, but it was an unpleasant enough happening.

Anyway, bottom line, you could privately and calmly tell your mother that you don't want her to touch you because it makes you uncomfortable. Even if she's your mother and she didn't do anything to you, you still have a say in what people in your family do or don't do to you.

Molested a "few times?". You said in such a matter-of fact way it almost seemed like a garden variety occurence. That is why you have problems being touched. Maybe you partly blame your mom and that makes you recoil....

I was molested and I pull away from people sometimes, freak out when they move to touch me. I guess you feel it's different in your case, but I've heard of lots of abused people doing this even with closest family. It's like, emotionally you mistrust peoples motives even when you know they very likely don't want to harm you or whatever. Maybe because the abuser usually was a trusted person... I don't know, but's it's normal.

I don't think its abnormal! People react differently to physical contact i suppose, maybe you should sit down and tell your mom how you feel. There are lots of other ways to show love!

Hard to say - but if you are OK with that, and its just a matter of not wanting to upset your Mom, then gently let her know that that is just how you feel & is not a reflection of how you feel towards her. Find expressions of love that you can accept. And be happy that you are loved.

How old are you? Are you a teen going through that phase whereby you're always feeling like, "Get away mum, get away"?