Why do i feel so unattractive all the time?

Ever since I graduated high school I've gained a lot of weight and it just made my self-esteem go really down. I have a boyfriend but he doesn't really help me feel any better , he doesn't say I look pretty, he doesn't really touch me , kiss me as much as he use too , he never wants to have sex and I'm starting to think it's my fault. I spend every pay check I get to buy clothes and stuff so that I can feel a little better but that barely helps. I don't know what to do anymore I feel like I'm going crazy or something some one help me

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  • ~gabe~

    Don't feel so down about your weight girl becuase it's not your boyfriend who's going to make you feel better, it's you. Look a little deeper into yourself than your skin and see who you are in your heart, don't let a "guy" dictate how you spend your paycheck, do it because you know how beautiful you are. Give your man a break if he's not that into you, get on out there and start doing something that will help you feel confident for you

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  • dappled

    Personally, I find people carrying a few extra pounds more attractive than people who aren't carrying enough. Your boyfriend may not feel that way. The only two people who can truly understand what is going on in your relationship are you and your boyfriend. You need an honest talk with him.

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  • i constantly feel self-concious and
    i dont walk with my head held high anymore

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  • helmonsta666

    If you feel like it's because you weigh to much then just lose weight...

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  • CountryRoads

    I gained weight in college too, after being in pageants and doing modeling it really took a toll on my self esteem.
    I don't know what changed, but I looked in the mirror one night and realized that I love my eyes, lips, nose, boobs, ass, stomach...I just found self confidence. It's normal to feel bad about gaining weight, and maybe your boyfriend doesn't vocalize how sexy you are- but it doesn't mean he's not thinking it.
    If he's hurting your feelings by not being supportive, make your feelings known and let him know that you're feeling down on yourself.
    Self esteem is hard to find, but you CAN have it. Focus on internal features that you're proud of, too. For instance, I'd much rather be smart than pretty.

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  • paradiddle1

    you shouldn't let a guy make you feel bad about yourself. you can only change how you feel. personally, i always feel at my best when i am physical every once in a while. maybe go for a jog or get a gym membership. im not saying you need to lose a bunch of weight, but maybe just exercising will make you feel better about yourself....it always makes me feel better :)

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  • Your doubts feed more into the notion that you aren't pretty and the more you think you aren't pretty the more your doubts grow.

    It's a vicious cycle and you have to stop it. Positive thinking will help but you also need to MOTIVATE your deficient boyfriend to encourage you.

    Leaders, mentors, and partners are cheerleaders if nothing else and your boyfriend is no different.

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  • howaminotmyself

    Don't focus on the number. I gained weight after highschool and actually look thinner now then I did then. My hips spread and my boobs grew. If you want to feel pretty, tell yourself you're pretty. Don't let someone else be the judge of it for you.

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  • Chels24

    I weight 120 I'm 4"11 I feel like if I just lose15 pounds I'll look good again

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  • Chels24

    Thanks you guys for trying to help.

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  • bleach_baby

    The answer is in your question. You feel unattractive because you're overweight. If it bothers you, sort it.

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  • Tancho

    I think you need to sit down and talk to your boyfriend and see what's up. It could be if you guys have been together a long time that he's just become comfortable and doesn't see that you might need some compliments and the sex life kicked up a gear!
    But honestly (without meaning to sound harsh) if you are really bothered by your weight why don't you do a little exercise and go on a diet to lose that extra weight.
    I can completely sympathise as I went through the same thing - when I first got together with my other half in the first 2 years after becoming totally comfortable I put on a lot of weight and it really made me depressed. I worked hard to lose it and got rid of 2.5 stone and I feel great again now!

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  • Chels24

    My boyfriend is chubby though and it doesn't bother me. And by the way I'm o only gained like 15 pounds I'm 4"11 so I'm use to being 100 or less

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  • povich031

    Hey if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck it's probably a fucking duck! Take charge of your life and your body and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Obviously your unattractive cause your over weight. A better question would be "what am I going to do to change my future" ? Wake up

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