Why do i always get a hard time joining a clique?

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i know sometimes people are more used to joining a clique than i am.
sometimes i feel its because my brain is not naturally wired to say something that make people's day, or to say nice things to people. i tried my hardest to do it, but sometimes im lost in the slowness of my brain. and i couldn't think of any smart/nice things to say.
and sometimes i try to get close to people of the clique but sometimes i couldn't come up with a nice and fast comment or nice things to say to them. so it sucks man.
im normally having one or two best friends in my life.
sometimes i feel embarassed to always ask them out only by the two of us, because i have no other close friends.

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  • pastor_of_muppets
    9 years ago

    Wanna hear a secret? People LOVE to talk about themselves.
    Basically all you need to do is say hi...and ask where they are from because they look distinguished or interesting or has a nice skin tone or whatever.. and the chick will be like: "unts hallo I am Inge from the Germany" and then you ask something about Germany...like a well known place there and if she has been to it.. and she will say 'no'...and kinda laugh German-like... "unts haha unts haha".. complement the person on their awesome voice.. throw in another "you are such an interesting person"... and then say you will see her around sometime.. if Inge wants to continue talking, boom, you got a buddy. answer her questions in short answers and ALWAYS keep the conversation flowing with "and you?" and ask the most obvious questions in reply to their answer and make it about them.

    It subconsciously makes that person like you and feel closer to you because you are showing genuine interest

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  • anti-hero
    9 years ago

    Why would you want to?

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    • LostAndBroken
      9 years ago

      This plus one...

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    9 years ago

    try bein more shallow and flippin yalls hair round

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    You're talking about sucking up anyway. Thinking about something nice and fast to say to make them happy? Are they trying to make you happy with nice, fast sentences?

    I'll never suck up to anybody. I think you should be grateful for the two nice friends you have and forget those shallow suck ups. Who needs to use fast comments, it's meaningless. Only a certain type pf person can think up fast and witty responses and they're usually shallow.

    Embrace your own mind.

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  • Joyful
    9 years ago

    people are usually more worried about themselves to notice you, loosen up. I think people like what they know, if you have nothing in common it usually wont work out anyway.

    i have heard this from so many people over the years the truth is everyone has trouble making friends, everyone gets anxiety.

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    In college I just saw people playing card games with anime stuff...I just walked over and sat with them.

    Why not practice what to say? Easy go to nice things to say are complementing someones appearance...
    example: hey nice shirt! Where did you get it? Then the convo can go from there....maybe their shirt features a movie, book, anime, ect... this is easy as you can start a conversation off of that.

    You just need to notice things about the person and base a conversation off of it...
    their phone goes off...talk about the song they use for their ring tone...
    they have a keychain? Does it feature what fandom they are in? Talk about that...
    are they eating? Talk about fav foods. ..

    Hope this helps

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