Why do guys like girls who play hard to get?

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I mean is this foreal? The guy I have been dating I've been letting out my feelings to him like I've never done before. He doesn't know how much he should appreciate this and how much my ex would have loved me to do this. But it takes real feelings of love and affection for me to uncontrollably let it all out. I'm not saying I've cried to him and bitched at him like there's no tomorrow, but yes I have bugged him a few times because I'm basically just fighting for us and for my love for him. He doesn't walk away from me but he doesn't seem to give me compassion or anything. After a few conversations, self-therapy, etc, I realized I should just chill out and maybe I'm going too hard on him. So ever since Ive been responding to him in a more casual way, he's been responding back and in a way I would've wished he did before. I kind of respond or talk to him with a sense of humor more now. We always did but now i do it most of the time. It's more like "oh haha i don't really give a fuck but okay" kind of responses and he'll answer back in a good way like he didn't before. I think girls and guys like the chase. But guys mock girls more because they supposedly like asswholes more which isn't really true all the time. Some girls have admitted they do like asswholes, and others, like myself, like guys and they happen to be jerks sometimes.

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  • ArmusWasTheFirstTroll
    9 years ago

    They don't . . .

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  • Thorolf
    8 years ago

    Most guys don't.

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  • sexysonofsam
    9 years ago

    Nobody likes a clingy leach...if the dude loves you he will say so, if not let him go! do not cheapen yourself just to keep him, in the end it will not be worth it and you will feel self loathing.

    Fuck him, seek somebody who is worthy of your hot little body. Pussy=power!

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Yeah. It depends how hard to get they are playing. A little resistance is nice. It implies value and self worth. But TOO hard can be a problem. Over all though, I like a woman that knows what she wants and exactly how to get it.

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    WE DON'T! what the hell gave you that idea???

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Most guys do not like "the chase". Personally if a girl shows disinterest in me, I immediately lose interest. I wouldn't want to be around somebody who doesn't value my company.
    You did describe another problem though. The description of your behavior sounds overly emotionally unstable, clingy, needy and extremely desperate. Very few behaviors will annoy the average man more than those qualities.
    That is why he is showing more interest when you are not bothering him with your desperation. People like somebody they can enjoy things together with and have a good time.
    We all have problems, so there comes times when people develop relationships that they share the unpleaant sides of each other and show support, but that is not something that you want to focus on when meeting a new person. You will chase them away.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Well, as a guy that has known many guys don't like "the chase", we don't like the chase. There are those that do but in general, I don't believe men like the chase. It expects guys to do pretty much all the work and we want someone that will fight for us as much as we would for them.

    However, guys, or the ones I know (I don't know all guys but I am sure some like it), do not want to have a barrage of information you would see on a dating site description. The best way for you to have a guy like you more is to have fun with them, be humerous, engage in pleasant conversation that isn't serious and something you can both laugh at and talk about.

    I have had girls do this to me in the past, they would just barrage me with personal information (these are the ones that "liked" me), and tha's fine aslong as I have asked about it and showed I want to know. But I tend to just see it as a chore to respond back. I just want to enjoy speaking to them, have funny conversations, and so on.

    Guys want a "Wow, she's hilarious! She makes it comfortable to be around her!" type of girl, not the "Damn, she's been through a lot...She keeps telling me all these terrible things" type of thing. That's how you get sympathy from someone and people don't want to be around those they have to be sad around all the time.

    :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Thanks for the helpful info ! It really helped a lot to clarify exactly what guys are into. I'm not saying I'm gonna change who I am but just alternate some of my habits.

      What you described guys or he would like is probably the reason why he liked me in the first place. But then because I started really liking him, you can't help but get emotionally attached and want to make it work. So I have been annoying always confronting him bout what's bothering me and yes some things I do have a right to be upset about.

      But lately, rather than confronting him in an emotional way, I'll confront him w a sense of humor and hell respond back rather than just leaving me hanging cause he doesn't wanna do anything w the convo.

      But I barely tell him bout my problems out of the relationship. Its more between us. But you say that girls being too emotional is kind of a cry for attention and sympathy like blackmail in the eyes of guys? I mean I haven't really cried in front of him just confront him bout a lot of things and idk if he sees it as blackmail and not gonna fall for it or he just doesn't care to be a part of the conversation but he still wants to be w me. As long as he knows I'm not the average crazy looking girl I'm just crazy bout him and that's where all of this is coming from, then I'll be satisfied. So hopefully if I let him know about that, then hell understand and not run away from me and hell be back w the person he liked in the first place

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    Uhh, you feel way more strongly for him than he does for you, possibly. It could also be that he just doesn't show affection, like, it's not a part of his personality. I have been on the receiving end of this enough times to know, he might feel the same but just not express it so freely. I USED to be the kind of person to do that but not so much anymore, just due to having had such poor results...

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    80% of guys like the chase. 20% of guys don't and never will like it.

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    • blacklady
      9 years ago

      my nipples leak the most pure excrement would you like a taste

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      • sexysonofsam
        9 years ago

        Only if you are pregnant...

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