Why do bridal sales people feel its ok to lie to heavy women.

I am going to be a new bride, I also am a petite heavy woman. I went into a bridal shop and just seeing the dresses was overwhelming,but when my maid of honor was with me and had me try on the dresses, I looked in the mirror and the so called styles they had in stock just made me look like the good year blimp. The sales lady kept telling me I looked so nice in the gowns, but after the fifth dress I told her that she was full of bull, and that these dresses just made me look even bigger. Even if you tailor the dress to fit a larger woman, she is not necessarily going to like the way she looks in it especially in a wedding photo. So why lie to a large woman when she asks for the truth?
After that, I quit trying on the dresses, because I felt like I was going to have to be dressed by Omar the tent maker. To make the matter worse, my maid of honor told me the same thing. Heck, just wearing the bustier made my boobs go up towards my chin, and you could literally rest your beer mug on my chest. I couldn't even see my feet. That isn't the way I wanted to look.

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  • BfingIToucher

    Here are my thoughts:
    1) They are trying to sell a dress.
    2) They don't want to hurt your feelings by being too blunt. Seriously, if you were the salesperson, I can't imagine you'd be brutally honest either.
    Or 3) you may actually look nice. You are your own worst critic, right?

    I can imagine the frustration you are feeling, though. It's a lot of pressure planning a wedding and being the center of attention. Wedding dresses, specifically, run so small, and it's quite a blow to the ego for an average-sized woman. Only do what you feel comfortable with. If a traditional dress is a must, perhaps find a pattern and seek out a tailor?

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  • chocolatequirk

    Simple-lose weight ,then everyone is happy -your choosing to be a fat woman living a fat life!!

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  • KacyWatson

    Money

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  • boobookittyfuk

    Petite-heavy woman....oxymoron?

    Anyways, sorry about your wedding dress drama. It's very stressful looking for a dress. I wouldn't depend on the sales lady for an honest answer, she's just trying to sell you a dress. If I want an honest opinion, I'll take my mother, lol. I actually went wedding dress shopping on my own because I didn't want input from anyone. I wanted to get the dressed I loved. You obviously knew what looked bad, so who cares what anyone else thinks. Not a lot of people have that quality. I see plenty of large women in halter tops and booty shorts and wonder if they see the same thing I'm looking at when they look in the mirror. Good luck and congratulations!

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    • RosesAndRavens158

      petite is not only weight it has to do with height as well....

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  • Avant-Garde

    Sales people will say anything to make a sale. If the dress is too tight, they'll keep getting bigger sizes that up the price up more. If you have The money, it's best for you to find a designer to customise one for you.

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  • Lynxikat

    I think they were just trying to sell the dress. I want to say not to take it seriously, because they're sales people... but honestly, I can see why you're annoyed.

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  • Pendletongurl

    Don't get me wrong. There are heavy women out there that are confident about their looks, and don't mind the extra padding, but I was never one of them. I couldn't see myself going through trying on any more dresses,they were not going to do a thing for me. Funny, my fiance loves me with my curves, but I have had body issues for a long time, recognize them for what they are. And I will continue to search until I can find a dress that I can look at 20 years from now and say, I had a lot of nerve to wear that, but it was worth it.

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