Why do boys and girls drift apart during puberty?

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I'm 18, and my little sister is about 14. She asked me to put this up on here to get everyone's opinions... Other then her older sister's. As far as I know, throughout her entire life, my little sis's friends have always been boys. When she was younger... It was because girls had too much "drama", but as I watch her get older, it's because they protect her, and she is extremely close to all of them. She is often confused about why they all seem to have become distant, and why she always feels like they are ignoring her. I know she loves them all very much, and they don't know how much they hurt her. If you have any advice... I would be very grateful.

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    Depends on how distant they have become

    Not speaking to her for what, 1 day? 7 days?

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  • rose_ambroz
    7 years ago

    I think guys around that age need guy time :)

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  • Tempest-au
    7 years ago

    Your sister is in a terrible spot. She looks at her friends as brothers, and her friends look to her as a sister.

    Now they are getting older, the guys are off to do what 14 year old guys do - you know, hang around in groups watching porn and bragging about their imaginary conquests - not the kind of thing you want your sister involved with... unless you are also a user of IIN ('cause we get all the open minded people).

    Short of developing a keen interest in monster trucks and shouting her mates tickets, sadly I think she might just have to wait a few years until they grow up a bit.

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  • _Jesus_
    7 years ago

    Guys are the worst kind of friend because as soon as they start to get girlfriends they forget about their friends.

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  • Cocomilktitties
    7 years ago

    I think that at that age, a lot of things start to happen for guys. First of all, there is more pressure for guys to be "cool". More peer pressure to do certain things and become one of "the guys". So I think they probably start hanging out with their "bros" more because they feel like they need to start growing up.

    I also think that that's about the age where a lot of guys really start to get feelings for girls and stuff and especially sexual feelings. It could be a little weird for them if maybe they're a little confused about how they feel about her. Maybe they still like her friendship and stuff, but maybe they've started to feel other things that either make them feel shy, insecure, or confused. It could also be that they are focused on other girls they have crushes on or something and it kind of takes away from their friendships.

    But I think it's probably mostly that "growing up" phase that guys go through where they want to start doing all kinds of "cool" stuff with their "bros" and they maybe aren't trying to exclude her, but it just winds up being that way because they are busy hanging with their "bros".

    I think that if she just told them how she feels about it, that might really help. I know it sounds kinda corny, but I don't think they are trying to make her feel that way. They might not realize that they have been drifting apart and if she told them how she feels, it might make them realize.

    Like I said, they are probably just side tracked with their typical teenage guy stuff and maybe haven't realized that they drifted.

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