Why did she pretend to care/love me?

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I was really close with someone.
She meant the world to me and I happened to develop strong feelings for her. I'm female and falling for someone of the same gender was a first for me.
I had known her for about 4 yrs roughly and our friendship was on and off. She left to live with a low life of a bf. When I went to stay with her/reconnect after not being friends for ages due to a fall out, she explained that we once had a connection on the beach that day years ago and how it was amazing how she dreamt of me 2 weeks before I got in touch with her. We hugged and she told me she loves me heaps.
Now to try cut it short, she comes all the way up to where I live to specifically go to a friends birthday party and flings me off as just another person to hang out with. I was hurt at this notion. Not only that , but she does it twice in a year and even hardly contacts me. I was the one almost always making initial contact.
Why did she lie that day? She seemed as if I really meant something to her like how lucky she felt to have me back in her life and sentimental cute things like she still has that blanket I gave her & sleeps with it every night implying I mean something...?

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Your heading is a classic example of "begging the question" - ie, the question contains an assumption you're not questioning.

    You're assuming she lied to you when it's far more likely she's confused or her feelings have changed. Have you tried asking her? You're more likely to find out from her rather than from us, we don't know what she's feeling for you

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  • Ebolohammeh
    8 years ago

    Such pitifully useless emotions...it's illogical and irrational. Pity and compassion are products of the weak and faulty human heart.

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  • jethro
    8 years ago

    I quit trying to figure out women a long time ago. What you are experiencing happens to most guys all the time. I think it is in their genetic make up to be confusing and have an irrational behavior. Either it will work or it won't. Don't try to use rational thought to figure out what or why. I would just move on with your live and quit worrying about one woman.

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  • flyingn0stalgia
    8 years ago

    woman + woman is not real love. it's either lust or just friendship, in which case maybe you're too clingy.

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago

      What bullshit! I can assure it IS real love just as often as it is between 2 men or a man and a woman or for that matter, a group of people in a polyamorous arrangement.

      Sometimes it is only lust or an extension of friendship, but it can definitely be real love.

      If you haven't tried, it, how do you know?

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      • Ebolohammeh
        8 years ago

        Ha!

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    Whatever it is she doesn't deserve you because she obviously takes you for granted. It's not your fault.

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