Why cant my sister take my advice

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Okay, Im an 18 year old female, and take alot of pride in my appearance. I dont go overboard or buy expensive clothes, but i always make sure that whatever i put on looks good and that my hair and makeup looks clean and fresh. Looks really don't play a big part in my life, but i do think it is essential to take care of yourself. Now I have a 16 year old sister, who actually looks alot like me,but no one would know that because she refuses to take care of herself. She doesnt wash her face, she will go to sleep in her makeup and its creating an acne problem for her. She wont cut her hair and it has become really dry and dead-looking. Instead of washing her clothes, she just re-wears them, which creates a subtle B.O smell. Her toenails are always long and have dirt under them and she rarely brushes her teeth. She doesnt do her eyebrows and shaves her legs almost never. She could be really pretty if she would just take my advice or follow the things that i do to take care of myself. People always talk about her to me, and i actually feel bad for her. But, its starting to make me mad, because she is creating this problem for herself.

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  • Mel
    13 years ago

    What are you afraid shes gonna make YOU look bad or embarrass YOU. Stop thinking that she needs to do things your way. Maybe she doesnt want to, or doesnt care about appearance. Sounds like you care enough for the both of you. Leave her alone, she'll do what she wants reguardless of what you think. I dont mean to sound extremely bitchy or rude, but I just get the impression its more about how her appearance makes YOU feel & not how she feels.

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  • robbieforgotpw
    10 years ago

    She likes to look frumpy just let her

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  • wearydutch
    13 years ago

    I firstly think she should do whatever she feels like doing. Secondly don't worry too much people will change their attitudes about these sort of things many times. Unless she's destined to become a creepy cat lady. Notorious in not taking advice, those.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    She is her own person not a mini-you so ignore it or get used to it

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  • ttty
    13 years ago

    It's difficult, maybe even impossible to get people to change if they don't want to. And it seems that she, maybe becuase of depression, social ills, or general apathy hasn't learned to care about caring for herself. She may nit wven realize that she's pretty. The only way I can think to fix this is to pull a makeover and let her experience how people will treat her if she is well dressed and prettified. Maybe shell like it, but she may also retreat into her messy shell and the comfort of what identity her sloppiness provides. Otherwise, it's just going to take time. Some people stay slobs forever but plenty learn to dress themselves in time.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    U shld offer to have a spa night and do her hair and nails for her. Buy her some facewash and insist tht she wash her clothes and cut her hair. And ask her if she's alright caz just because someones bubbly doesn't mean there happy. I feel depressed but I don't let it show when I'm around my friends or family. But sometime s my hidden fascades show through to my eyes and u know I'm deeply upset.

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  • sherry
    13 years ago

    My niece is the same way. She's not depressed she just doesn't care.

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  • mechell
    13 years ago

    You should have a girls night and give her a make over and then in a nice way tell her how to fix these problems. It's worth it to have that close relationship with your sister intact and that will help you see clues that might mean other things are wrong. if u think that then you should get her some help. I would do that for my little sisters. and sometimes it could be a faze. My sis went through something like this. She cleans herself now. Good luck

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    What's important to you is not important to everyone else. She is her own person and you should let her be. Maybe this is her way of being different from you!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Ooo well then idk! I guess she could just be pretending but maybe she's just lazy :P

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    i used to think its depression, but she has done this ever since she has hit puberty. and shes always really bubbly which leads me to think shes just lazy and not depressed.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Wow did you know that's a sign of depression? Especially since she's a teen. You should ask her if she's ok cuz I know for a fact if she's not feeling right you telling her she needs to change her clothes makes her feel worse

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