Why cant i get a boyfriend?

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This is a vicious cycle! I have been in a relationship in the past but it was an embarrassing high school immature relationship that was long distance. My very first boyfriend dumped me because he found out that I was lame and weird. I was sought after by guys but I could never keep him around long. Around the time I started in college, guys would pretty much only approach me just for my body and for sex. (still a virgin) once I think I found someone its always "I don't want a relationship" or "not looking for anything" but yet they are going out on dates so they obviously just don't want a relationship with ME. I have prayed, read books, and currently trying the law of attraction thing to better my relationships. I feel like I am too weird or too shy when it comes to guys. Im totally fine friendship wise and pretty outgoing around people (I'm in a sorority) however when it comes to men I get this anxiety that most likely gives off the wrong impression as well as bad vibes. :(

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    What's so lame and weird about you, girl? I know I might sound like I am trivializing your plight, but don't waste too much time on this bullshit. Your in college so study hard, and try to make your dreams come true, or least try to meet your goals.

    At least you know when is some asshole in only interested in one thing which puts you ahead of the pack in my opinion! People who are relationship material don't grow on trees. Just do yo thang, girl, and don't compare yourself too much to other people. Love and accept yourself as you are!

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    • redrainbow22
      6 years ago

      Very well said :)

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        Thanks!
        :-)

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        • McBean
          6 years ago

          Hmmmmmm. That's good advice but it doesn't tell her how to start making social progress with men. Being a man, I will say this. Step 1. Get comfortable in your skin. YouTube has videos about this. You can do it. It won't be easy.

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          • RoseIsabella
            6 years ago

            I dunno, I tend to think that OP, and folks like her probably compare themselves to their peers way too much.

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            • McBean
              6 years ago

              Except everybody gives off vibes. The most comforting vibes for a man to initially receive from a woman are kind of an "acceptance of sensuality". This will be interpreted differently by women than men. In other words, neither you nor the OP will really know what I mean. So play along with my suggestion, watch a video or two, and then your feminine interpretation will be aligned with my comment.

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    • Jlowkey15
      6 years ago

      Thank you!

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        You're very welcome!

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  • Jonniebonnire
    6 years ago

    Nah, you probably have bad luck, and getting all the guys that have opposite intersts or something like that.
    But hey, your just like me, maybe. Im only in highschool, but i have never been asked out before, i even posted a similar post about this. Maybe its because girls have different intersts at my school, or maybe im just not good enough. Idk

    I dont really want one anyways, they probably will dump me anyways...
    Im always boring. I dont know what to say to people, im wierd kinda. I just dont think they will like me and my intersts. I would rather be alone in life. I dont like children anyways, not saying that I would plan to have children right when i get into a relationship, its just that
    I normally think of what my future may hold, and many people end up having children. I cant stand them, in my opinion they are annoying, loud, cringy. But i admit they can be "cute". And they are frustrating.

    And plus, i always end up failing.

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    • Jlowkey15
      6 years ago

      Worst advice ever and does not make me feel better nor does it help me in any way. sorry

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    I personally always wanted relationships, but also simple sex with no obligations. These are always in conflict for me. I broke up with two girlfriends for the following reasons:
    The first one: Although lovely girl with a lot of compassion and a very strong sense of decency, she refused sexuality in any other way than sex. No foreplay, no sexy stories, no nudes, no intimate play. Just traditional simple sex. And that was terrible, she was lying there as a dead fish. I can't tolerate this, I got a huge sex drive and it's a nightmare
    2) A complete whore who would love me only for my money and abuse me in any way, by threatening to cheat on me, leave me or argue with me for not doing everything she fucking wanted. The shortest relationship I've ever had and I'll never do it again.

    If you don't have these kind of problems and you're a "good" girl, it means that you don't have a problem, but people around you have a problem, and you must look in other places, rather than working on your own personality.

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    A lack of confidence/social skill is a gamebreaker...for guys. You're a girl. Keep your weight down, wear some makeup, and go outside.

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