Why can't women accept me?

It sounds like your saying you want someone who is content to give love to someone with no desire to give it back and who will tolerate being mentally stuck in the mire of humdrum life as it were, that will not happen, if you want a mate you have to change

You sound exactly like my ex-boyfriend. Is your name Jared? ;)
I can't believe nobody else mentioned this, but it sounds to me 100%% that you suffer from depression. I have studied depression immensely, in two psych classes so far, and mostly because I used to be in the "red zone" of severe depression. I was prescribed Prozac, a psychiatrist; all the trimmings. After a while, I stopped that charade and took matters into my own hands... I got a job that I love where I socialize every day, made new friends, go out every other weekend to the movies or something, started honing my artistic skills and earning my keep. One of the biggest things that changed my life was dropping my religion. I think that has most effected me and made me a better person, and I have a good attitude about every day now.

I believe what it boils down to is this: first, you need to start talking to a professional in the psych field, and find out what you feel is wrong or missing in your life and summon the courage to change it. If you live in the darkness your whole life, you'll never ever be happy. Force yourself to talk to a pro.

And contrary to popular belief and Hollywood hype, you do not need a mate to be happy. It's a widespread misconception and I would even go as far as calling it "inane hocus pocus". You do NOT need kids (or animals) to be happy. It is mass media brainwash (or at least hogwash) and it furthers the ignorance of the country.

Like I said, come to terms what you feel you need and look for IT (not anything like it, but IT). Get brave enough to do it. Nobody else is going to decide for you what you want or need, you have to do it yourself.

Do you WANT kids? Do you WANT to get married? Do you WANT to be gay? Do you WANT to shop at Ikea? Do you WANT to care about the economy or the environment or human rights or animal rights? Do you WANT to invest in the stock market? All of these things are up to YOU.

And you say you don't want confidence and that you want to stay with your 'realization'. Are you happy that way? It doesn't sound like it to me. Force change and start talking to a pro... You can even check to see if your health insurance provider will pay for it (mine did).

I hope you come to terms with yourself and realize what you really need to do! :)

is this for real??! find a religious girl who embraces abstinence. or, a conservative girl who believe pre-marital sex is wrong. me myself was raised in a culture that against pre-marital sex, so my concern is how to find a guy who's willing to hold off sex before marriage. you are a rare one dude.

why can't a straight man like me meet a woman to accept me for who i am? there are so many low life loser women today that go after the loser low life guys, and especially if they have a very large bank account. that just show me how many stupid women that exist today, and GOD forbid if they can accept a good serious, down to earth man, that is looking for love again like me. many women are so very uneducated these days, and years ago they accepted their men even though they did not have a lot of money and were very committed too. now that we have so many women into other women nowadays, well that certainly adds to the problem.

If you get to have sex in hell, well... Damn!

That's all great..if you choose not to have sex. But consider the partner you choose. She may want sex at some point in your relationship (even if it is many years into it). It is an option you should keep open, even if you are the utmost selective man when making the decision on who to have sex with. You say you want this person to be there for you, you need to be there 100% for her as well--sex is a natural part of life...it is REQUIRED for a species to continue. I honor your decision, but I feel it is very narrowminded to exclude such a very important & extremely meaningful act from your lifestyle.

If you wish to be gay then why don't you just be gay.

get a dog...... jesus

Honestly, I am rather moody as my studying is behind and I have a test tomorrow night.
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Please excuse my comments, it is how I FEEL and not based upon ANY fact. I am not going to read the comments above either so piss off if I am ranting over a road already ranted over.
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Women know damn well we as men want sex. However, they act like they don't but they do. As men in general will sleep with almost anything as long as it is toward an equal with ourselves, women will not.

They in general (My opinion) will fight tooth and nail for those ten guys who are the hottest and leave poor guys like you or I out to the curb. (I was fat in HS) They lie and swindle but in no way do they care about how the guy treats them or that he has a good heart. (Proof, why the fuck do they keep picking jerks or dumbER athletes but leave the nice guys or chessclub players alone?)

It is not far that the more attractive guys get more women while those who will CHANGE the world do not. Do you think Bill Gates was sworming with women in high school or shoved into a locker? And if you think the locker like I do, do you think the asshole who did it is successful or working at Jiffy Lube still?

Women, honestly. You complain all the god damn time on how guys treat you like shit and how he is cheap and hates your family, but you leave the nice guys completely alone to date those assholes because they tingle your 'flower' more.

Seriously, the guy above will bend over backwards to make you happy and bust his butt to see you smile, yet you still will leave him alone to go to the quarterback of the second string first. (I'm not a jock so whatever they hell that means.)

The problem is women --- THERE, SOMEBODY SAID IT!!!!

exactly the same shit here man

i don't have no sexual desires straight off when i meet or want to meet them but just want that perfect girl who'd love me for i what i am and be loyal as i would be to her for eternity

Well you just sound all bummed out - maybe depressed as someone pointed out - and you're over-thinking the issue of romance/sex sounds really confused and self-contradictory to me.

You have a girl friend - maybe ask her if there is something you are doing to turn women off.

Thats assuming you are actually DOING something to meet women (introducing yourself, asking for dates, going to dances, whatever, etc.), and not just sitting on your arse DOING nothing but ruminating and getting bummed out.

Guys like you.. should be normal.. But, it's a shame that nowadays many things that are extremely wrong and nonsense seem normal to ppl of our "Generation". It upsets me but, a post like this brings a smile on my face :) [Sorry to say that.. cause it should be depressing for u]

Don't worry .. You're perfectly normal and Hopefully, you're going to find someone who's mentally healthy like u

i feel the same way, seems like women are to shallow and judge you entirely on sex kinda makes me mad.....

Dont give up dude!!

I agree, and totally understand where you're coming from. Its hard to find true love today because it's been redefined. People seem to believe that love cant exist without sex which is completely backwards. Sex is a temporary pleasure, love is more "permanent"..more stable, I understand your want for love. I'm the same way..18, abstinent, & could care less about sex. I prefer the stability & assurance that you can only get with love.

My advice: Be patient. Especially if you're young. Because with a more mature view on love, you might have to wait. I believe that they people around us with the opposite view on love & sex will eventually mature (some of them)and develop a deeper view on love, you know? And at that time you'll both be ready to love. But I could be wrong...but its easier to think of it that way & worth the wait.

i know a lot of people are going to disagree with me here, but romantic love is overrated. the love of a true friend who really loves you for you, and not for what you do for them (i.e. romantic love - not being alone) is far more valuable to me.

think about it; when you're "in love" romantically, you want the other person to be yours so to speak. do you still feel happy and in love with a person when they start dating someone else? you might still be in love with them, but it tears at you. it is a far more selfish love than loving someone as a person.

it sounds to me like you have that kind of love from your best friend who loves you for you, and not for selfish reasons. if you really don't want sex, then you're perfect where you're at right now :-)

You're 22 and you have already decided to be a bachelor for the rest of your life? What the hell are you thinking? Were you even being rational when you made this decision? You're still too young to give up. Give it a bit more time and you will find a woman mature enough to accept you the way you are.

How do expect women to understand if you don't tell them about this? You need to talk to them about it. If they're your real friends they'll understand. Communicaion is KEY.

For generations the women on my mothers side have felt the same way about sex. But, not wanting to grow old alone they succumbed to their partner's wishes. Sex disgusts me. Everyone keeps saying it's natural to want sex, I say it is natural for some to not want it. As a matter of fact quite a lot of people don't want it. It's called asexuality. If you are scared of growing old alone, but you are not inclined to have sex, then I suggest you google asexual dating in or close to your area. It's becoming more and more common. Good Luck.

Get a clue! He said he doesn't want sex (with a woman) AT ALL... Then he said that being gay would give him more options.

Maybe this guy IS gay?

women these days have grown to think if a guy likes them, he will want to have sex with them. Find a mature woman that respects your decision and morals. They all probably think, oh he doesn't want to have sex with me.. he must not like me or think i 'm attractive.

Maybe you just want a special friend? Someone to always be there like a net. You are a weird one that i'll say. I mean i guess you should express your feelings to the women you date. Not in a wussy sissy kind of way. Look them in the eyes, and tell them that you want this relationship to grow to its fullest before sex. That way it will be special. Or sumthing like that. I don't think you can completely hate sex, can you?

Well, love won't show itself. You have to find it, and it seems that you have. Like laurabot said, if you tell them you don't want to have sex, they probably think you don't like them. Many women don't want to have sex, but if you tell them that you don't, be sure and tell them that it's your values and not that you don't like her.

Love exists (here I smile, thinking of my girlfriend ^_^). Don't shut your eyes on it, or you won't find it.