Why can't i walk away when i know it's wrong?

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Let me start by saying that I am newly seperated from my husband of 17yrs and now am a single Mom to 4 beautiful children. I met this Man shortly after my seperation who appeared to be all kind's of wonderful. It was very casual in the beginning(we went out once a week) he told me things that I have waited my whole life to hear.. however, as time went on I found out(from him) that he has major commitment issue's. he dates 2-3 women at a time for a few month's and move's on(he is 43 and has been doing this since he was a teenager)however, he doesn't sleep with any of them and this is how he justifies his behavior. we are still playing this game and I have tried to walk away a few times and it just never seems to work out. He has recently told me that he "loves" me and I have such strong feeling's for him that it scare's me!! it will NEVER work out and I know this but I can't seem to let go and I need advice on how to walk away and realize that i will never have the fantasy that I have created over the last 10 months....
Sad and Sooo Confused!

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  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago

    Im with Pearson on this one, i vote rebound. and to end it and try again.

    its not the easy choice, but then if it was easy you wouldn't have asked.

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  • chaosdragoon1
    12 years ago

    Don't be afraid to try and love again.

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  • Pearsonz
    12 years ago

    It's the first guy since your husband that has given you the time of day or been nice to you. Re bound is the worst thing.. You feel like you love the person.. Even though you dont.

    You should leave before you realize that you don't actually love him (and he's an asshole) feelings are multiplied after upset or new feelings such as freedom after 17 years of marriage.

    I would get away quickly. Also one of the reasons why he treats women the way is does may lie with a similar situation (getting his heart broken when he was 17)

    Good luck and would love to hear an update on what happens.

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  • Username7
    12 years ago

    Ok I think you should know that the chances of him not sleeping with any of the girls he is dating is pretty much zero.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    Despite him saying that he loves you, he doesn't sound like he knows what he wants. And for a 43 year old, I find that to be a little weird. But you've already said it yourself, it probably isn't gonna work. If this guy flits from one woman to another, not settling down, his fear is commitment. You're still "playing this game". Talk to him about it. Tell him that you're sick of playing games. Explain to him that it's not high school anymore, and if he truly loves you, and wants a relationship with you, he has to step up and cut the shit or else you're out, completely! As for walking away, you can't do much, but try to wash away any hope that you had of you two "making it", and don't go out of your way to build a relationship with him anymore.

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