Why can't i get feelings for anyone?

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I simply cannot get romantic feelings for anyone. Sounds crazy, but.. Whenever I meet someone, and get to know them, and they will like me a LOT, but... I don't. And this has happened to every single person I've ever talked to, ever. It's weird. And I will like someone for at the most three days before I can't stand them anymore. I dated a boy for three years, I never actually felt anything around him, I mean sure I cared about him and loved him or whatever. But I don't know. I broke up with him last September and I am now absolutly repulsed by him, so it couldn't be that I'm not over him.
There is one person though, my best friend for four years, that I do have feelings for. But the thing is, I only have those feelings when I'm talking to him on the phone. As soon as I see him in person, I don't like him anymore, I only see him as a friend. I don't know what's going on with that.. Is it normal?
And no, I'm not a lesbian. lol.

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  • Blissical
    14 years ago

    LOL sounds like me there, only ...i like them when they arent there, as soon as the are with me I dont.

    I think the solution is to find someone who is amazingly attractive to you, that you want to touch them or whatever but they also dont feel as strongly about you as you do about them, kind of like hard to get. That might keep you interested as youll try to get them, it doesnt work for me though =[[, maybe itll work for you.

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  • iHatemF
    14 years ago

    I can somewhat relate to this. You may have experienced a more intense romance or have gotten knowledge of it, making normal relationship lacking. Or it's just all due to your personality, you might be the type to be friendly to others more than flirty. That, or you're just using males.

    Hope not.

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  • forevaeva4
    14 years ago

    I know exactly how you feel!- I thought i was being a bitch, and my friends tell me i'm too picky but its not us its our heart and our mind a tad that just cant seem to latch on to anyone. i think you just have not found the right one yet. Don't think too much about it, Live life, enjoy it alone and before you know it you'll find someone that will catch your heart. Its no biggie

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  • itsthetooth
    14 years ago

    I think we all have a lot of these issues, it seems like yours might be accelerated a tad. I think of it as an ability to find anything wrong or anything you don't like about someone as soon as possible. It's a dilemma for sure on one hand because you could quickly become a very lonely person in life. As much as I want to tell you to not do that, the fact is that usually when we dislike or find things wrong with others we are usually right. It also depends on what the issues are, if someone squeezing the toothpaste in the middle is setting you off, maybe you need to control your self on this. Since I'm older I can tell you from experience that judging people to the degree you are may not be in your best interest. You need to learn to accept peeps the way they are and learn to get over being repulsed. I can kind of side with you on not getting romantic, it can lead to sex, and kissing and to some this whole thing can be gross. The fact is, it can be gross. Your going to have to train your mind to understand that its natural, its a part of life, and hey, it feels good too, so maybe get over it. Put some thought into it, maybe these guys don’t use underarm deodorant or floss and you just haven't pin pointed that yet. Give it some thought. If that’s the case then its not your fault. I myself am very sensitive to those types of things and get grossed out easily.

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