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Why are there more black men with white women, than white men with black women? Sure, I know there are plenty of white guy/black girl couples out there, but there NONETHELESS seem to be way more black guy/white girl couples out there. Why?
Because the media relentlessly promotes and encourages one, but not the other.
Put simply, people do what they perceive as being fashionable.
I don't know but I'm a black woman..girl?...woman..girl..hm..woman in this conversation since 18 is pretty much an adult even if the brain doesn't fully develop until the late twenties I think.. and I like all guys; I have a thing for Asian guys 80% of the time though.. I honestly think it's because I'd watch anime on adult swim and on demand as a toddler, and when I was 12 I had a crush on that Korean preacher I saw on television...
I don't know. If it's statistically true, it's probably some cultural representation of black men that makes them seem strong and authoritative and sexually powerful, which are seen as sexually attractive traits. The cultural representation of black women is either as independently single and uninterested in male companionship or completely unempowered and without identity, which are seen as unattractive traits. Conversely, white women and white men have attractive cultural representations. It's the unattractive cultural representation of "women of colour" (a phrase I hate, but oh well) that leads to fewer white men being receptive to relationships with them, causing the difference in numbers you notice.
That's my hypothesis. It could really have been summed up in shuggy's answer, but I thought I'd give it more sociology :P And I should add the disclaimer that cultural representations are almost universally bullshit :P
You seem to operating under the assumption that black women are less often married to white men primarily due to the attitudes of white men. I would say that the opposite scenario is far more likely based on statistical evidence.
Black women are one of the demographics in America least likely to have an interracial marriage of any type. Whereas this is not true of white men, who are at the other end of the spectrum. It seems statistics would point to it being the attitude of black women that is the predominate factor in them avoiding any kind of interracial relationship rather than the opposite you propose.
Given this, I think your idea is just representative of a hackneyed bias rather than being based on factual evidence.
I'm not operating under any assumption but that which I've determined logically.
The unattractive cultural representations of black women are perceived by men of all races, not just white men, so your statistical evidence could be said to actually *support* my hypothesis since it's what the idea would have predicted. Black women have an unattractive cultural representation to men of all racial groups, not just white men, so of course they too will be less likely to be receptive to a relationship with a black woman too. It's not the attitudes of white men but the social attitudes, which become the attitudes of many men of any race. This doesn't apply to black men, probably because they do not hold this cultural representation due to their black female family members, making black men the most receptive group to black women leading to far more marriages between those groups.
"The unattractive cultural representations of black women are perceived by men of all races"
I can see your point now but I just don't see this unattractive cultural representation you talk about. While I could agree that black men in popular media often get cast in certain stereotypical roles, I just don't haven't seen the negative representation of black women that you do.
I'm not saying it is necessarily not there (I might just not watch TV enough) but I'm not seeing it. When I think of black women on TV, I think Tyra Banks, Oprah and Michelle Obama just off the top of my head. Can you give an example of what you mean?
The cultural representation isn't something I feel personally either, but I think that's because you and I aim to be active and objective cultural observers and we are able to by and large see past cultural representations. I think most people don't engage in observing society, and do internalise these representations if only subconsciously.
And, also like you, I don't watch the sort of TV and films that reflect those representations. However, while I hate using links to make my points for me, I'll use this link features a lot of media examples of the sort of depiction I'm talking about: http://bitchmagazine.org/post/six-annoying-women-character-tropes-in-black-romantic-comedies I'm only linking to that article for its examples, not it's assertions. I don't think the stereotype categories it names are perfect - some of them overlap and I don't think the list is exhaustive. I also think white women can often be placed in those categories, but less often and I think there are other more positive stereotypes which apply to them in addition to these. So the article itself may be flawed, but I think the examples are good.
The article also links to an essay which I've skimmed and I believe holds some academic value, but it's feminist and I think we've rather talked feminism to death already :P
I'll give the other common example of black women in music videos. They're often hyper-sexualised and removed of any distinct identity - you often see these rows of black female backing dancers who are identically dressed and who have no obvious role other than to be ornaments. It's much rarer to see white women cast in that sort of role.
I also accept that empowered, strong black women do exist. However, I don't think that necessarily combats my point. As far as I know, neither Oprah or Michelle Obama are commonly thought of as "attractive" since they present themselves asexually, uninterested in male companionship (despite the fact they both have very long and committed relationships). Tyra Banks is seen as attractive, and I would argue this is because she is an anomaly in that she's played a wide range of roles including herself which allow her to express multiple personality traits and make her seem more like a real person, breaking the stereotype.
Black women are the least likely to marry outside their race. So it would come down to some form of racism held by African American women in America.
Black men like white women because it makes them feel superior like they are getting away with something like fucking the master's wife. What they don't understand is that only white sluts with low self esteem fuck black men.
It's a dumb cultural thing. The same thing is probably not true in many many other places in the world.