Why are teens and young people so rude to thier parents (mother) ?

Why should I not treat my mom the way she treats me?
My mom hits me. If I block her hits, she gets even more mad and throws things at me. Just yesterday, I blocked her from punching and kicking me and what did I get? A chair thrown into my chest. Now I've got a huge bruise across my neck and chest. And I was actually trying to be nice yesterday.
"Here mom, let me take your purse and workbag for you. Here mom, I have dinner on the table for you. Here mom, I cleaned every room in the house for you because you're a f***ing lazy c***."
So, I don't know what the cause of me treating my mom like shit is for. She doesn't love me, she only loves that I act like her personal helper monkey slave. It's probable that having helper monkey slaves was the only reason she had kids.
She calls me fat on a daily basis, and only recently stopped starving me. Only, I won't eat the food she offers me because it's probably poisoned. Last week I ate my first meal that came out of her paycheck since last year. I got really sick and I was throwing up all over the place. She forced me to go to school anyways, and they couldn't send me home because she refused to pick me up. I even heard her laughing on the phone with my nurse. *smh*
Does she sound like a saint to you?
I only live with her til I finish school. I leave then though, because I'd rather be homeless with my three cats and dog than be in her house any longer.
Btw, the reason I have so many pets is because they keep me from killing myself. Whenever I think of committing suicide, I ask myself, "What will happen to your babies?"
:/

This is silly; all of the poll options make the assumption that teenagers are rude to their parents/whatever in some capacity. Wah.

I was only rude when they were rude to me.

They always blame the child. No one ever asks why the parents are so rude to their kids, huh?

My mom over reacts to the simplest of things and blows it way out of context. I like to go over to my grandparents house for the weekend. She told me I couldn't go over earlier that weak, so I asked her again and she said yes. Usually when I ask it's for the whole weekend so that's how long I planned to stay. She called me the next day and started ranting at me about how I was taking advantage of the situation. Another time I was grounded, she took away my laptop and I said 'ok'. It won't kill me to not have my laptop. She thought I was giving her attitude so she slapped me. I'm an easy going person, I knew what I said to get grounded was wrong so I was going to give it to her. I knew what I was being punished for. Either way my mom sees attitude in almost everything I do.

I am 17, and i am sometimes rude to my mum, but i don't realise untill about 10 minutes after

i feel my mum always invades my space and wants to know what i am doing and it makes me feel like a child, so i shout at her, but in general we have a good realationship.

if we are talking 12-14 year olds, they are rude because they are idiots and they always think they're right, but this is normal, i disagree but my mum tells me i used to be like this, but weren't we all?

I love how you assume that all teens are rude to their parents. I don't get along that great with my dad but I get along amazing with my mom and they don't give me eveything I want, I paid for my own cell phone and my own camera, if I want something I can't just get it at the press of a button, I have to save up for it, or if I may ask for it for a birthday of christmas. I think people generalize teenagers all into this group of being immature, rude and trouble makers but not everyone is. You can be in your 40's and be rude and be 16 and be the nicest person ever age doesn't have a thing to do with it. It's more about how you were brought up.

because they have so much anger being thrown into this world that no one can understand. its unjust and they haven't learned to cope yet. they feel trapped and angry because they can't change it. not to mention school pressures, getting good grades, popularity, getting a job, sports, etc... they have no where to express their anger, and haven't accepted the unfair facts of life yet- the bitter understanding that comes with age and tiredness after all the years. they express their anxiety on you, their mother, because they know that you will always love them. if they took it out on their friends, they would loose them. but their mother is forced to love them always.

Because my mother was rude to me all my life. I was raised with cursing,insulting and yelling. And then comes a time when i was older enough to stand up to her because i wanted to be treated better...That didn't worked out. I ran out from home at 16. And the story is wayyy too long to explain.

Warped Oedipus complex.

Whoah, whoah, whoah, whoah... whoah. I'm a teen female and I love and appreciate my mother! This poll is slightly insulting, but yes, from a stereotypical perspective, it's because we're selfish with hormonal imbalances and get really annoyed at the littlest things sometimes. Also, it's because this generation has been raised to be more rude than previous generations.

I think that many parents now are unhappy with the discipline their parents gave them. They do not like that they had curfews or were forced to follow rules that they did not agree with so they think they are doing their kids a favor by being the "cool parents". I see a lot of compensation for what one lacked in their childhood in parents who have disrespectful kids that are not mentally challenged. That and what Joybird said. Great explanation.

As for me, I was disrespectful to my Mom because she beat me, let her friends disrespect me and let my father beat and sexually humiliate me as a child. While my sister and I were at home, scared for our lives and being mistreated by dear old Dad, she was out drinking and having fun with her friends. She'd come home and ask why my sister was passed out on the ground and why he was cleaning the carpet, why I was locked in my room with no sheets or furniture, huddled in a corner, begging God to kill me and he'd say "Because they were being disrespectful" and she'd just say "Ok I'm going to bed".

But when she heard about how other Mothers let their husbands/boyfriends do that to their kids, or the bad things that she did that other Mothers did to their kids (she liked to watch Dr. Phil, lol), she'd suddenly become an opinionated Christian "Oh how could anyone let their husband hurt their children like that! Some people just shouldn't have kids!". I didn't understand the notion that some people were just crazy as a kid, so I had a hard time showing her respect due to her behavior. I'm more respectful of her now, she has improved since Dad left (and learned that he's a lying prick). I didn't disrespect all adults, just her.

TL;DR the parents may look like they are great and awesome parents in public, which my parents did quite well (teachers tried to call Social Services on them but my parents were charmers), but I was also labeled as a "bad kid" as a child. If any of the adults in my life knew then what they do now, I guarantee that their opinions of me would have been a lot nicer.

Just giving you guys the flip side of the coin here.

Well, because teenagers nowadays have no respect for anyone. Even if you raise them to be respectful, decent human beings, they will still pick up habits from the bad ones.

Because of how they are raised i would say but sometimes it probadly also have to do with hormones and all the changes...

PSare the rod and we get generations of these behaviors. All children, regardless of their age, should have a healthy fear of their parents and elders. I still don't drink alcohol when my parents are around. When I smoked, I never did so in the presence of my parents. They call it respect I guess.

Sometimes we're selfish and take them for granted, but hopefully my mum knows I love and appreciate her ^__^

My son is 17 and I've never had problems with him. I always try give him what he wants, but in return I get respect, he is allowed to do pretty much as he likes with some boundaries. I can totally trust him with anything, he always helps with whatever I ask him. We still give each other a hug and say I love you without any weirdness. I can be so thankful that I have a good kid.

I think its because I'm selfish and self-centered. When I was a kid I was deprived of love. All I wanted was their love which I never got.. When I grew up my mother started showing "love" which I always thought was fake because she never took the time to care before. I think I know why though, after my dad left her I think she's afraid everyone is going to leave her so now shes kind of pleading with this "love" for me to stay and not leave her but every time I see it.. it makes my blood boil makes so angry and hurt inside.. and I end up being mean to her. I just dont want to ever talk to her anymore she hurt me so much... I want to be as far away from her as I can. I think thats why I'm so rude to my mother. I wish I had no feelings if I did I would have left long ago. I know It's selfish but thats how I am..

I don't think teens and parents sit down together and have enough discussions any more. They rarely even sit and eat together. So if one wants to talk to the other, they have to drag the other off their favourite type of screen, which annoys the second one.

A lot of mothers are working too so they are worn out by the time they get home, the teen can take advantage of this and browbeat them until they get what they want. They are also often taller and stronger than their mothers so won't tolerate any physical discipline. In my day we were beaten at school with metre sticks or rulers, and at home with a leather belt etc. nowadays, that's not allowed so teens can get away with no punishment.

Mothers love their kids and want them to have all the things that we didn't, and don't want their kids to feel deprived. Instead, their teens are spoiled with 'gadgets' and 'designer clothes' and are legitimately shocked when they have to fend for themselves - not good!

I've always believed in reverse psychology so mine believes he has to leave at 16 yo! The closer he's getting to that age - the nicer he's being :o)

Instant gratification. If a child demands something, he will usually like it to appear in the next second. Due to technology the coming generations are being spoiled and slowly losing their ability to be patient. In today's society everything has to happen fast, we want our things to come instantaneously. Thus, children don't feel the urge to wait for their parents reply, the only word they can hear is "yes." I think that if we give children less objects to desire, they'll treat their parents with more respect. Also, I know that bad parenting is also a factor in the bad behavior of children nowadays.