Why are parents so strict on manners?

my parents are the complete opposite i was never really taught manners but i was taught to be respectable
i think you need to just tell them to f*ck off and that your not a child any more

you need manners, everyone needs manners.

I have awful manners and believe me it cannot possibly bring you anywhere but UP to have been raised with good manners. It clearly gives you confidence in dealing with people you have never met before, and making a good impression in general.

If they're being strict out of vanity or as a power play however, then say it anyways and judge them later when you have your own life.

nothing wrong or old fashioned about manners if people today were brought up like are grandparents were the world would be a far better place

The reason why our world is going to shit is because NO ONE respects anyone these days. Be proud..you're not trash.

Thanks. It's good to know that I am not the only one who has to use good manners all the time.

Travis

I think your parents are wonderful for teaching you manners! My son is 3 years old and his first words were Please and Thank You when he was 1 year old! Ma'am and Sir are respectful and appropriate. What is the world coming to when people think it is wrong to use manners?

That's not normal

This is coming for a guy who is 17 and a junior in high school. Its a respect issue. Youd be amazed how far just a little respect in life will take you. People pay attention to stuff like that and it will pay off later in life. I dont care who it is any teacher or elder should always be yes sir or yes ma'am. I will feel bad when you go to your girlfriends house to meet her parents the first time, you will be in for something. Gain their trust through respect, and plus no girl wants to be with a disrespectful slob.

What has America, or even the world for that matter come to where its wrong to show respect to others or even yourself.

following orders has nothing to do with respect, it just shows only lack of free will and ability to think for yourself.
respect has to be mutual. when your parents call you sir or ma'am they can hope you will follow.
but just stop obeying will just cause conflicts. be prepared to explain your point of view and explain your reasons, listen to theirs, and most importantly; take responsibility for your actions, and you will earn respect.

and those who say good manners will take you far in life. sure, it is useful to know how to speak where. but this is simple manipulation and far from that "respect" the parents claim to teach you.

This would have been normal about 50 years ago!! i would just do what they want in front of them but be normal when they're not around

Some people are just like that. They want to raise you to be polite and have respect for authority, but it's a new day and age and you don't have to respond to EVERYONE like that. Try talking to them about it, maybe they'll understand.

Remember that they love you and they want what's best for you.

As irritating as it seems now, stick with it. Trust me, it really is something that will help you immensely in the future. There are so many rude and nasty people in the world. They are teaching you to be a diamond amongst a sea of shit.

General Colin Powell said, "Good manners will take you places that a good background [money, family], and good education cannot". or something like that. He is RIGHT. Even if you quit it at some point in your life, using manners at a young age [teen?] is highly unusual, will make ppl take notice, and will make you INSTANTLY more like-able than most punks- and make no mistake, even though I WAS one, I consider most kids now ill mannered punks. It is only when I get to know them on an individual basis and see past the smart ass crap that I like them. You have the advantage before they even get to know you. You will be hired first, trusted first, etc.

Wa wa wah. Your parents are trying to make you into a decent human being instead of a cretin like the rest of us. wa wa wah. Cry cry cry. God damn you must be privileged lol.

Are you Amish? This sounds like a Little House on the Prarie thing.

I think social protocols like that are weird and unnecessary. There's a difference between raising your kid to be a regular polite young person, and being a total Nazi about it. I mean, it's cool to teach kids to respond nicely. Yes ma'am and what-have-you is good, but if he gets super pissed when you don't, it sounds like he has personal problems and maybe needs to realize that there are things that are waaaay more important that petty formalities.

Manners are very important in today's society. I know so many dumb, "gimmegimmegimme" kids who grow up that way and just never change; although your sentiment is normal, it's kind of stupid and thoughtless. Respect is key and it will get you far, especially when nobody else has any respect for people.

my parents say that if i don't eat with my cutlery round the right way, i will never get a boyfriend.

My parents never did this, but I do it anyway. It's very respectful and it has gotten me very far I've noticed. Stick with it and use it with lots of good grammar and respect, you can get almost anything. mwhahaha

They're trying to teach you a very good habit. Perhaps they're overly strict about it, but perhaps not (you didn't give specifics).

Good manners is a good thing; and less and less common these days. (I'm not the least bit surprised that you have friends who aren't being taught the same manners.)

Stick with it. It will do you good when you're an adult. Truly.

And remember, even if you think they're being too strict, your parents are doing it because they care about you. Don't take that for granted.

i can't imigane what thats like. im sorry, but my parents yell a lot. more at eachother. in away strict is better.

my dad always made me say yes sir no sir when i was little

Okay it's a little old-fashioned, but i'd say it impresses other peoples' parents. I know that my parents would think you are awesome if you addressed them as such.

What age are you? Was your dad in the military? Reminds me of that kid in American Beauty

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We're your parents in the military?

Just asking, because this is DEFINITELY not normal. Period.

Can you talk about this with another adult, perhaps someone at school, like your teacher?

I'm angry with your parents.
I see that as extremely outrageous and stupid of them.
They're your parents, not your slave owners.
Saying "yes sir" all the time to your parents is ridiculous.
There should of course be a level of respect between you and your parents. And that goes both ways, forcing you to call them "sir" and "ma'am" isn't respecting you and I personally think it's awful.
I love my parents and I speak to them respectfully... but I treat them like people, not Gods.
I mean%%u2026 talking to your parents like that doesn%%u2019t seem very loving at all%%u2026
Do you even hug your parents?

Do you want people to think you grew up in a barn? Listen to your parents. They are doing you a favor. And sit up straight!

I get parents worse than u have but I Just listen to them and what they want. Obviously in front of them but behind them i do as of normal like any one...