Why are narcisisstic people and psychopaths so charming ?

Why do you think that narcisissts and Psychopaths so charming ?! , they are cool , very smart , funny , witty , have great social skills (not emotional skils though ) hide who they are very well , lie alot and thier lies are rarely (if ever ) caught , why did God give them this advantage ?! ,even though they are evil ,and those with other disorders , the uncool ones , the ones associated with depenency , anxiety , and lack of socil skills ,are usually good people , but they aren't charming ..at all !

Because it's a way to hide who they really are 34
Because they work well on themselves 8
Becuase they have lots of interests 1
Because they never seem to age and are immature 3
Other (Add a comment) 7
Don't know , i wish i have those qualities though 7
Don't know 3
Thier craziness makes them have these traits 6
They want to gain alot of attention and love 0
It's a way to attract people to them 22
God works in mysterious ways 3
Most of the above 23
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Comments ( 30 )
  • Chillpill

    I think it's because from an early age they learn how to manipulate people and get very good at it. This is the main skill that gets them through life, shying hard work and sometimes lacking intelligence. They are very good at reading people and so know exactly which buttons to push with someone. They absolutely despise people who see through them, though.

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    • plainsight90

      Gotta love that last sentence. SO TRUE.

      Every single time I've pointed out to someone that they're manipulative/shallow fake and that there is deeply something wrong in their life, their ass imediately starts to hurt. Butthurt, much? Denial, denial, frustration.

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  • enzyme1

    I dont think they are charming, they seems so false and insensitive. i suppose they are excellent actors and know exactly what you want to know .

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  • Ihateveryone

    I think they love themselves so much, they make you think you should love them as well

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  • zenji

    They behave as though they are superior, and believe it, so people go along with it.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Yep everyone does it

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  • Aleks85

    Because are turned on by that. Do you have any idea how much mail incarcerated serial killers and rapists get?

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  • Aleks85

    Because that's how we... I mean I... I mean they get down... baby.

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  • KokoroComplex

    I knew this narcissist. He was attractive, but not for me. Just too much -__-u

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  • Goraf

    Depends on what type of insanity it could be what the first guy said or since they went insane they have already been to the depths of their mind so they understand them selves better and have more depth

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  • Sexallent34

    They are naturals at charming people. They make you fall hard for them with their skills!!

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  • webs

    It's not that they are charming, so much that narcisisstic people are really good liars and most psychopaths are borderline geniuses if they are not total geniuses. They usually don't do the things that they do to people all of a sudden or on a whem, they usually think about it and plan it out over a period of time first, kind of like how Batman always seems to think of everything and plans for every possible scenerio, those people do the same thing.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    Other:

    It depends on the person. Some are just very good at manipulating to get what they want.

    And sometimes I think it's because someone sees the 'bad boy' attitude and likes it... because they want to be the one who tames him.

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  • psycopaths veneer is very thin i think people notice soon enough. narcissists love them selves and rightyly so,lol. why are they so charming? cause theyr magic? carisma or synchronicity . wtfk? charming!!!

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  • SoccerStud88

    because these are classified as "jerks" and "assholes" and we allll know that girls are naturally attracted to these ;)

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  • joybird

    As a psychopath has no conscience they can either be downright rude to people or charming. I think the ones that are out-going and charming are able to do this coz they don't care what other people think. They don't care if they get caught out on their lying. They don't even care how false they seem to people who really know them and it is probably quite funny to them when the friends of their target warn them, and their target refuses to believe it.

    The psychopaths I know who beat their wives etc are really good fun - maybe so that people won't believe the truth when it eventually comes out. It's a Jekyll and Hyde thing.

    I think the best thing everyone can do is to tell what they do, like bullies, so people can stay away from them. Fore-warned is fore-armed.

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  • plainsight90

    It is all a lie. They just appear to have it under control. But in reality, they have emotions just like us. Maybe they're lacking something in life or hurt and bothered...therefore they act like passive aggressive A-HOLES.

    Or at least that's what I've seen so far from encounters with these "narcisissts" in my personal experiences...

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  • plainsight90

    I love this thread!

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  • I wouldn't say I am either of them but I have been told to be very nice and have charisma. I lie constantly to people, made people choose me over their friends and quite a few more things. People think I'm so nice because they believe the lies. I wouldn't say I'm evil, just not nice.

    This site is the only place that I actually have stated how I really act and think.

    I would also like to say this "again" to you that narcissists and psychotpaths aren't the same thing so stop acting as if they are and get over this whole narcissitic and psychopath thing because this has got to be the fifth story/poll you have submitted and they are all the same.

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    • FocoUS

      Narcissists and psychopaths aren't the same but I've seen them overlap before. They main thing is that they tend to look out for #1. The only difference is narcissists can still have a conscience.

      I also wouldn't be as harsh to call you a psychopath. You're a young man. And it's common for youth to lie and be fake, they just grow out it. Lying to people and getting their friends to turn on them isn't evil it's just drama. To a real psycho there's no difference between friends, family, and strangers. They go for what they want and they don't let a conscience or shame get in the way. This is the guy that takes a girl's V-Card and is gone the next morning. This is the guy that can convince you to 'loan' him $400 and heads out of town immediately. I don't think you're evil.

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      • Agreed and like I said, I'm not evil so we are at an agreement.

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        • FocoUS

          You labeled yourself as a psycho path and I said you weren't, no need to get defensive.

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          • So predictable, you must think that I am upset that you delete them but I assure you that I din't aslong as you see it I am fine with it. Don't start something you can't finnish.

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          • I never labled myself as a psychopath, I said I am neither of them. I know I'm not psychotic, where did you get the idea that I said I was?

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    • dappled

      I've always had the sense that you've been very honest on this site. I think it's what makes you interesting.

      P.S. Agree with you about the narcissist/psychopath thing. I'm getting fed up seeing it now, and they're really not the same thing.

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  • bluesun

    i think the poll creator is either a Narcissistic or psychopaths lol!

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  • People like me have a way of attracting attention, like you said.
    We are self-obsorbed and are always improving ourselves to the social eye to get where we want to be.
    That's why we're so damn charming. ;)

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    • CelticPrince

      Assclown, youre inferior.

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  • theytookthisone

    They arent, you're just so easy to lure in

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  • dom180

    Well, almost everybody would like those qualities, they are universally thought of as positive traits. There isn't any special reason that they do it for, they just have it as an ability, and they use it because it works well for them. As to why they have those traits, which are less common in "normal" people, I have know idea. I don't think that anybody knows, but I'm sure somebody will correct me on that.

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