Why are most of the ladies into dumb guys?

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I try to get the ladies, but it's not that simple. I'm confident, humorous, physically fit, and intelligent. My looks are not perfect(most of the ladies think I'm a 7/10), but I do stand with excellent posture and I have good hygiene.

With all of these pros, I have a great self-esteem. My problem? There isn't a female who will share this self esteem with me. I go for girls around my league, yet most don't show an interest in me. Who do they show an interest in? People that I consider "morons" that don't know any lines or limits. What happens when they break up after a month? A new idiot arrives into her heart and she is taken once again.

These guys I speak of are the kind that know very little positive things about the ladies. These "gentlemen "are normally into the relationship for their own gain. They care very little about the partner, as I have seen time and again. What they have that I don't? I must be lacking something to be troubled by them in this journey for the most amazing girl. Please leave your opinions below!

Bro, that's just the way it is.	9
It's not the guy, it's the girl.	14
It's not the girl, it's the guy.	2
Dude, you're the problem.	12
It's society, man, support the revolution of a new age!	3

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Fall_leaves

9 years ago

Man brother man, I'm going to tell you this now. I'm of the lady kind and I have some knowledge to bestow upon you. I have dated one of the morons you've described and at first I fell for all his sweet little lines of bullshit.

I wasn't aware until now that he was a complete asshole, love makes us blind. I can't speak for all women but if a girl is seeking out jerks she's not ready for a real commitment. I can sniff out a dumbass from a mile away now.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Hm, I never viewed it that way. It's not their physical traits or assets, just blind love itself? I have seen a few bad relationships that still continue, so I don't find your explanation difficult to believe.
  
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Holzman_67

9 years ago

sorry but in this post you come off as a bit of a bigot.

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dom180

9 years ago

Try to have more fun. You seem quite uptight. It's okay to skirt near the edge of boundaries in the name of flirty fun, so long as you remain sensitive to where the line is and understand the importance of backing off rather than making anyone uncomfortable.

Also, try to be less cynical. This post really seems like sour grapes. Calling other guys "morons" and "idiots" makes it sound like you have a serious superiority complex and an inability to see the good in other people.

Finally, you seem convinced that you're different from the guys who chase girls "for their own gain". But that's what relationships are. You don't date someone for their benefit; you date someone because it's what you want to do. Maybe I'm reading too far into it, but that doesn't sound like something a person with high self-esteem would think.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I believe a healthy relationship should benefit both of the people involved. If one is a parasite over to the other, then why be with them in the first place?
  
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  - dom180
    
    9 years ago
    
    Of course, but it's not that simple. You don't always need a kind, giving relationship to benefit both people. Some people prefer a relationship which emphasizes individualism and allows them to grow as individuals while still caring for each other when it suits them. That can still be mutually beneficial. Some other people enjoy drama. They continually put themselves out there so they can experience the emotional highs and lows of a fleeting relationship, because it's fun to ride that rollercoaster. There are more reasons people may appear to deviate from the give-and-take model, but you get the idea.
    
    My point is that mutually beneficial is a hell of a lot more complicated than bare give and take. Bare give and take is important in most healthy long-term relationships, but you have to overlay that model with an account of everyone's unique set of neurotic impulses to understand how a relationship works. It requires using your imagination.
    
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seakelp

9 years ago

Blaming others for one's problems can be indicative of a lack of introspective contemplation. Take inventory of yourself, guy.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I try to ponder on my own life, but perhaps I don't think deep enough. Thank you, I will find my own weaknesses before I accuse others of holding it for me.
  
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LAR23

9 years ago

Female here. I think it's 50/50 between two reasons and sometimes a combination of both; they think that's all they deserve, and/or they're in love with the idea of the person and can't or won't see the reality of how shitty they are. Even if they do realize it, they'll keep trying out of insecurity or guilt.
Also, you might want to relax about the whole thing and just take a more laid back stance on relationships. Girls can sense that kind of thing, you'll seem more appealing. And you'll be more worry free. Two benefits in one, it's like bogo. If that "amazing" girl is out there, she'll come to you and not the "idiots" anyway right? Or you might want to start being around women who are more secure and independent.

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Shily666

9 years ago

I absolutely hate douchebags and people who are dumb as shit and will be mean in the relationship. I'm with my boyfriend because he's very intelligent, mature, respectful, caring, loyal, etc., etc. I don't understand the girls who would rather go with the idiots who don't even care about them but pretend to just to use the girl.

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Parky_Parker

9 years ago

As a girl, the most important things to me are respect, overall hygiene, and a SENSE OF HUMOR. If you open your mouth and come off as a pretentious douchebag, I'll lose interest instantly. Being attractive or "hot" will be irrelevant at that point. I've seen plenty of so-called "ugly" dudes get girlfriends just because they had pure confidence.

Some girls just suck at picking out guys that are boyfriend material. If a girl would rather date a drug hustler, oh well.

You seem like an overall cool guy by your description. Keep on keeping on. If a girl says no to giving out her number or going out on a date, on to the next. When you stop caring, they start coming. Pun intended.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I don't mean to view myself as better than someone else, surely they have strengths in things that I do not. When it comes to dating and girls that are in a similar league to mine, I don't see why they go for guys that have their morals in the wrong place.
  
  I probably should not have used words that describe intelligence... That escalates arguments. The "edit" button is gone, sadly.
  
  I don't think looks matter completely, but they do help with first impressions.
  
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Lonely2

9 years ago

Idiots never suffer from the disease of self- doubt, over thinking or the consequences of their actions and even when there is consequences like children or heart break they suffer no remorse...this gives them an advantage as all this lack of thinking comes of as supreme self confidence and knowing what they want to the ladies which women admire

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Shackleford96

9 years ago

Maybe you should get them drunk first?

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gashlover

9 years ago

learn how to eat good pussy. give 'em multiples and they'll be stuck on you

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- mountain-man82
  
  9 years ago
  
  Hes saying that they arent even giving him the chance to eat their pussy.
  
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  - Tommythecat.
    
    9 years ago
    
    Because he's a tool, look at the way he describes himself and then completely misunderstands others. Guys like him are way dumber than the ones he describes.
    
    He wonders what they have that he doesn't, character. The so called "jerks" tend to simply be more charismatic.
    
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    - mountain-man82
      
      9 years ago
      
      Thats very true.
      
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