Why are boys so unemotional???????

now you see women want men to show emotions but in the long run it wouldnt work
we have evolved like this because normally women rely on men for emotional and physical support we evolved to hunt for meat to kill to protect our familys
emotions would only get in the way of this
and stop us from basically doing our jobs
how far do you think we would have got if everytime our ancestors killed a dear for meat he sat next to it holding it crying
we feel all the same pain that women do but were destined to carry it as a burden on our shoulders to not be able to release it
just what men have to do
my gf always takes her problems out on me and tells me everything thats wrong and i give support but when i need some one to unload the burden on theres no one
if i try to unload it on her she gets depressed and cant take it
at the same time though men not showing emotion dosnt give them an excuse to be dicks
i know some lads just shag lass's and leave them thats not being a man thats being a wimpy pussy
a real man will open up to you to the extent that you can handle
and will have respect and honour

im a guy and i show my emotions all the time, only to chicks though cause i dnt like other guys seein me as an emotional person

And guys wonder why girls have to show their emotions and make a big deal out of everything..

I am a guy and i think it is just because guys get called fags if they do. Guys are stereotypically tough and mean and gritty, and showing another side to guys can be considered gay. i think its just stupid though.

Im Hollow/Emotionless. is that normal?

I don't know about all men, but myself and most of my friends are so unemotional and practically dead inside because too many little sensitive, sweet, and adorable gals not unlike yourself have ripped out our hearts and crushed our spirits to the point where we just don't care, anymore.

So, short answer, go look in the mirror.

I am a guy. I don't show my emotions or people might think me that I am a gay or freak.

I would be more emotional if someone actually gave a shit, but nobody ever cares, so that's why I keep to myself.

Men are trained from birth by the monority of people that showing emotions is weak guys call them gay and girls treat them like they are wimps it takes a really close bond b4 they can trust u enough to b emotional

Alot of men see showing emotion as weak. Whereas women see it as being expressive. Men try to look like a built up stable figure in most places even in the worst situations.

Personally I dont act like a big manly man but I always keep a smile on my face. Even if I cry in the night, which I do occasionally I try to stay positive and not become a burden. Sucks doesnt it?

being "emotionless" is an alpha male characteristic, therefore most men will chose to behave that way, in order to be dominant and to attract (most) women.

I just have to laugh at the comment about men being in touch with their feminine side. I believe its all a crock of nonsense. There are certain traits that both separate us and attract us. I don't want a girl who's in touch with her masculine side. It would be like being with a man. Most women who want a fememine, sensitive man it's because they're controlling and domineering. Society is all screwed up. I say we should resort to the way things used to be when men and women had their respective roles in society and then we wouldn't have suicidal emos or lesbian 12 year olds. Point Blank! We need stronger men and more nurturing women.

This issue divides males into two groups, with specific characteristics defining each group.

The unemotional group, which is in fact vastly larger than the other group, chooses not to show their emotions because 1) they don't know how, or 2) they think it is "manly" not to show them.

The emotional group is smaller, of course. Males in this group do tend to be smarter than their emotionless counterparts, and the sexuality preferences are, admittedly, widely varied.

It's the whole "jocks vs. nerds" war. Go nerds!

Hahahaha all men are emotionless. Of course we are. You think we would be fighting for America if we ran around like wusses asking about how everyone felt? You think emo kids can defend America? They show tons of emotion and look at them. If there was a war and they defended us you know what would happen? Men dont need to show emotion, we need to show raw power and destroy anyone who says different. So yes its normal for men to be emotionless.

its because we don't want to be called a gay or a fag or a queer is why we don't when i did at one time someone did called me a queer because i was crying that my cat died as the other guy said only queers like cats so i got mad and said well i guess gods a queer then he didn't say goshdamn thing after that

most girls i know are really annoying id rather have a guy like that

because if you show emotion like sincere fears or worry you get called a pussy by men and women.

after being told 'im a really nice guy' on a few dates i decided to show less emotion, make dick jokes here and there and have become more successful with women because of it

Our brains are slightly less connected to our emotional centers. It's unfortunate, but it takes more effort to access our emotions, unless our brain is chemically and physically wired more like a female's.

Some men do.
People have pointed out emos as being an example but not all men who are emotional are weak.
One of my best friends is the kind of guy who would cry at a sad film but you would not mess with him.
I on the other hand... I am a typical emotionless guy. Its not because I consider it weak but more because I don't see any reason to show my emotion. Also, I am a very logical person (my dad is a lawyer, it does that to you) so I am never controlled by my emotions. If you're not controlled by them you have no reason to show them (unless you're trying to get it across to someone that you're feeling that emotion in which case the easiest answer is simply to tell them)

So I ask you, why are girls so emotional?

It's how they're expected to be.

guys do show thier emotions alot, just beacause the ones you know dont dosent mean they all do, seems to be women generalizing men on here very pathetic and weak minded, alot of girls are over emotional if anything, grizzlin over everything, and not all women show thier emotions either

an emotional guy is a weak guy in many opinions, i myself dont show any emotions because i dont like the vulnerability of people seeing my weaker sides, it doesnt seem right, and seeing as most of the world will fuck you over if you let them, its much better to not let them

its a counter balance because women are over emotional

well i think haha

im completely unemotional to everyone apart from my gf who i show every emotion to i mean im seriousy heartless to everyone apart from her
i've seen people seriously hurt and laughed

you may say you want guys to open up a bit more
to show their feelings
but then guys like that get taken advantage of, FAST! screw the idea of sensitive men, it doesnt work. its happened to almost everybody i think
some guy says hes not feeling good and had a bad day BOOM! instant loss of respect. that kinda stuff happens
to put it simple-
un-emotional guys= been in a relationship
*rant ends*

Male pressure in public places, elsewhere you'd find me very compassionate, and GREAT sex.

I'd imagine that's the case with most males, minus the sex thing (they often go too hard, butch dumb asses), some feel uncomfortable getting close even alone due to not enough in common.

Perhaps you're too alien what with all the perfume make-up and such, trading comfort for a rise in pants. That's what it does, you'd need the same hobbies for certain guys to be like that.

Too emotional and they're pussies, even by my standards.

You know, for guys, showing emotion is seen as a sign of weakness or unmanliness.. And they think they have to be as manyly as they can all of the time... So they are afraid to show emotions. Like crying, or showing sympathy.

Well showing emotion is typically viewed as "weak" among malekind.

Wake up people.

Boys are taught to hide their emotions from when they are born.

Girls aren't.

Until you've been told, when your six, when your crying "boys don't cry" by your teacher, or anyone else at any age, you won't understand.

So there is way more going on on the inside than you can see or the guy will let you know.

i can honestly say from experience that women are much more heartless than men (generally speaking). the men who are emotionally incapable are extremists. they're the type to blow things out of proportion. meanwhile, even the sweetest, most humble girl can be brutal towards a guy, but overly sensitive when it's her emotions that were played with. it's simple: guys were hardened by cruel women, and women see the flaws is the walls they've built. don't get me wrong, not all women are heartless meatbags. i've met one girl that isn't that inconsiderate. and she agrees with my point.

PS: 70 percent of straight women cheat on their spouses, while 30 percent of men cheat on theirs

I show my emotions to certain girls, never guys. I used to be scared id be judged, but we've all cried, why does it make a certain guy any different?

because guys are emotionless rocks. take it from one who sees it.

Well I have a girl and it is hard to say shit like " i love you" its not normal for a dude to say it straight up to someone you love. (unless your emo or gay) or you just got the ballz to say it

cos its gay

us girls tottaly show our feelings, and its hard when a guy doesnt cause its like he doesnt care. and everyone says its a guy thing guys cant act like we do with emotions. and it sucks the guy i like he gives me anwsers but doesnt explain it but everything i say has to be explained. i have to always open up but he gets to stay closed up its unfair.

Us men have emotions as well. We tend to express our negative emotions/thoughts through anger as opposed to being fragile and falling deep into despair

Maybe you're just a dumb bitch

its normal for us so you should get us to it

I am a very emotional guy. Women want a strong man who can tough it out through anything. Certain songs make me cry but I would never do that around a woman ......she will think I am a pussy....lol

Men can be VERY emotional. We just learn to hide it.

Nice guys repel girls so why would you want us to show emotions when you're going to lose attraction for us once we do?

Im a guy and I only show and share my true emotions to my gal friends cuz the guys think it's gay! :(

We only tell to people we like. We will not say it to some one we do not like as much.

We have emotion, just don't show it much

The answer is because all men were fucked up by girls at a young age, and learned from their experience. What happens is, usually at a young age, like 10 or something, and a guy gets his first girlfriend, he is very emotional with her. Tells her everything etc. However, this girl, being only 10, is not mature enough to deal with someone else' emotions, and will dump the boy, and then usually do something to spite him, being immature as they are.

So, the guy learns at a young age that showing his emotions does no good, and will get him dumped.

So, once again, guys are so emotionless, because girls are such cruel bitches. If a guy were emotional, he would never survive and would most likely kill himself at the cruelty of women, like all emo guys do.

They have emotions, but they hide them a lot. Over the years they've been told its weakness or "only pussies show emotion" etc and they're ashamed. I find sensitive guys cute. (: Depending of course.

i think they are actually more emotional than girls alot of the time. they are just scared to show their true feelings sometimes because it hurts their pride. guys are more competitive and pride driven, so when they are put down, it really hurts even though they may not show it the way girls do.

o and if something happened that has made u sad and ur boyfriend should be sad and isnt its he is just doesnt show it cause he is trying to comfort u and act like things are okay

Because you suck up all the emotional energy of those around you. Congratulations, leach.

I'm a gay guy, I have emotions, but I don't talk about them. I mean occasionally you'll see the extremes when I can't filter my emotions out of my outward expressions (it takes a major event to cause these extremes), but I'd rather not talk about them. That's not because I don't have emotions or because I'm not in touch with my emotions. I, like many guys, just have trouble, or perhaps simply an aversion to, sharing my feelings.

But, just because we don't talk about our emotions doesn't mean that we hide them completely. Much like how guys have trouble reading girls, the reverse is also true. I have no problem reading the emotions of most guys if I care enough to notice. It's not painfully obvious for the world, but guys don't hide them as deep as girls think they do. Figuring out the emotional state of girls, however, is nearly impossible outside of the many scary emotional outbursts y'all go through in a day. And even with those outbursts, guys have no freaking clue why you've gone off the deep end, just that they want to get far away, quickly.

we feel love, hate, pain, happiness, we just don't show it. probably because we are more in touch with the real world and deal with it in our own "dull" way.....JK! i have no idea just the way we were made i guess lol

I show my emotions all the time im not emo or whatever people say i cry at the end of wolfsrain (its an anime) and certain movies so not all boys are emotionless

Men are like that. Showing emotion is showing weakness. Men are supposed to be fearless and courageous. Not scared and cowardly. Someone has to be the fighter of the team. The Man is the fighter, while the Woman is the caring soul.

i understand thru the many comments that most men are unemotional because of being possibly hurt in past relationships, not wanting to look weak and not wanting to seem girlie but how would a girl go about figuring out what he is feeling without the twenty questions. Most women ask because we want the assurance the guy we are seeing is on the same emotional page as us. If it were as clear as day then the questions and lack of confidence would stop. Guys are very hard to read!

im a guy, and for me (not sure about other guys) but i dont really show my feelings in public much (if at all), but when i feel comfortable with somone, like my best friend, or my mom, i can talk about everything, and tahts usually how i get it all out.

I'm sick of misunderstanding. It often causes both directly and indirectly pain for others. If everyone tried to make everyone feel accepted, people wouldn't get fucked up so easily.

I'm sick of misunderstanding.

And we haven't evolved differently. It's completely cultural. If you are raised to be unemotional you will be way less emotional.

But if your family encourages you to express your emotions, the whole spectrum is possible.

But society encourages the unemotional side, and for people to diss people who are emotional. So the cycle perpetuates itself. It's not going away anytime soon, unless everyone teaches their sons AND daughters that emotions in guys are not only OK but a good thing.

There's also that "feminine side" thing. Emotions aren't feminine. Anyone who says that has never really though about it. These statements are part of the cycle.

But sadly, while I agree to men being less emotional, I have to say men, in general, are more aware of others emotions and more considerate in not breaking them. Girls seek revenge more than guys, for anything, since they often learn that guys are assholes.

I havent really found many guys that show their emotions either. But when I call it out to my bf he says that I am being racist against guys. I just feel if they showed their feelings a little bit more it would help us girls know what they are feeling. I mean it makes up look like the cry babies because we will express our feelings and they just sit back and go .. "i dunno"

i am a guy and i am straight just letting you all know that as a disclaimer.

i hate those guys to like the jocks, and meatheads, and WarLord, and gunstarbob, and peoples like that. i find them as d**ks a lot of the time. i will share my feelings with girls n say "i love you" to a person if i actauly do and with guys ill share my thought and feelings about things to. i dont do gay stuff like tell my guy friends i love em or stuff but i dont get guys who at least will talk to their friends who are girls

most guys act unemotional to women or other guys because they dont want to be seen as "weak" "different" or be called a wuss/fag. not all guys are able to overcome this

I think we all experience emotions but it is much easier for females to cry than males. Also in our society males that show emotions are frowned down upon. There manhood is questioned and a lot of man don't have high enough self esteem and sacome to peer pressure.

I'm a guy and i'll show my emotions, just not to someone who's all in my face about it. if someones expecting me to be all OTT about everything i'll just shut off completely from them. you'll find most guys are the same- we can be emotional when theres something to be emotional about, and when there isn't someone around prying into everything you think.
if that makes sense.
which it probably doesn't XD

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ahh i have to comment this cos' that last comment was pretty cheesy, its just like that other person said ''not in touch with their feminine side'' and i think the best way to get that is to buy a strap-on... (dont hate player hate the game)

You know, this sucks because I am an emotionally-detached woman. And the guy I'm with is very emotionally driven and intuitive. Ironically though, I unintentionally hurt his feelings all the time and I can't figure out why. But, to all men - if you want to have the sporty, outgoing, smart, funny, strong-willed, and confident girl... realize that they, or I, come with little to no chance of being submissive if you don't at least treat me like an equal and I'm definitely not going to feed into your feelings or emotions if you won't even help me clean the f**king house or help cook dinner!!! Men are the bitches lol

im a guy and im extremely emotional, i cry when i need even i public (not like hysterically, i can go to bed in till i call my girl friend and tell her how much i love her. a lot of ppl think im gay but w/e. i write poetry as a pastime and love "chick flicks"...

peer pressure. all the uncool kids have feelings but cool kids have none. however, I am 22 now and I know several people who sometimes talk about how they felt etc. also many people try to phrase their feelings as if they were some sort of opinions. and include some swear words. but those are also feelings, in a way.

because i belive when it comes to litening, careing and provideing for someone other than thireselfs, guys are compleatly out of the picture. sorry it sucks but thats just how it is and always has been.

IDD! i'm a boy! and i don't get why other boys don't show there feeling or get emotional in public...i mean...when they are alone with me they tell everything that's on there mind...there even where a few time's where some cried...i mean...showing ur feelings is not that bad? allot of GF also complain to me and ask why there BF doesn't want to talk about their feelings...and no i'm not gay...-.- i just like those things like feelings and romances and cute things and stuff...so i don't get why they dont wana do that...

who ever said emotions were feminine?
its societies influence and womens insecurities that prevents males emotions from being understood and projected. a sensitive guy will become ostracized by the very females he loves. they due to culture, seperate mental and phsyical. assuming a man whos sensitive with capacity wont know how to get it done downstairs.
not everyones equal and some people can fuck fight and think.

so fuck your stereotypes.

i know right why dont they im a boy and i do

Hiya love, I am a female and I beg to differ from most of your replies and your statement. In all my relationships I have been called the frigid one, have never really been the romantic sort. All my boyfriends have been very bothered by these factors. Just because men GENERALLY tend to be unemotional (in your experience) don't judge them all as one.

alright i hate to admit but everyone has emotions even boys as much as i dissed them on this site it is true that they have emotions they just don't show it as much as girls.

im a guy and i show emotions no im not gay or emo i feel bad that some people are emotionless tbh

Im a emo boy but way before i came emo all my friends were girls i used to be the most feminin in my old school

wtf. what u have to do is find a bi guy < e.g moi . or an emo dude< moi again =). they can express there emotions.

its just the average male idiocy. most men cant express emotions and never will. find 1 that can and grab onto him

You're very fond of your punctuation, aren't you?????????????????????

Emotional expressions which are deemed worthy by society become the norm. In most societies individuals are forced to become homogeneous. Anyone that does not conform is labeled, aberrant. Since few people wish to be labeled as outcasts, they conform to societal expectations.

Actually girls like it when guys show emotion, if they try to act all bada** either the girls will think your a doosh or they think they can fix you or something and make them say "I love you"

Because guys are dicks and they think they have to be macho.