Why am i so selfish?

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I literally cant be happy or sad for anyone. WITH EXCEPTION TO MY FAMILY! All I think about is how it effects me. Of course I ALWAYS try to show affection if anything good/bad happens but i never feel totally completely happy for someone.

Like if something bad happens to a friend/my boyfriend I think 'im glad its not me' or 'now ill have to deal with with this greif'
Or anything good I get jelous or it doesnt phase me, or I think how it can benefit me. Is it normal?

Whats wrong with me

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  • vera046
    13 years ago

    Most feelings of compassion and sympathy we fake. That's what humans are like, egocentric. There's just a difference in how good people are in covering it up.

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    • spoiledamericanasshole
      12 years ago

      That definitely isn't true for everyone. And even if people be unselfish for selfish reasons, that still doesn't make it a bad thing (not that you implied it was).

      I really do feel bad for people in other countries who are poor, sick, dying, while I have everything a person could want and really don't deserve it.

      To the OP, I don't think there's anything wrong with you. Unless you're living in Africa or some other third or fourth world country, the people you know probably don't have any real problems that actually deserve compassion or sympathy, and your subconscious mind knows it.

      Or, another way to look at it, the fact that you wrote this tells me you are at least feeling guilty, which means you do have at least some level of sympathy for people. The selfishness comes from being spoiled (No offense. I'm spoiled too).

      If you really want to do good for yourself, you should do good for others, and if you really want to do good for others, you should do good for yourself. You really can't respect others if you don't respect yourself first. Maybe that's what's wrong? I'm having difficulty getting out what I'm trying to say and I realize I'm sort of contradicting myself but hopefully at least some of it is making sense

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You arent any different then anyone else. The only difference between humans and animals is animals dont need to be polite about it, if they are hungry enough they just kill and eat each other. Humans will do the same thing if put in desperate situations, except its something everyone wants to pretend would never happen.

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  • That_Guy_From_The_Party
    13 years ago

    Finally!someone like me.....
    and theres nothing wrong with you its just the way you are.
    i actually enjoy the situation.

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  • thatguy35
    12 years ago

    i dont think your condition is normal although it really isn't all that good what i think you have is simply a sociopathic personality is all.

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  • thegift
    13 years ago

    "It ain't my problem"

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  • so_damn_unpretty
    13 years ago

    I'm ike that too. but i don't think it's normaL. im trying really hard not to be a bitch anymore.

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  • Krgual
    13 years ago

    Yeah I guess it's normal for a human. Its a good thing you know about it but don't go over bored and embrace it, try to be nice.

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