Why am i so bored at 43 years old

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Where do I begin. I think I just need to vent my frustrations really. I am 43 years old and have two children aged 15 and 11 years old. They are not the problem, in fact they are beautiful children and seem to have their life on track so far (fingers crossed). It is me really I am stuck. I gave my job up in 2007 because I became bored, unhappy and just not liking the environment in which I worked. I thought I would have found employment by now, but it is coming on to two years now and no sign of a job. In that time my confidence has twindled, I am nervous at interviews and I just do not seem to be getting much interviews at present. I have also found out that I am not leaving the house often either. I do go out if I have somewhere to go or something that needs doing i.e errands to pay bills etc. But apart from that I do not venture out much at all. Even my son of 11 years old is becoming worried, he made a comment to me the other week he said " mum i feel sorry for you" and i responded by saying "why son" he said "because you are always in the house". His comment has been bothering me ever since. I think what I want is FRIENDS. I have none. All the acquaintances that I have met over the years, be it from college or work, I have managed to let them go, and for no particular reason and now I could really do with a friend. Someone I can meet up with every once in while to have a natter about every and anything. I am not a deep thinker and I do not want to solve all the problems that are happening in the world but it is nice to talk about things of this nature just to express myself. My social life is non-existent if you include weekdays. On the weekends however I do allow myself to venture out, which is normally with my sisters but that is it and I am becoming bored with it. I want to go away for weekends, eat out more, go dancing, go for coffee or to the cinema.

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  • happilysingle
    15 years ago

    I agree with Jim. It's your life. You have to find a purpose and work towards it. Make a list of everything you always wanted to do. Then pick the one that you will enjoy doing and will also generate income. Join social groups that interest you, what ever your interests happen to be. There are groups for just about everything.
    Don't live under self pity. It's going to make life exponentially worse quickly over time. Get a purpose. Make goals. Works towards achieving them.

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  • Jim_Pfoss
    15 years ago

    There's not much demand for us middle-aged men, is there?
    If you want friends, then be a friend. Help people who don't deserve it. Volunteer somewhere. Get busy. New people aren't coming to your house.

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  • wannarocktheworld
    12 years ago

    i will tell you something actionable:

    google "The 4 hour work week"

    then also watch these movies to get the depression out:
    Rocky Balboa series
    The Matrix
    Fight Club
    Leonardo Di Caprio's movies

    Now after that,
    think of.. what interests you? what do you like doing most and that which can generate income? gardening? programming? making videos?

    write down atleast 5 or 10 interests RIGHT NOW!
    from then select the ones that appeal to you most
    and i mean atleast select 3, to have alternatives on the ready

    select the best from the 3, research it, research about how to monetize it, etc etc.
    Like Android app development gets you $$$$ in the android app market

    Then get on to it! just start doing the stuff and you'll get busy

    see, the most important thing here is: DO!

    so come out of the gloomy mode and become a DO person

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  • russellnb
    14 years ago

    Get up, go out and do something every day. Even if you just walk around and say hello to people and stop in shops and talk. Find the interest. It probably will not fall out of the sky and land on you in the living room where you sit. Go do it

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