Why am i never someone people want to be around?

Very much the same way here, too. The same even happens with my wife's group of friends.

I also used have the same anger and depression about it, but then I came to realize that friends and popularity are not the be-all, end-all of existence.

No religious rant here, but I realized that I had a greater purpose.

There are a lot of people who are worse off than I, and I realized that there is a lot I can do to help others. I do have a life. I have a career and several enjoyable hobbies.

When possible, I help those who are in need and are willing to help themselves. No reward or acknowledgement necessary; helping others is a reward in itself. No real biggies... just a bunch of little things (giving the old lady down the block a ride to and from the doctor - driving the neighbor lady and her baby to the ER after her baby received a superficial injury - finding and anonymously returning a lost wallet with all of the valuables still inside)

But at your age, you have one big advantage over what I did. You have a woman who sees greatness in you and loves you for it. You have a Lois Lane who sees the Superman inside you.

Focus on yourself, focus on her, and focus on your purpose in life. There are many ways to find fulfillment in life, and popularity is only one of them.

Eventually you will "break". This is a good thing. After this, you won't care about other people any more, about having friends or being liked. You will come to admire your own qualities, which you may not have been aware of before you had your new introspective abilities. You will speak your mind, the rare times you speak. You will dress as you wish, giving no regard to people's stares. Everything about your life will be unconventional, because it will be you. As you grow older, you will become stranger and stranger. Maybe you will not even be human one day.

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I don't really think that is a good thing, MaskedGunman. I know this may hurt, but I think you should keep looking. You already have your girlfriend, she is your girl and your "friend" after all. I have a friend who feels this way, who claims he doesn't want to care anymore because he is always depressed and always falling into horrible relationships with girls and other so-called friends. He thinks it's making him better, but he'll just become anti-social and eventually break off his existing ties with people. I told him to see a mental health professional. They don't just deal with crazies, but people who need help to prevent their present problems from making them defective.

I use to be the exact same way down to every detail I had a very nice gf I was very observant to I read there body language and how other people reacted to it. I don't have this problem since about a month ago I figured it out I said to myself, we only have one life and never know when were going to die so I'm going to live it up like they were my last days. Since then I've been going out everyday drinking with friends parties or just hanging out and then you meet more people doing that and then they contact you to hangout and then you meet more people and its just a cycle it takes a while though but don't be shy!! Hope this helps.

What you need, sir, is the Lord. Read the Bible and you will find that Jesus will love and accept and care for you with a love beyond your wildest dreams. I know this is what you are lacking. Even if you doubt me, it seems like you're kind of in a "last straw" kind of situation, so please just give it a chance..read Romans or another of the epistles. You have nothing to lose. This really could change your life and give you everything you know you lack.

i mean people like me but im the athlete and i can play bball good but i play sports and people like me like me but im still pretty different by a lot

I feel like i been an ass for doing that once. I guess that i deserve being in the situation you are in too.

WOW...I sure wish the internet was around when I was your age! I hate saying this, but I 100% know how you feel. I was alone with those feelings for most of my life.
I too catch on quickly and wish I was an idiot sometimes...Like when I knew my "friend" was lying right to my face, I'd just play dumb and pretend everything was all right. That was the desperate(sad) need for them TO JUST LIKE ME...But, inside I'm seething inside and just want to scream at them and say, "How dare you treat me like that?!" Of course, I never did,..just smile and play stupid.
Thanks for letting me vent! But I do have a point...don't think you'll just grow out of it. Like the advice someone here said, you just have to not care and focus on things that make you happy. Trust in that, because when I finally didn't care what "they" thought..I became my own person..and after 30 years of feeling the way you do...it feels damn good now.

I wouldn't say it's normal but I used to have the same. It usually mean you're too nice to ppl, they know it, and use it against you. You can't make ppl like you but try to find ppl who are like you. Don't be so hard on yourself too. If you dont like yourself, how can you expect others to like you? Ppl don't like ppl who don't like themselves. Believe in yourself and don't do anything drastic...if u know what I mean by drastic. I almost did but I didn't. And now I definitely do not regret it. Just believe things will b better!! B happy and find ppl who r like u...it may b hard now but it WILL get better...impossible things happen every day right? Lol:) good luck...I hope ur path gets smoother:)

You are a good person (or at least you can be). Once you truly believe this about yourself, others will too. So go sit in a corner and have a good cry, get it out of your system.

I can't help but offer advice. You came here with a story of being an outcast and a question of "why." If you didn't want some help, why are you crying out for it? You deserve to be happy.

You said you realize you have a gf who cares, well i think you should focus on her. I was exactly in your situation once and didn't realize i was lucky to have my gf, when she left i was really alone lol

I think the feelings that your feeling are coming from your attitude,cause no one wants to be around a very gloomy guy im sure if you feel happy and contempt about your self you will be more fun to hang around. If your not happy the way your body is you can change it go lift weights or run,I always feel better after a nice run and if your friends are gonna be downers like that get new friends and stop feeling sorry for your self and you will be able to conquer the world good luck :)

"I don't know how to make people like me"

Stop trying. I don't know how to explain it but things just work more smoothly when you don't give a shit if anyone likes what you have to say. I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

I'll tell you this story in the hope that it helps. I lost all my friends after high school. I had none going into college and it scared me shitless. But I delved into school-work and I found happiness in it. Because of my being happy I was able to be smart and quick in class and people liked me. From there I made friends whom I studied with and talked shit about the professors. I can't explain why they liked me other than I was happy and I was being myself; I didn't do it for anyone but me.

If I had done what you're doing and had cared only for what people thought and needed not only would I have been ruining my life (grades) but I would have made no friends because I was so worried in the first place about making them.

Again I'm sorry this is happening but crying in the corner won't fix it. You have to get off your ass and DO SOMETHING. Or else die. Those are your only options really.

To summarize: Live life for you. Focus on what you need and what you want out of it. Go to college or else find a career doing the thing you're passionate about. Focus relentlessly on making yourself happy and improving your life and I have no doubt you'll pick up friends along the way as I did.

Bro I feel you! I do the same shit with my friends but well I really don't care If they help me or not because I'm a very powerful men, and in my mind I could do everything by my self no matter what.!
So I suggest u just think how I think and get over it.. There's more people out there that u could be friends with.