Who should pick up the cheque?

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Okay so I keep getting mixed opinions on this matter so hopefully you lovely people can help solve this mystery once and for all; Who pays on dates?
So backstory; I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now and I'm still unsure as to who should pick up the check. Personally I'm a firm believer in equality so I think I should pay for us as much as he does. Plus, he is currently in university whereas I work. So a lot of the time I'll reach for the cheque, or when with other friends I'll pay separately. Now i thought guys liked that, knowing that I'm not in the relationship to get stuff for free, or some money grabbing hoe. However our one mutual friend recently was talking to me and told me to stop paying for so much stuff. That it was emasculating to my boyfriend. I really don't want him to feel this way but I also don't want to be one of those girls that make their boyfriend pay for everything.
So whats your opinion, should I continue picking up the cheque or let him do it?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    7 years ago

    Depends on whose idea it was to eat out. If he invites you somewhere, he should be willing to pay and vice versa. If you like paying your own way that is fine too.

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  • pantychaffe
    7 years ago

    Eat in and cook save that money to argue about aruba or NYC trip

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  • Rihyae
    7 years ago

    I'd say you just split the cheque.

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  • charli.m
    7 years ago

    It depends on too many things. I don't like not paying equally, but my boyfriend is Southern, and he tells me it's not the done thing for a man to let a woman pay. But I still pay for as much as I can. Or let him use my card a couple times. Or pay for the groceries or hotels instead of meals.

    Anyway, you're better off talking to him and coming to an arrangement.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    Oh for goodness sake, why ask us? ASK HIM, don't go on a secondhand opinion or the opinion of strangers on the internet, JUST ASK HIM. If you can't do that what sort of relationship are you in anyway?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Because I've asked a guy I was with this question before and he told me he wanted to pay for everything. Then three months later he complains about how I never pay for stuff.
      People are never completely honest in the beginning of a relationship, or at least that's what I find. People just say what they think their partner wants to hear.
      This is why I asked people on the internet. Because these people can be as brutally honest as they want and its okay cause everything is anonymous. They don't have to think about repercussions so they can give me their non biased opinions. That is why I asked.
      So how about you not question my relationship based on a innocent question meant only as a way to gather other peoples opinions. Okay? Thanks.

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  • FlameDragoon
    7 years ago

    Splitting the check would be the best idea or you can switch who pays it, one of you pays it one time and then the next time the other one pays.

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  • gingers
    7 years ago

    You take turns paying the check.

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  • dirtybirdy
    7 years ago

    I like to split it but if he/she insists then he/she can pay and I will next time.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    The person who extended the invitation picks up the cheque.

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  • MR.mr
    7 years ago

    This is one of those things, that's always complicated and different with every person.
    It's hard to figure out.

    Personally I think if a couple has been together for a while, a few months like you two it's fine to split things evenly.
    But it is important to let the guy pay for it f he wants to.

    I actually have a rule whenever I go on a first date, I pay for the meal, if it leads to more we can change things up but I always pay for the first dinner.

    My suggestion would be that when you go out to eat and they bring the check, wait a minute to see if he goes for it before you. That's my best suggestion as I said this is complicated as it's different with everyone.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      What's so complicated about asking him how he feels about it?

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  • jsnpq
    7 years ago

    Its really a matter of preference. If you don't know the other person's preference you should go ahead and just pay for yourself, if it's important to the other person to pay they will offer.

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