Who should pay when your girlfriend brings her children

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I have been out of dating for a while. Now that I am dating again it seems most women my age has children. When you go out with her and she brings her children who should pay? If you do an activity with her children who should pay? We are both in the same position financially. At what point should she pay for date when we go out ourselves? How often? I do not want to be cheap but dating is expensive and what is fair and the norm now that women have been empowered? Is it normal for women with children to pay on dates like this?

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Based on 42 votes (27 yes)
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  • Omega-Claws
    13 years ago

    Don't feel expected to pay for everything. She shouldn't even consider you paying for her kids

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  • unmarkedbeauty
    13 years ago

    She shouldn't bring her kids to dates, I find that odd in itself and if she cant leave them home alone, she should organize a babysitter or you go to hers. If it's a trip to the beach or something casual then I only see that normal having kids involved, I never went to my mums dates with her boyfriends... Neither would I want to.

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  • Gardenia
    13 years ago

    She should pay for her kid. You should offer to pay for her. But... She should be taking care of her own kids.

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  • MyWonderingMind
    13 years ago

    I will let you know right now that if you pay for her children and pay for everything they do with you, you are going to become a father like figure to them and her. You might be opening up to many doors by paying for them. This sounds silly but if you show to much attention to her kids she may be thinking to ahead into the future. I think she should be paying for her children and you guys can take turns paying for eachother. If things get more serious then why not you both pay for the outing.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    Women being "empowered" doesn't mean that men are expected to pay for them. In fact, quite the opposite. It means that women should have the opportunities that men do and earn the same money.

    I'm not 100% sure that we live in a fair society yet. But, if we did, then I think the parent of the child should pay, regardless of the gender of the parent of the child.

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  • freebee
    13 years ago

    Go Dutch 50/50

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Why would you date a girl with kids?

    Hit it & quit it

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  • --ash--
    13 years ago

    She's a package deal, remember!

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  • Omega-Claws
    13 years ago

    That isn't true kids aren't easy on accepting someone else as there dad.

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  • mitch777
    13 years ago

    depends how much you like her.. i mean, i dont think NOT paying for them wouldhurt you and you shouldnt have to pay for her kid.. but if you want to offer to pay or split the bill?

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  • enginelugger
    13 years ago

    Treating her is okay, but let her spring for her kids, not unless you want to spring for her and her kids... And/or, you treat them this time, and let her treat the next time!

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    she should pay for her own kids. you arent even obliged to offer.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    a girl you date should not have kids

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  • SweetSherry
    12 years ago

    You should pay for the kids also its a package deal if you can't handle it move on try looking harder for a woman without children you knew what you were getting into I'm sure she doesn't expect you to be daddy or a father figure for her kids over night but don't invite her and her kids out and then expect her to pay

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    if you are paying for her, why not for her children too. you are the sucker, does it matter how big of sucker you are?

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  • LiveLaughLove73
    13 years ago

    Exactly what gardenia said... Men Always Pay No Matter What! If u like the girl and want to keep her around a little longer don't be a dick and make her pay u invited... ':|

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    • Richie301
      11 years ago

      i think if te women likes the man she should pay 1/2,if I had kids and I wanted to date a women I wouldn't go out for a meal bring my kids and then ask the women to pay for me and my kids at the end,that's not an attactive package,I know loads of single mums who work and don't sit on benefits going round mates drinking tea all day waiting for a sucker bloke to come along to let them carry on and go out ect.

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  • fruitlover
    13 years ago

    Guys should pay for everything

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  • Savmagic
    13 years ago

    You pay... For everything...everytime...for everyone

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