White woman marring an indian man
I am a 30 year old lady who is engaged to a 26 year old man from India. When we met online he was living in England and just finished college there and I lived in the US, he saw on face book I was going to India to work in an orphanage in India and he messaged me. We began to Skype and speak on the phone on a daily basis and very quickly I found myself head over heels in love with him. He is not how I see a “typical” Indian at all (and up to that point I was totally stereotyping Indians I am very sorry), he is open minded, speaks what he thinks, never raises his voice to me, exc… Not that I don’t like White American men at all, I just never had a man capture my attention like this man. It’s been quite a while now since we have decided to get married and we are now waiting on US Immigration to okay him to come to the US so we can get married.
The one thing that breaks my heart daily is once we get married his family will have nothing to do with him. I know that is just the “boxed” Indian way of doing things but how can a Mother and Father give up their child just because they are not doing what they think is right? That just blows my mind. He says they are not bad people, and I most certainly don’t think they are bad people either, and that they will come around one day and except us. But what is that “one day” is too late? What if something happens and they never get the chance to say “I love you son and I miss you”? It won’t break their hearts it will break my future husbands heart and I will be there for him not matter what but come on people how can you make your “family” suffer like that?
Some days I feel if I never would of come into his life he would have it so much easier and maybe even better with an Indian Lady. I believe God made us for each other though and he wants this the way it is, but I can’t stand seeing the love of my life choose between me and his family. I feel like he leads 2 different lives sometimes. A life that his family “thinks” is him, and then the life that is really him, I couldn’t imagine living like that.
A few things I can tell all the ladies out there who are dating and Indian man is:
1. They are the most faithful men on earth…
2. They will NOT give up on you no matter what…
3. They believe that once you get married you are married for life and any problems you have you will work them out…
4. The younger Indians (between the ages for 18-30ish) are very open minded you just have to be willing to wait and let them do whatever they have to do to be with you (That is the hardest part for me the waiting)
So my advice to any lady who are in this type of relationship is please don’t get angry when you think they are not being open with you or they can’t answer the phone ever time you call. Because if they are with you, then they are with you, through thick and thin no matter what.