Which one do i pick!?

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So.. I haven't been in a relationship in a while, because I've been trying to take a break and focus on my education. Now there are three women in my life who very clearly want to go out with me. I really like all three of them and I kinda do want to be in a relationship again. The problem is that I feel like I've been leading them all on and I have a hard time asking one of them on a date because I don't want to hurt the others. It never used to be this difficult before, but maybe I've just gotten a little more mature? Is this normal?

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  • Summer_Baby96
    11 years ago

    Honestly, its normal.. i was in the same situation. but with two guys. i just spent time with each of them separtly and i choose the one that i felt could go farthur! And please DO NOT DATE ALL THREE AT THE SAME TIME!! Thats jst disrespect!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Date all three at the same time. So cash

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  • ruralfrights
    14 years ago

    You're not leading them on if you're being totally honest about where they stand with you, and ask them where you stand with them. And why not play the field. There's nothing wrong with going out with all three of them, again, as long as you're honest about seeing other people. That will give you what you need to choose, if you so choose to choose! Lol!

    Good luck .... And enjoy the joy of dating

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  • freebirdd
    14 years ago

    Do what u feel don't just think about looks go with who u understand and r comfortable with

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    How are you leading them on? All each one is saying is they are interested in going out with you. Do you think they would be so crushed if the dating didn't lead to a more exclusive relationship with you?

    If so, then you may be aggrandizing & a little taken up with your own fabulousity.

    They likely just want to date, are dating other guys, and want to see what, if anything, develops.

    None of them may want more to do with you after a few dates. I think you are presuming a bit much.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      14 years ago

      @Ollieo: Obviously the situation is a little deeper than you're making it seem. You need to tone down your negativity a little. I read some other comments you left on other topic and I've come to the conclusion that you hardly ever have anything good to say..

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  • imjustme
    14 years ago

    Which one makes you the most happiest? Which one do you like being with? Which one likes you a lot and shows it more? Which one do you think you can trust the most? Which one is the most mature. Which one when it comes down to it makes you feel happy when your sad?

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  • mysweetbananatree
    14 years ago

    choose the one you feel most at ease with. the one that has seen the true you, the you that can get sad sometimes, the you that isn't "perfect". choose the one you find yourself saying "i wish i could hear her voice right now".

    its hard but in those 3 girls there is one that stands out the most. choose the one that makes you happier =) if they really like you the other ones will understand cause they just want the best for u. i was one of the girls that wasn't picked and in the begging was hard to deal with it but than i got better. i saw him happy and i understood that no matter how much i liked him i wasn't the one for him, i wasn't and it made me sad. but one day there will someone who will pick me and then i will be has happy as him. so we are friends until today. we don't see each other everyday, we don't hang out that often but still we talk. he is a good friend. what he felt about me was strong and it turned in a solid friendship. as long as you keep this in mind i don't think there will be any problem.

    just choose the one that makes feel there you need nothing else! but don't forget once you have chosen u can't go back.
    think about it but don't over think it. "listen to your heart" lol

    good luck ^^

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    This has happened to me before. Just spend more time with each of them separately that will be a major impact on your decision and you'll know who you like more after sometime.

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  • Badger91
    14 years ago

    I've been in your situation before, best thing to do is think right? if I want a relationship which girl seems more mature, which one makes you laugh more? think to yourself can you see yourself sitting watching a dvd with this girl and just enjoying little things like that, and I bet that will narrow it down, don't feel bad about what is going on it just happens and it isn't your fault that they find you attractive just be honest with them, it's good that you are concerned about this because it shows you have a conscience and you are being considerate about their feelings, just go on a date with each of them but obviously keep it on the low and see which one is more fun, but think about it long and hard cause you could regret who you choose!

    hope this was a bit helpful and good luck!

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