Which is better to say....

My aunt lives in a big city and has a lot of black friends. When I talked to my cousin about one of them, I said something like "Who was that black guy?" She told me that it isn't "right" to call them "black" anymore, and to be polite, I'd have to call them "African American".

I don't want to be rude. I'm just not sure what to say. So tell me, which do you think is best?

It's okay to say "Black" 54
Always say "African American" 5
Just use the "N" word - (Which I personally think is VERY RUDE!) :( 6
Say anything you can think of (Also VERY RUDE!) :( 3
Other (Add a comment) 4
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  • I don't see a problem with 'black'. By that logic, all the white people in America should be called 'European Americans'.

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  • howaminotmyself

    Just call them black. Sometimes you can be too PC. The context of your sentence will determine the intention. A racist can easily turn "African American" into a derogatory phrase.

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  • KeyboardSolo

    "Black" is a fine term. Not technically accurate, but white people aren't really white either. Typically. Damn caucasian albinos...

    Most black Americans have no cultural African roots, and some of them don't even have ancestry there (anyone who brings up the belief that all humanoid life started in Africa is getting smacked). Then you have white Africans. Then you have black people who weren't born in America.

    I'm sure there are other ways to make "African American" look like a ridiculous term, but I'm bored now.

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  • I once heard about a guy who insisted that black holes (in space) should be called 'African American holes'. I'm not kidding.

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  • @mar

    I'd prefer to be referred to as black. Only because African American makes no sense to me since I was not born in Africa and later became and an American citizen. That then leaves the question of what should we be called? Although as howaminotmyself stated anyone could make either phrase sound derogatory. I don't understand why the "N" word was an option. There are a million other words in the English language I don't understand why people decide to use that one (white,black or anyone else). I personally refuse to use any racial slur regardless of whether I'm part of the group or not.

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    • That's great @mar! I don't use racial slurs either. All they are are ways to put down people who are different than the person speaking.

      Also, that's why I get confused. Most black people in the US aren't born in Africa, so why call them "African" Americans.

      The "N" word is an option because, whether we like it or not, there are still people who use it and think it's ok. :(

      And to everyone who left a comment:

      Thank you. For the most part, your comments have been helpful. I appreciate them.

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  • Faceless

    The N word? Whys that even an option? But I picked any ways. Im a humanitarian like that.

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    • anomaly3642

      Word.

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  • triarius

    I'll stop saying Nigger when they call Cracker 'The C Word'

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  • wigsplitz

    You could just say "who's that GUY/GIRL", I don't know why it's necessary to identify them as a black guy unless there's 2 guys standing there and one's black and the other is white or something.

    But if you must, I'd say black because not all black people are African so I always thought that was stupid.

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  • say brown you wont get in trouble that way

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  • t33h33

    black is correct. I am white. why not

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  • African American is a term white Americans came up with to make themselves feel better. In many cases it isn't even accurate.

    Colin Powell's ancestors are West indian, and before he joined the Bush Administration that's what he identified himself as. Sidney Poitier, although born in Miami, is Bahamian. Delroy Lindo, an actor who many people would generally describe as African American, is in fact British. Lennie James, an actor who has appeared in "Jericho" and "Human Target" is also English.

    The actor Djimon Hounsou, who appeared in Gladiator and Amistad, is an actual African American, having been born in Benin and taking American citizenship. A Beninese-American. Hounsou is one of just twenty-seven people in the world today to be officially recognized by this nationality.

    You want to get technical, and interesting, actress Charlize Theron is also an African American, having been born in Benoni, Gauteng, South Africa and becoming a naturalized American citizen in 1997.

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  • eternalsmoke31

    I dont like "black" because for one most of us aren't the color black...for two its pretty clear what is implied because black embodies all that is negative and evil and white embodies all that is good and pure, for example the greatest day of your life (wedding for some) you wear white,heaven is always portrayed as white robes and light...and the bad times(funerals) you wear black, hell is dark but also fiery at the same time... and most caucasians are not white! I call myself Native American because that is really what I am...A native of the united states of america, ive never been to africa and dont claim africa..even though it was probably the birthplace of all humans... but i digress..

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  • milkmonster77

    it all depends on whos around when you are talking about it.....with my close friends its always "nigger"....around everyone else its black or african american...i mean c'mon...lets not act like were not all a little racist....

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  • since when is black offensive?

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  • If we must be referred to as "African American", then white people should be referred to as "European American".

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    • What about Australians and New Zealanders? Or whites from South African and Rhodesia?

      My brother was born in London. I was born in New York and my sister in Hong Kong. All of good English stock. How should we be described?

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  • anomaly3642

    I knew this Haitian once who would be enraged when some one called him African American. He was black as black can be, but he was not from Africa and he wanted the whole world to know. So I think it can also be offensive to call all blacks -African American. But you have to agree with Chris Rock that there is that subcategory of black people that are just "the N word," (since you do not like it), and thats what you call them. Unless you are a "C word." (and I'm not talking about female parts.)

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  • bakerj99

    I can come them blacks all day long.

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