Which girl should i rather try to text?

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Allright, I am a seriously shy and introverted person, I am even afraid of texting a girl because I might screw it up badly. I have few male friends and no female friends at all. I am 18, turning 19 soon. I finished 12 years of school and soon I will be studying, not knowing any of those new people. I enjoy video games, biking and lots of dark humor.

Still there are 2 different girls I am into and I feel like texting one of them, but I can't decide which one, that is where all of you come in.
I will tell you something about both and you vote which one you think is more suitable for a friendship or maybe even a relationship in the long-term run.

Person A: She is 15, by the end of this year 16. I know a little bit about her life and her hobbies (dancing, playing piano, singing in a choir). She is a rather open and communicative person. She is also the best friend of the sister of a friend who passed away. Her parents seem rather weird and I don't like them too much. She lives a few hundred meters away from me in the same village. I kind of fear that the age difference between us could be a problem and how her friends may react.

Person B: She is 18, soon 19. I don't know too much about her other than who are her friends and that she can draw absolutely amazing. We have been in the same class in elementary school (year 1-4) and later on at the same school in parallel classes (year 5-12). She seems to be a rather shy and calm person as I am. She lives in an adjacent village a few kilometers away from me. I kind of fear that she will study in another city far away and that building up contact is pointless.

If you are still reading this, thank you for taking your time and helping me out. Feel free to leave a comment and / or ask me if you need further information.

Have a great day!

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  • Ellenna
    4 years ago

    What's wrong with texting with both of them?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Well, because I never had any kind of female friend before I think choosing only 1 of them would help. It just makes things easier.

      If you have to choose one, would it be A or B?

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      • Ellenna
        4 years ago

        It doesn't sound to me as if you know either of them well enough to make a choice, which is why I suggest that you keep texting both of them, get to know them a lot better and a choice will become clearer

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          Interesting line of thought

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  • d0esnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Person B because you don't have to wait 3 years for sex and also it sounds like she fits your personality a little better.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I appreciate your answer, even though the age of consent law is somewhat different in my country and don't care too much about the sexual stuff.

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      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        What is the law in your country?

        Even if its legal, I still think its immoral to fuck a 15 year old as a 19 year old. Don't you think that's immoral?

        Even if you don't actually fuck her, people will assume you do or get suspicious that your with a girl that young.

        What do you mean excatly by not caring about 'sexual stuff'? Sex is what your body wants bro, and I can guarantee that once you've been with either girl for a while snd grown closer you will start to really care about the sexual aspect of it. Your sex drive is what's making you pursue girls in the first place.

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        • GaelicPotato
          4 years ago

          I don't think it's immoral.

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          • d0esnormalmatter
            4 years ago

            Okayyyyy. I think so and so does the law but if you think the line is one year lower there's no way I can really debate that. But 16 is the cut off in my personal opinion.

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            • Sad18yo
              4 years ago

              Agreed. As a 19 yo myself I would feel weird being intimate with a 15 yo (even though I’m certainly just as stupid and childish as I was at 15)

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            • GaelicPotato
              4 years ago

              It's also illegal in some countries and states for a 17 year old to be with an 18 year old even if they've been together for 5 years.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          Well she would turn 16 before I turn 19. And no, I don't think that it is immoral.

          I mean that any sexual related things are not my primary goal. My primary goal is a friendship.

          I don't deny that sooner or later a more intimate contact would be appreciated, but it is definitely not my main motivation.

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          • d0esnormalmatter
            4 years ago

            Okay if it's legal and just 3 years your probably fine. Some people might question it a little but don't worry about it.

            Have you had a relationship before? Like a serious one? Because you seem to have no clue what the fuck your doing. "Primary goal is friendship", that sounds like a complete joke! You want sex really bad, stop lying to yourself. Wanting sex isn't shallow. I have known a lot of guys in a lot of relationships and have been in 2-3 depending what counts, and I know that what you want is sex! The Male sex drive is strong and you should embrace it and quit flying the false flag of just wanting friendship.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              4 years ago

              Why are you trying to tell me that I want sex above anything else?

              I know way better what I want and I just told you how it is.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              4 years ago

              No, I never had a female friendship or relationship before. But does that matter?

              In my opinion there needs to be some solid social fundament (aka a friendship) to go on with a relationship and / or sexual stuff.

              Of course you can trick people and give them fake compliments and stuff, but that is not what I am looking for.

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  • theyushdance
    4 years ago

    I would say person B she is closer to your age so in my opinion that means you’ll be able to relate to certain things that your age group would. Also even if she studies somewhere else you can still be friends or whatever you guys wind up to be I have a long distance friend it’s not difficult at all plus I’m a shy person so it’s even better for me since I’m a lot more talkative through texting.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Thank you for your opinion

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  • jethro
    4 years ago

    Try calling them instead. Sooner or later you are going to have to talk to them anyway.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      But it is weird to call a person out of nowhere when you have like never really talked to her before

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      • jethro
        4 years ago

        How the hell do you think people did it for decades before there was texting? And before that you actually had to speak to them face to face. It isn't weird, it is courteous and proper to call someone and actually talk to them.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          Things change over time, I could never imagine not having the option of texting, because then I would probably be never able to find someone.

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          • jethro
            4 years ago

            Perhaps that is the new version of natural selection. You will become extinct because you can't talk to a woman and eventually procreate. Charles Darwin was right.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              4 years ago

              Maybe.

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  • bigbudchonga
    4 years ago

    If 16 is of legal sex age in your cuntry then text both; if not, then just text person B. You've got to put more than one rod in the waters if you want better chances at catching a fish. It's not as if you're in a relationship with any of them, so why not text both and see which one you prefer, and also one of them might not prefer you. Text both, double your chances.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I see your point, thanks for your opinion.

      But why exatcly is the sex aspect so important for you?

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      • bigbudchonga
        4 years ago

        Just don't want you to get into trouble. If you're pursuing these girls romantically then I would really err on the side of caution if one of them is underage. I wouldn't be surprised if you caught a criminal charge for persuing a non-sexual relationship, with romantic undertones, for someone just shit of the age of consent.

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