Which do you care about more?
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| Personality | 200 |
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AnalyticalAm
I'm a chemistry kind of person.
I need to find the person attractive and they need a good personality before I'm actually ATTRACTED to them. It makes it kind of difficult for me I guess. I see attractive men all the time, but I'm not actually attracted to them because I don't know them(or the kind of person they are).
I want to say one comes first, but it doesn't for me. Someones personality can be sexy. Someones looks can be sexy. I have to feel it.
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bananaface
I definitely prefer personality, especially humour. Looks are also very important to me. There isn't really a clear cut as to how much I prefer them. It's more like how forgiving I am of one of these traits if the other trait makes up for it. If that makes any sense whatsoever.
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[Old Memory]
I think looks are more valuable in the social area today, also in alot of jobs in todays world, mainly media and entertainment.
Me personally, I care more about my looks, I can fake many personalities, as I'm sure others can too. Although looks, they can't really be changed, they can only be covered.
Although, in a relationship, looks is mainly what attracts people, personality is what usually holds people together.
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taciturn
Really? I tend to think that looks can be changed and personality can only be covered. It's very rare to find someone who can fully conceal their true thoughts/feelings, but plastic surgery is getting more and more advanced.
Completely agree with your last point though.
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[Old Memory]
Yeah, I suppose. I think it depends on how you look at it. I mean, some people could be the ugliest person ever, in that case even personality might not save them. And, somepeople might be just evil but look great, but people usually overlook people's personality if they're good looking and if the person hides who they are well enough.
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taciturn
True. People like to think that all they care about is personality, but the truth is that attraction often matters far more than they think, just on a subtler level.
There was a very interesting study done where they showed a photo of a very attractive woman to some men, and a photo of a very unattractive woman to other men, and had them each talk on the phone to a woman chosen from a randomized group. The men who were shown the attractive photo were unanimously more likely to describe the woman as charming, smart, funny, and sociable, and the men shown the unattractive photo said the opposite.
But there's another twist. The phone conversations were recorded and played for another group of men - the "attractive photo" women were STILL judged as charming, smart, and attractive, and the "unattractive photo" women were STILL judged as awkward, dumb, and ugly. Despite that this group of men never saw a photo, and the women in the conversations were a random set.
So it was self-fulfilling! The men who thought they were talking to an attractive women actually made the women act in a more "attractive" manner. So this implies that a significant degree of personality is actually influenced by how others perceive your physical appearance. Interesting, right?
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dom180
That is really interesting, and I think I've noticed it in real life as well, maybe even caught myself acting that way. It does make sense, although I almost wish it didn't xD
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[Old Memory]
Agreed. I mean, if looks didn't matter, then why is it that females wear makeup so often to enchance their looks? And why do men workout constantly to enchance their physical appearance? Too many things in todays world point to appearance being very important, just as much, nearly as much, or more than personality.
It irritates me that people think personality matters, it's like they are missing that sense of reality in the modern world.And I think I heard about that study before, quie a while ago though. I agree with you completely on it.
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taciturn
Well, I wouldn't go that far. I do think personality matters, I just think that looks affect people a lot more than they think. But to think personality has NO effect is missing the point too, in my opinion. I know I've met very attractive girls that I would absolutely never want to date or even be around, because of their vile personality. I've also developed feelings for girls that I was not particularly physically attracted to. But I've noticed, even in my own romantic history, that it's rare for that to happen. I think if people were more honest with themselves they'd realize that they view the behavior of an attractive person in a VERY biased light.
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DolphinAngel
I have to agree with you and I am same... I think it is sad that nobody cares about your (true) personality anymore but I can't change it!
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Call.me.Curious
Let's say this..
The person is insanely attractive, but rude to everyone.
& You're gonna stay with that person because they're attractive? No.
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Hmmaybe
Looks with being attracted to them, personality when choosing a boyfriend or girlfriend.
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pandabear1209
Looks get my attention, I do need to be attracted. Personality is what wins me over-or scares me away lol if I had to choose one, i would choose personality, because if I get to know someone their personality can make them more attractive.
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dom180