Where to meet girls?

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I am getting "old" and still have never been in a relationship and am starting to feel it is about time I find myself a girlfriend. The only problem is that I am highly inconfident and massively afraid of rejection. I do not really have a clue where to meet girls and therefore turn to you on this community to get the answer; what is the best place for meeting girls?

I might have to state that I am not really interested in aimless one night stands, but rather a real relationship, but something still tells me nightclubs are the easiest way of meeting girls, but on the other hand I feel most people go to nightclubs either to "score" or just to have a good time, just dancing tbe night away.

I do not even know what the point of this post is, but I'll publish it anyways. :p

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  • CarlTheBugFucker
    7 years ago

    I like to hang out near the women's lingerie dept at Target and stare at women while they browse.

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  • Kate2495
    7 years ago

    Twitch.tv

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  • mrbrownfinger6
    7 years ago

    Kindergarten

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  • Dot123
    7 years ago

    Whole Foods!

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  • Babybloodknuckles
    7 years ago

    That's right down vote everybody fucking cock suckers!!!

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  • Decorum
    7 years ago

    What really stands in my way is the fact that I completely lack self-esteem and confidence, not only when it comes to dating but overall, in general too. For each day that passes I also feel like I drift further and further away from ever having a girlfriend. Something that lowers my confidence even more, which in turn gives me that feeling of slowly getting further and further away from that first girlfriend. It is an evil spiral.

    When I do a little thinking I quickly realise that I have never really been in love, so in a way that girl to kiss has never really been around. The fact that I have low self-esteem and shite confidence has also – and still is – kept me away from parties or other places where you nirmally would meet girls. IF I attend one of these places, however, my confidence prevents me flirting with the girls I find attractive and interesting. I can, I do keep conversations with them and sometimes I even make them laugh, but I do not really flirt or ”make moves” because my fear of rejection is huge.

    I know for a fact that I am not very good-looking, but I am nit horrendous looking either. I can keep conversation with a girl going and I take good care of myself. I could probably get a girl - I only need to grow a pair of balls and stopped fearing rejection so much to replace it with a more masculine, risk-taking attitude.

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    Try meetup .com and you can find all kinds of social events. Search for your interests and go to those activities. For example I like to sing, so I go to karaoke and because I am a good singer, girls want to sing with me. There are many kinds of events on meetup.

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  • hgjukbjk
    7 years ago

    I usually find girls in my apartment. I sit there and then after a few hours girls start showing up. I bought an extra lock to keep them out.

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    • Decorum
      7 years ago

      Hang some garlic above the door step. ;)

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  • rayb12
    7 years ago

    Friend of friend I think is best if you are lucky to have friends. Then, I don't have a smartphone but if you do tinder or bumble seem to be good.

    If neither of those, I would no longer be speaking from experience, but I would think if you have any hobbies that would involve seeing others, like rock climbing or a biking group or an open mic night, you'd be in a position to meet someone that would have a shared interest.

    You have to let go of this "highly inconfident massively afraid" shit though. Just say you are confident and eventually it will be true. Think about really wanting to fuck or do whatever it is that you like with someone and let that be what drives you.

    And when you meet someone just imagine they are very ugly and you are very attractive and treat them like you would not as a partner per se but more like you would a friend.

    And just smile and try to reveal as many flawed things about yourself as you can, without sounding like they bother you.

    That's as much as I think I can say for now, but yeah, women are as horny as men so the odds are in your favor, confidence is 80% what they look for and showering/having a pulse account for maybe 18.5-19% of the remaining 20%

    If you are truly "old" I would endeavor even to get rejected just to enjoy the rush of it, and so it won't become scary for you.

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    • Decorum
      7 years ago

      I only have a small portion of friends and none of them is female and neither do I have a smartphone nor do any of my hobbies include anything where you'd meet someone (I like reading and writing). And I am in my mid 20's so I am not reallty that old, but old enough to make the fact I've never had a girlfriend strange.

      Lol.

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      • keru
        7 years ago

        You can publish a book in Wattpad. You'll get attention depending on how well you write!

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    Girls are everywhere except sitting around your house all day: get out there. Your lack of confidence and fear of rejection = your ego is too damn big. Kill it or you'll cringe and shame yourself throughout a miserable life.

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  • Babybloodknuckles
    7 years ago

    Local mall!

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    • Decorum
      7 years ago

      Very creepy place to initiate contact imo.

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      • Babybloodknuckles
        7 years ago

        What the local mall!!

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        • Decorum
          7 years ago

          Who the fuck approaches girls at the mall? That is the obvious behaviour of a semi-rapist. xD Additionally meeting up at the mall is something that belongs in the past. Modern generations do not go to the mall to hang out. That concept is dead.

          Furthermore, with the rise of online-shopping, I am convinced all malls in smaller cities will have to shut down in very near future. Lol.

          Anyways, how do you go about to approach a stranger at the mall? Seems very odd to me.

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  • CorruptedSoul
    7 years ago

    IIN. The hottest women on earth are on IIN hahhah

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    • Decorum
      7 years ago

      But the question is; are they normal? :O

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