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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now, and he has lived with me for pretty much our entire relationship. We get along great, and we really connect on many levels. One problem, we don't say "I love you" to each other. I feel that I've been patient with him, but at this point, it's kinda say it or we should break up. Please help.
Have you tried saying "I love you" to him? That would be a good place to start.
Also, that sounds like a trivial thing to break up over. Then again, I'm not in your position so I won't judge.
Sometimes people won't say things because their waiting for you to say it first but if you are too it's never gonna happen! Take the chance to do it and he's bound to say it back! ;)
Have you ever told him "I love you"?
Maybe he is asking himself the same question.
Another possibility is that he does not like these words "I love you", maybe he considers it to be a cliche or something. However, if he is affectionate with you in other ways and you have a great relationship, I think it would not be a good idea to break up with him just because of the three words which he does not say if you do not say these words either.
My wife never says it to me but i know she loves me just by the things she does.
I actually say it more than she does.
He does help with the bills and rent, and he is for the most part pretty affectionate with me. Like it seems like we have a perfect relationship, except that we don't say "I love you" it's gotten to the point where when he tells my dog that he loves him, it drives me crazy. How can he love my dog, but not me.
Does he help pay the rent and bills and stuff? If he didn't live with you, would he have somewhere else to go? If not, I thinks he's basically using you. But I also think some guys just aren't the I love you type.
I have hinted to him about it and based on his reaction to that, he is obviously not feeling it. It is just weird that after a year of dating, and 9-10 months of him living with me that he would have such a problem with it. It really frustrates me and makes me feel that he is just with me out of connivence rather than him wanting to be with me. It kinda feels like he is taking me for granted.
I have abondment issues from my childhood and 2 bad relationships so I do need to be told 'I love you'. I guess your bf must know that. I do understand what you feel, But leaving the person is not the way. May be you should deal with it. Does he spend time with you enough? does he call you when he's away for long time? If yes then that's his way of saying it.
Well. I said it. And regret it. He told me that he really cares about me and likes me a whole lot, but he believes that love is dead. Aaaannddd reactions, go.
Yeah that's strange that he hasn't said it. I mean I'm in love with a girl that I'm not even dating. I met her about six months ago, and two months ago I realized that I was in love with her. So for you guys to be dating for an entire year, it's weird that he hasn't said it. Ask him if he trely loves you, and if he doesn't, maybe it's time for things to end.
It can take a long time for a guy to truly realize and accept his feelings for someone, but the same goes for girls too. Maybe he's afraid of what you will think? Talk to him!