Where does admiration end and attraction starts? (hocd)

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I'll point this out first: I have HOCD. (Which stands for obsessive compulsive disorder centered around your sexual orientation)

So okay, now that I stated the bottom-line issue here, I'll keep writing my seek for reassurance. (Yeah, this never works, but I just need to know!)

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My questions are:

-How can I be friends with a girl and not think I like her?
-How can straight girls admire other girls and not clash with attraction?
-If you're straight, can you all of the sudden have romantic feeling for someone of the same sex? (Hasn't happened, but I do wish the answer is no.)
-Are you born being heterosexual/homosexual?
-Can you turn from happily straight to homosexual against your will?

I do know I have HOCD because I can always feel truly reassured after I do a compulsion and my past self always shines through this freaking demon possessing me, but it's still OCD.
So... yeah.

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Thanks. :)

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  • Crow
    8 years ago

    1. Don't be attracted to her.

    2. The sunset is pretty but I have no urge to fuck it.

    3. Some people do. Sexuality isn't black and white. There are bisexuals, bi-curious and folks who just change preferences at some point in their lives. They're a minority, though.

    4. Scientists haven't found a solid link between orientation and genetics yet.

    5. I'd assume so. No one really chooses their orientation.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    8 years ago

    -How can I be friends with a girl and not think I like her?
    "We are friends and we enjoy each other's company and we don't need to touch each other to do that."

    -How can straight girls admire other girls and not clash with attraction?
    "She is beautiful and I am secure enough with my self-image and sense of being to understand that my worth is not simply a comparison of myself against others. Who I am is not defined simply by my appearance"

    But sometimes they do feel jealousy and fume but are mature enough to keep it to themselves.

    And sometimes they do go at it... watch Keeping Up With The Kardashians and you'll see.

    -If you're straight, can you all of the sudden have romantic feeling for someone of the same sex? (Hasn't happened, but I do wish the answer is no.)
    Yeah.

    -Are you born being heterosexual/homosexual?
    Your sexuality is neurological and hormonal so really you are born with specifications for a sexuality as much as you are born with ten fingers and ten toes.

    -Can you turn from happily straight to homosexual against your will?
    That's very rare, usually involves some neurological damage, drug use or hormone treatment. Never heard of spontaneous homosexuality.

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    • MistyStardust
      8 years ago

      Thanks a lot for your answers!
      I would've explain my difficult, heavy situation but the limitation of characters on a post wouldn't let me, so I go straight to the point. For the first questions, the things is I haven't had a friend for years, so my people skills are kinda rusty.

      The last answer eased my worry. I've heard people change orientation out of yearn and not fear... (ugh, this is OCD anyway) and I'll try to remind myself that.

      It was really helpful to get a normal perspective on this issue (because most of the advice I hear come from HOCD/OCD sufferers and specialists).

      Thanks again. :)

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    You're over thinking this one.

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  • NathanScot
    8 years ago

    I need a drink.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Oh gawd, not ANOTHER alphabet disorder? When did some shrink make this one up to cover his or her ineptitude?

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    • problematic
      5 years ago

      Hocd is a very real thing that many people suffer with, including me. Before you say anything about any disorder, maybe educate yourself a bit. Hocd is a theme of pure ocd, basically a subtype that revolves around a topic. It is very stressful and hard to go through so please don't be on here accusing people of making things up. This is very real and very hard.

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