Whenever i voice my opinion my bf yells

Whenever my bf talks about going out, I always get upset. Bc his friends go there to hookup, some are in relationships but some aren’t. And he gets furious at me whenver I tell him I’m uncomfortable. I try to say it in the nicest way possible but he still yells, calls me crazy and says I’m accusing him of cheating. Is this normal? How do I voice my concern where he won’t yell.
Trust me, if u saw his group chat and what his friends say, you would get nervous too

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Comments ( 35 )
  • e51pegasi

    From what you say he's a bully, probably a cheating bully. Leave him & find someone who will treat you right.

    I don't think any of the regular users on this site would even be slightly nervous of what your boyfriend & his mates say in group chat.

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      • e51pegasi

        Which part of my post are you struggling with?

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  • Whatintarnation

    Two sides to every story of course but your boyfriend sounds like a dick. If he cant control his emotions, you should find someone who is not still a little boy.

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  • BadBolognaGrl

    Please fucking leave him, if he can't work this out. Of course he could be paranoid, but if you're trying to voice your opinion about his whereabouts now-and-then and he calls you shit, yells and gets all boomed up, he's got to get some damn help. If you can't express your own opinion around someone who's supposed to be one of the closest to you and listen, he needs to get some therapy or anger management; and you need to ditch that boy who can't control himself and gets all heated up for you simply voicing what you mean. Being around him sounds like a drag.

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    • What do you reccomend to say to him

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  • RoseIsabella

    You can tell him you are uncomfortable all you want, but you can't force him to stop going. He's gonna do whatever the Hell he wants, that's a given, but if you don't like it you can always leave him. You are powerless over what he does, because he has the free will to do whatever he wants to do.

    You also have your own free will to do what you so choose with yourself and your life.

    If I were you I'd leave this guy as would most of the other people here who are kind enough to continue to listen to your story.

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    • I don’t think anyone, not even my family knows, that it’s fucking hard to leave a one year relationship when you feel abused emotionally and you already have emotional problems.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Sure it's not easy, but I've met women who have left 30 year marriages!

        I left a nearly six year marriage, because of cheating, and believe me I have plenty of my own emotional problems. It really all boils down to how much you want to get better versus how afraid you are to be alone.

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        • Yeah. What emotional issues do u have?

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          • RoseIsabella

            You really like to nit pick and deflect, don't you? This isn't about comparing and contrasting in an effort to make up excuses. I don't know the specifics of your emotional issues, and it's probably none of my business anyway just like I don't care to talk about the specifics of mine. The point is that I have issues too, but I don't use it as an excuse.

            Anyway, let's stay on topic here. You can choose to accept his behavior, or you can decide that it's unacceptable, and decide to move on with your life. It's your choice.

            Regardless, he's not going to change unless he wants to do so, and it appears that he doesn't want to change himself.

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            • Sorry. And thank you. How old are you? You sound mature

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  • Aethylfritha

    Dont talk just punch him in the ballz

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    • RoseIsabella

      My sister did that for real once.

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      • Aethylfritha

        Lol me too. This guy asked me to the movies and then tried to take off my bra, first date no foreplay. I did that.

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        • RoseIsabella

          YaY!

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          • Yay what

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            • RoseIsabella

              YaY for punching him in the balls. YAY!!!

              Next time you should punch him in the balls, and then just leave him.

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  • EuphoniumLizz

    Not normal, leave him.

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  • Rictictavie

    Here we go again...

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  • TheFypsyBaylor

    It's normal because you are a female and females really shouldn't open their mouths or express opinions due to the fact that they are emotional bags of nonsense. Cook his dinner, clean his house, tend to his physical needs, and shut up.

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    • ThrowawayAccount1

      Some babies were dropped on the head but you were clearly thrown at a wall.

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    • trekngailis

      Why does nature made male and female, if they both have same power of opinion? It is not logic, one of them should be leader.

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    • Ireland_is_bad

      I can hear your Irish accent all the way over here.

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  • ThrowawayAccount1

    Ah, this may be a late response, but get as far away from this deranged nutbag as you can.
    That is emotional abuse, and possibly sexual abuse if he’s forcing you to hook up with his friends. I read one of your posts that says you have emotional issues, and if your boyfriend knows of these issues, he could be taking advantage of them.
    Relationships are supposed to feel like both lovers are there for each other. They don’t always have to be happy, but it sounds like your boyfriend doesn’t have your back. Yelling if you make a polite objection, calling you crazy (also known as gaslighting, which is a form of abuse), and accusing you of cheating can all be forms of manipulation. That guy is probably an asshole who doesn’t know how to control himself, or he doesn’t care about you and wants you for sex only.

    Either way, I advise that you HELL away from this man and his friends. It’s for your own good, because his abuse could get worse in the future.

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  • Ireland_is_bad

    Figure out if he's cheating using mathematics. His amount of Irish DNA is directly related to how likely it is.

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  • barstool

    So he willingly makes you uncomfortable and doesn't give a fuck? You shouldn't let people treat you like that.

    He's probably oversensitive and angry because he's cheating. But if not, he's just a dick. Sounds like he doesn't really care about you as a person all that much. He's definitely got no respect.
    So.... rip off the band aid. Quick and painless. Tell him to hit the road.

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    • He gets mad cuz he thinks i accuse him of cheating just when I tell him I’m uncomfortable with him going out

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      • Ellenna

        So he's denying something you're not accusing him of? That's a huge red flag in my opinion and if he can't control his verbal anger you need to move on and find someone who respects you

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        • Idk what to say to him tho. He always thinks he’s right

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          • Ellenna

            If you're looking for the magic words to change someone who always thinks he's right, those words don't exist.

            Why are you still with someone who always thinks he's right?

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            • Maybe I’m wrong

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  • trekngailis

    Girls are supposed to do whetever man wish. Thinking is bussiness of men, women should clean, raise kids.

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