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I'm asking this question becasue I've seen loads of people tease people with issues they cannot controll and they seem to find it amusing. So I want to see what everyone else thinks :)
| Stare at them in awe......... | 3 | |
| Feel sorry for them ............. | 32 | |
| Nothing | 43 | |
| Make Fun Of Them, They Dont Deserve To Live Anyways | 6 | |
| Other (Add a comment) | 15 |
I try to work out from their body language whether they want me to be open about things, or whether they want me to pretend they're just like anyone else.
This is going to sound very ungenerous but I think people with disabilities or disfigurement can sometimes (only sometimes) be quite selfish in their worldview and get frustrated with the able-bodied for not knowing how they (and specifically them, one person) wants to be treated when someone else with the same disablement might want to be treated completely differently.
I'll treat anyone whichever way they're happiest with, but I'm not a mind-reader.
oh that reminds me of a TV programme I watched yesterday 'Smaller teen in a bigger world' how to offer enough help but without over-doing it and making her feel completely incompetent. It seems like a tricky balance!
Funnily enough, I mentioned that programme on this site last week. It's been fantastic to watch, and Jazz's mum is an absolute riot. They both are. I missed the final episode last night but I know it's repeated on BBC3 tonight. There's not much that would prise me away from The History of Maths (on BBC4 on at the same time), but this will. :)
They seem much more like sisters to me, they are so close. Jazz's mum and dad make a funny duo though, maybe it's because of their different personalities but her mum seems to be doing a lot of the flirting! XD
Aww, I saw it last night. They remind me of a lot of the people I know, I suppose, because they're from the same part of the country as me. Everyone's funny here. It's a lot of pressure. Hehe. And I've got the strangest feeling I've bumped into her dad a couple of times on the street a few years back.
I love how jealous her mum got when her dad put aftershave on before his first day at the zoo and then covered it by suggesting he was going to pull a female baboon. Great TV. :)
Is that Wales then? Geography was never my strong point, nah my favourite bit was when Jazz's mum put the underwear model next to his face and said 'if you that I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off you' and I'm just thinking pft you totally can't keep your hands off as it is ;D sucks that he went back to heroin
I really hate when people stare, but I'm sure that today when I was in the grocery store, it seemed like me and this "physically challenged" woman were constantly seeing each other. I have a tendency to dose off and gaze at absolutely nothing and I think that maybe she got the impression that I was staring at her disability. I felt really bad.
Not to mention this guy who was just a little bit slow drove his cart into my leg out of no where so before I realized, I yelled "Excuse you!".. I don't know.. It just wasn't my day today. I do feel terrible about it though..
Other: I treat them like I would any other person.
If the people you associate with act otherwise they have serious issues and need to grow up.
When I see them and I acknowledge that they're mentally handicap I treat them like everyone else because I imagine most people treat them like they're special.
I secretly wish that a group of jocks or something goes over to make fun of them and the (dis)Abled person does some crazy crutch/chair-fu that leaves the jocks screaming in agony and permanently impotent while the (dis)Abled person hobbles/wheels off into the sunset with a harem of hot bitches/gigolos of their preference.
...But it's not a perfect world. Yet...
I treat them like everybody else. They are still people. This also means, that if they are having a hard time doing something, I'm going to help them out just like I would help out anybody else.
ive seen a severly disabled person teased it was so nice. he was writhing in the chair and making loud noises . a person had introduced him to us all and said he supported a different soccer team . so funny
I work with people with physical disabilities EVERY DAY - the worst thing you can do is feel sorry for them! They want independence and to be treated fairly....
Just because they a physically challenged either mentally or wheelchaired, you should treat them the same way you would treat a non-physically challenged person, talk to them get to know them for what they are like you would a regular person, and if they turn out to be snot bastards like some regular people then not talk to them. What I am trying to get at is they ain't no different than regular folks. {Speaking from experience, cause I am a crimp, wheel chair bound from an automobile accident couple years previous}:
I do my very darned best to act as if they where completely normal. Although I have to admit that a part of me keeps an eye out in case they need help.
I treat them exactly the same as anyone else.
I had a very small taste of how they feel when I suddenly went deaf at Christmas and suffered severe vertigo. On my way home from hospital, we stopped in town to buy my son a coat but had to park and walk a little. My husband held me up because I walked as though I was extremely drunk and my teenage son held my hand. I found that most people were very kind and moved out of our way, although the sales staff sort of stared at me. It didn't really bother me coz I was worrying so much about not falling over, but I would've explained the problem if anyone had asked me.
Funnily enough, my teenage son later confessed that he was really angry with people looking at me (behind my back) but he was just being protective.
I am still deaf as it hasn't come back and it just reinforces that elderly or disabled people are exactly the same as the rest of people - in their minds anyway.
Well, I don't think its right to make fun of them, stare at them, or even feel sorry for them. I just think to myself that they're a human being, and should be treated like one.
You treat them like any other person. I imagine "Hey I just met you tell me about that stump" gets annoying. I would not tease them. The people you see teasing them are probably friends, friends always tease each other.