When to tell my date that i still live with my ex and her kids

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Thank you everybody for the great comments on my previous two polls about sleeping with my ex, I will not do that, and I am working on getting her to move out, current offer is 7500$ if she leaves within 30 days,
So I am going out with a new girl I had met a few days after I became single, we went out for coffee and we agreed that a formal dinner is in the near future, my concern is when do I tell her that my ex that I just spilt from is still living with me.

Tell her before supper is over 17
Tell her after the night is over, possibly after some touchy feely 7
Dont tell her for a few more dates 11
Dont tell her at all, keep her away from my house 10
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  • pem24
    12 years ago

    I've read your 2 previous posts and its ok. But now you're asking about timing? Can't you rely on making your own decisions instead of asking a step-by-step procedure. Even you can't assure the poll you have created because all are case-to-case basis. Man! You have the upper head, use it.

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  • PrincessLollipop
    12 years ago

    I would ask her where she lives or who she lives with and after she answers just throw in " yeah, my ex is still living with me because she doesn't have anywhere to go and I don't want my kids on the street, but we will be living separately very soon". Just make it sound casual. Hiding this is THE LAST thing you want to do.

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  • smd098
    12 years ago

    You just got out of a relationship so you don't need to be chasing more girls down. Idiot.

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    • Darkoil
      12 years ago

      Eh? The guy is single so give one good reason why he shouldn't go out with somebody else?

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  • Faceless
    12 years ago

    Fuck everybody here aswell. Tell her on the phone after your touchy feely date.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Hire a mover to help get her shit out of there, and why are paying her that extraordinary amount of money to get out of YOUR house? Just kick her out already.

    She wouldnt really have that much time to pack up anyway what with all the cleaning, laundry and cooking that needs to be done.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    tell her right away.

    and your ex needs to find her own place. is there a reason she NEEDS to live with you? Are you supporting her children?

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    • Blah706blah
      12 years ago

      Because rent where I live is crazy high, an the waiting list for low income housing is 6 months long.

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        12 years ago

        so until then you're supporting her and her kids.

        yeah that will be attractive to the new girl.

        and i agree with alison - 7500 to move out? to what? put her stuff in a uhaul and say "bye"?

        hell moving my stuff across the country only cost about 2-3k including the rental and gas.

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        • Blah706blah
          12 years ago

          The 7500 is approx what three months rent will be, I'm not paying for her stuff to be moved I'm payin her to go quietly.

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          • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
            12 years ago

            sounds like she has you by the cock, man

            you can pay her to move out "quietly" and hope she doesn't try to take you for more.

            you can tell her "gtfo" and see what drama she creates

            or you can just let her stay and kiss any hope of a relationship with someone else goodbye

            sounds like you may want to consider which is going to cost you less in the long run. or lawyer up

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            • Blah706blah
              12 years ago

              Got me by the cock, lol. That's an understatement

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  • KokoroComplex
    12 years ago

    You either A, need to move out of your ex's house or B, not go on any dates at all.

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  • equanimity
    12 years ago

    You don't want to start a new relationship based on deceit. I think she'll understand, as long as you make it crystal clear that you are single (and you are officially single). I don't think you should start "banging" the new girl, until the old girl is not living with you anymore.

    I don't think you need to have a waiting period between the two relationships, but try to be discrete regardless, I'm sure it would hurt your ex to find out you moved on so quickly.

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  • Alison89
    12 years ago

    I don't believe any of this, especially the $7500 to move out. Am I the only one that thinks this is a fictional story?

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