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When should parents discuss safe sex and relationships with their child?
What's a good age for kids? I think adults have to address it sooner nowadays with the ease of finding sexuality and all on the internet.
What's appropriate?
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It starts with being open and explaining things to your child qhen they are young and asking questions. For the idiots who will say it's inappropriate to tell a small child about sex - fucking duh, you tailor it so it's age appropriate while still accurate. No stork or cabbage patch shit. No calling genitals peepee and weewee and whatever bullshit.
If they have an awareness and know that you are open to communicating with them about it, then when they are old enough to be starting to show an interest in sex, they will hopefully turn to parents with their questions.
Just a disclaimer, I don't have any kids.
I grew up with my mom, and she never had 'the talk' with me. I doubt she ever had 'the talk' with my brother either. She may have talked to my sister about matters, but I don't know for sure. If anything was said, it was probably the least amount required...
I think she generally considered matters like that too embarrassing to discuss... Thinking back on it now, I don't really blame her completely. There is some resentment I have, from her never saying anything to me regarding sexual matters and me having to find out everything on my own, but she only did what she could as a single mom. I feel like, under optimal circumstances, that's really a conversation that dad's should have with their boys and mom's should have with their girls. It's probably easier and more comfortable that way for both genders. However, I think she could've handled it in a better way than just ignoring/repressing anything remotely sexual to us.
Now, all that being said, I definitely DO think that parents should be open to their children when the time is right. The matter should be addressed in a mature and educational manner, and there shouldn't be any need for embarrassment. As a responsible parent, you should know if your child is mature and smart enough to handle the information you provide. I think it should probably be addressed before puberty, at around age 10, maybe when they start asking those types of serious questions. I'm sure it varies from child to child too.
A good time is when you and the missus are getting it on & the kid walks in. Seeing is believing, much better than the literature that Planned Parenthood is handing out.
I never got the talk. Done alot of things i regret. didn't know it was wrong till i did them. HAVE THE TALK GOSH DARNIT!