When parents don't do there jobs

Kids watching heir parents having sex?? Wtf are you talking about you psycho that's disgusting. You lost all credibility when you said that man... that's not teaching your children that's traumatizing them. Sick.

i do not agree with your ages listed (7, knowledge, and 12 pregnant (almost physicaly inpossible)); though the schools do supple some degree of education, as to what goes where and the concerquences (but not enough).

and nor do i think that the children should be forced to watch there parents haveing sex, apart from the trauma it will cause it is just weird.

but i do think that there should be a better system for introducing and educating kids to sex; and that it should be at a reasonable age (12-13)

My parents didnt talk to us and we had sex education at school which was fukn useless. The best way to learn about sex is with porn. Just start with naked women at first and then graduate to magazines of hetero sex and then graduate to 3 somes and stuff. Then let them discover other types of sec for themselves

Yeah. I don't know about exposing ur kids to you and ur sig other having sex is the best way to go about it, but sure, they totally need to be educated younger., instead of learning the hawks and wasps from a stolen playboy and their peers here say. I knew almost everything they taught us in sex ed by the first class, And it was given in the 4th grade all the way up through high school. Every year. Once a year. Not all school districts do that. And you feel like an idiot asking questions about a subject like this, in a situation like that. I know that in many mid west states they don't get into it till freshman year in highschool and some schools don't do it AT ALL.

I was not informed at all. I find out when I was in my 20's. Do I wish I knew what I know now back then. Yes. Not to do but at least I would have a choice and I would not have made all the mistakes I had if I knew first. One thing that bothers me is this view of well just dont say anything till there what age for good ness sake. I dont wish to be cold when I say this. But if my girl for example at age 10 was dealing with a life threttening deal I would want her to know something that would help her fight. Get a buzzer and let her explore. Might give her a more fighting chance if she knew there was something more. But we want our kids to die not knowing witch if you think about it is a selfish thing when it comes down to it. Knowing is power and we deny our kids there right to know. Remember kids are stronger when they have information we deny them. Its another way that parents can keep there kids under there thumbs. Sickens me to see kids killed before there time for no reason and what is worse we deny that witch we fight so hard for as adults. Ask your self one question. If a doctor told you that you have two choices. Tell your kids nothing and they have 2 months or guied them of what they dont know and the odds that the 2 months would change higher. would you really deny them that.. How selfish are we. Besides this most kids know something they just dont have the key we know as adults. I know the movie of the 40 year old vergin sounds great to some. but hard to create off spring. Its like some people want there kids to never know then they die.
Sounds like some one wants to end there dna string to me. so selfish. Sorry for the rambling. Just lost a young 12 year old family member. She started to lose her hope. But thats a dream of some sick people. Yes she was a virgin. a sacrafice to the gods. I am sick of politicaly corect. Life should be of more value than another persons apinion. I think there should be a studdy on this. If it does help why the heck not. If a kid would fight more to live what are we watting for. I am just saying this out of frustration I know. But come on if my kids was close to passing on. There is no one that would stop my for trying to help. If I have to go to jail to save my kids thats even more retarded but I would still do it.

Wouldent you..

I think people should properly explain the birds and the bees to their kids. They shouldn't wait when they're really old, if taught young they'll be more prepared.

I don't like the way my family explained things to me. I wish they had gotten me a proper source. A book with some credentials. They didn't and for a long time I didn't know things. There were black holes burned throughout that I wasn't really prepared. Even now, there are some things I don't know. Thank god, for the net. It has helped to fill in the burned holes properly. No one should have to go through that. There's nothing wrong with the human body, sex and how the world really is. Lack of proper education can cause fear and misunderstandings.

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Honestly a lot of parents don't know what they're doing. Accept this fact, learn from their mistakes, and just hope that you can do a better job if/when you decide to have kids.

But yes, generally speaking, it is better to just be honest with children. Provide them as much unbiased information as you possibly can, point them in the right direction where they can get more information, and let them make decisions on their own once they are well informed. Children have brains just as powerful as adults', and they are able to make complex and rational decisions, provided they have the right information to work with.

Makes one wonder. If sex-ed is trying to scare you not to have sex at all and people start listening when will the human race ever able to continue on. Its suppose to be informative so you have an understanding not scare the crap out of yea so you never want to. Today's thinking don't make any sense at all. But the truth is to much for adults to deal with. There little boy or girl will know there secret. Its like the one thing that feels good and is legal is the next thing people are trying to make illegal what a bunch of hypocrite. I have talked with people and there like well my boy is looking for a bla bla. But when it comes to girls. I hear my girl will never or when she is 32 or when I am dead before she will. Makes me wonder of the one thing that feels so good but is protected like it's the last greatest thing of all time and is never to be explored till there dead. Makes no logical thought. If it feels so darn good why are yea blocking so darn much. If you like it why the hell wouldn't they. Why the hell you denying them key info to protect them. yea yea aids. but what about the good stuff. Like talking to a wall...

why would sex be so taboo?its what we see everywhere its on tv commercials,movies, songs,ads.its right in front of our faces every day.why is it so normal for it to be everywhere but nobody can talk about that?i learned around 11 becouse my 20 year old sister told me she explained what sperm was and everything so thanks sis :)

Better explaining and less hidding. More open communication. Schools and todays way of thinking is hid anything about sexuality like its a bad thing and its not. But learning from friends and TV just is sick it lessens the consequences and razes more problems. It feels good lets try it. Next thing you know wops your a parent. SO how do you prevent this. Sorry but parens being more open with your kids to protect them there is nothing wrong with it. Porn having sex infront of others its all taboo yet now look even a kid knows more than you give them credit for even at age 8. desire to have sex is just your bodys reaction knowing by age 8 to much to soon. guide is the key learn more each year. Nudest kids know more and are more informed than the rest of us. There is something wrong when a so called taboo has more insight than the so called experets

off topic much lol, i knew about sex and i knew what it was for when i was in 2nd grade so like 8? and i had sex ed first wen i was 10. i didnt have any desire to have sex until i had my first boyfriend at 15, i first had sex a few months ago (im 17) and ive only had a sex ed class 3 years of school total. so i learned very little and i learned even less from my parents. basically everything i know is from friends and television. i dont agree with parents showing their kids porn or them having sex (thats gross) but i do think they need to explain it to them and tell them consequences and everything.

It is very true, sex as a topic is suc a taboo so it appears 'wrong' although it is natural, and everyone knows teens will do what it is they have been told not to do due to curiosity (some teens). I think it is Holland or Amsterdam where children are exposed to sex early and they have one of the lowest teen pregnancy rates in Europe. They should look deeper into this fact.

with ther internet and all plus sex ed 3 time in primary school and every year in high school there no need.

I just seen a family having natural birth. She was walking around the room nude. The kids was in the room and the girl around 4-6 wanted to help her mom. She looked at her moms belly and then looked up to her moms vagina and said "come out baby we are waiting for you to come out" Now when the baby's head was coming out the daughter "not traumatized" said "that's a baby" Now if that is a traumatized kid I must be slow. her daughter seemed more curious than traumatized. I think some people think there kids are dumb. Its creepy to think that these girls in the world know less than this 4-5 year old. Kids that see there parents have sex ask questions that are to embarrising for the parent. They want the school or some one else teach there kids. Then they wonder why her 9 year old has affections for someone that tells her about sex. a 13 year old in jail for having sex with a 12 year old. When asked why she was trying that. She said she was curious and her parents would not tell her and he told her and showed her. By the way she turned 13 2 weeks later. I think people are ashamed of sex and families refuse to do right buy being the guide. Are parents not teachers guiding there kids or is the school the only guide.

Really. Its inhumane to allow your kids to know what is natural what they will ask you about anyway when they are are 6~12. By age 12 if you don't tell your daughters the truth about sex they hat you for it and they show you. You let your kids watch TV. Do they ever watch animal planet or do they have pets or fish. They ask you ware baby's come from. In the past kids learned from there parents by the fact they woke up. If it is inhumane then no one would have any understanding about sexuality. What dungeon did you come out of that you keep your kids from even knowing about sex till they get raped or kidnapped by some sick freak. Kids don't freak out knowing they get freaked out by your over reaction to something they thought was ok to ask or know about then they get all buggy and stop asking anything from you. You need to be more logical and less Higher than mighty thinking. God people. Even the bible talked about it and no one even reads about this stuff in the open. Its this sinful act that bad people do. The truth is its not a bad thing or even sinful but the actions you take to lye to them is fare more a sin and inhumane than to tell them something they will find out any way. It's even what parents should be doing instead of letting some nut job teach your kids in a class hardly anything then by the age of 16 they have more questions and make mistakes all the time you tell them not to they do it anyway. Why do you think they do it anyway. You had your chance but failed. Why is it no one ever sees this till it hits them in the head like a truck. So brain dead people thinking your doing your kids harm by teaching them what they need do know. How do they know they need to eat. You teach them or do they find out for them self. Hmm answer that punks.

i don't care what anyone says.
forcing to watch your parents have sex is the most horrible and inhumane thing a person can do.

Well we discuss sex in our household the same as any other subjects. Whenever one of our kids ask us something about it we answer them the same as if we were discussing the weather. But we don't just wait for them to ask. We bring it up occasionally when the right circumstances present themselves. And we've encouraged our kids to come to us about anything, not just sex. Especially if they are being told not to tell us about it.

I don't think our kids are going to lack knowledge when it comes to sex issues in their life.

And for what its worth we don't freak out when our kid asks us something that totally freaks us out! This I believe has kept an open line of communication between us. My wife and I might freak out afterwards and the pillow talk can be lengthy and intense but we don't freak out on our kids. I've had to swallow hard a few times.

my parens told me when i was 9 so not all parents r useless wait a second if parents r useless then.. y r u here right now?

Yet we turn to god as why war start we use god as why we can or can not do things. Yet we are a billion time more intelligent we forget kids have needs and no one guides them we just hope they learn on there own. Just what a Pedaphyle is looking for. I would rather teach my kids how to masturbate and about sex than the hope that they will learn it on there own no mater how intelligent we may be a Pedaphyle is always one up on kids. May be time to even the score to give kids more control and options. If they can play a video game I think kids can handle the extra options.

when i was 12 i walked in on my parents having sex. there was no eye contact for about a month.

Kids learn by example yet a book can not teach the emotional and physical control they are seeking from there parents. Now parents yell at there kids not to watch is like asking a kid not to eat the ice cream in the freezer. Until we understand as curious humans what it is we will keep exploring even if we get it wrong. Kids need to know and its hi time parents start doing what there suppose to be doing. Set an example for there kids on what things are including sexual activates. Only a fool would say this is wrong. How after all did you learn to eat, walk, bike, I don't think school is the right place for this ether. I think some parents need to remember all the problems they had to learn that would be learned faster if explained from someone they trust.

Well of cores parents want to keep there kids and especially there daughter from even thinking about sexual things. They do but we pretend its just them like to explore. Kids are given less credit. What I think is parents don't want there kids to know what sex is because there shamed by the act that is nnatural to do in the first place. I think the lack of responsibility parents have by having the schools teach there kids about this important part that parents not the school should be looking at.

What the hell are you talking about, kids used to watch their parents having sex? Yes I can agree that adults are stupid if they think children don't know quite a bit about sex by age 12. Parents want their children to stay babies forever, and want them to stay innocent, and this is very normal. What kind of parent wants to tell their 12 year old son to wear a condom, or take their 12 year old daughter to get put on birth control? It's more of a moral issue I think, but the fact of the matter is kids shouldn't be having sex at that age in my opinion. Unfortunately young girls can get pregnant some as early as 9 start their period. Our culture as humans has changed, because now children are taught to enjoy their childhood, and we live longer so their is no need for sex and marriage by age 15 like life used to be, this is a good thing. Sex is merely something we have to reproduce, and although it is pleasurable, I think sex should be for adults after we have stopped growing fully, simply because most teenage minds are no where near ready for a sex life, and especially children.

Sorry but your facts are out of date. Kids know about sex by age 5. They may not know that is how you can make a baby but they do know it feels good to play in that area. hear are some facts to back it up. I don't think discourage this is a good idea just makes them do these acts behind your back. I would rather know so I can do the right things instead of guessing.

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/355213

By the way the trauma is not telling your kids from age 5-8 about sex before you let the school teach them what you as a parent should be doing. hear is the facts. I dong think they should have charged the boy anything. Even at there age they need to rethink how to deal with this if they were 18

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-385968/Girl-11-Britains-youngest-mother.html

im 12 and hav had sex but i dnt regreate it it was the best choice iv every made dam she was fine roflmfao