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I might get massively flamed for this but I think that looks are important in a relationship.
Dating has both physical and emotional aspects to it, and it would be very difficult to engage in the physical parts with someone who I find grotesque. However, a personality is much more important in a relationship that beauty will ever be.
Not bashing on your opinion, cos I think you're entitled to think that way and I know a lot of people do.
But.
My first boyfriend was not what many people would call attractive. Most people wouldn't have and didn't find him so, actually. His personality made him attractive to me. So I believe that yeah, maybe someone might not look as good as others, but their personality can make a 0 look like a 5 (or a 10 look like a 0). Which is why I don't think that when I say looks aren't important to me, that I'm being dishonest.
You are right, a rotten personality quickly results into a pretty person being perceived as less attractive immediately and vice versa..
I have this theory though, humor me on this...
I believe that somehow we were all made to fit with a certain type of person.. Subconsciously. We don't really know it but if you look back and connect the similarities of your previous boyfriends or crushes.. There is an embedded formula.
Me, I have always been attracted to short, dark haired, slightly petite girls with ridiculously nice teeth.
So, if there were five girls in a line up, obviously I would find that 'type' the most appealing. It's just because my body, soul, mind, etc was built to suit well with that type of girl.
Why is that though?
I believe everybody is like that.. and people who prefer an attractive personality before an attractive vessel are just waaay more evolved than us regular ruffians.
I can respect that. You sound honest to me, I'm sorry if I offended you with my statement about looks being important and anybody who says they aren't is lying.
I agree. I once tried dating an acquaintance of a friend of mine because he was a really nice guy and I never had a boyfriend, it didn't work out. ;D
I have to find the guy attractive (whether others think he is or not.)
Thank you! thank you! Thank you! I feel that exact same way! A lot of people want to say that they don't care about looks, but I think a lot of them aren't being that honest. For me, it would be hard to be in a relationship with someone who is not attractive. I mean, they have to have a good personality too, but looks are important too. I'm a full package kind of a girl :D
I absolutely agree. I definitely think it's silly to base your relationships entirely on physical attractiveness, but it's also silly to pretend that they don't matter at all. The people that pretend that looks mean nothing are unaware of the degree to which their subconscious decides their actions.
A person doesn't have to be good looking, but they have to be attractive. Attractiveness can be made up of many things - attitude, voice, smile, the way they walk, how well you get on, confidence, assertiveness, all of these things are important. I'm currently in love with a guy who has a huge nose and an amazing goofy smile, beautiful eyes and this incredible deep manly voice. Most of the guys I've got with have been hot, but this guy is the one I fell for.
She doesn't have to be miss universe (lord knows I'm not Mr. Olympia), but at least a woman who somewhat takes care of herself, tries to keep her width less then her height. Keeping her hair at least shoulder length and taken care off, instead of being lazy and just getting a buzz cut.
Haha, this is a good question.
I can't do "out of 10" ratings with girls. I can't give someone a number on their appearance. It isn't because I think it's objectifying (although in a sense, it is), I just don't think of looks that way. You could say for me that the way I internally describe looks is analogue, not digital ^_^ That probably didn't make a whole lot of sense :P
For me, I think there has to be a certain baseline. I need to be attracted to someone in one way or another for me to take an interest in them at all. After that it's mostly personality; if I find myself attracted to the personality then the body attached to the personality starts to look even more attractive to me. But I can only speak from my own limited experience.
I think for me, if I was to date someone I hadn't known long it would need to rely very heavily on looks. For lack of a better cliché, if I was to ask on a date by text or a phone call a girl I'd only met once in a bar, I would have to be very attracted to her physically because the emotional attraction would have had less time to build. Not that I'd have the confidence to do that anyway :P
If I was to ask out on a date a girl who had been a good friend of mine for almost the past 5 months, it might be less important because the emotional attraction would have grown by then. Of course, even in this case the initial attraction would have to have been there for those feelings to develop.
looks can change for me when i like someone they look better already, but i like clean and sweet smelling ,not sneaky or mean
There has to be that initial attraction and as we talk, it'll go up or down from there
well, a guy has to be at least a 5.5 to be noticed by me.Not a crazy standard right? my point is attractiveness is NOT JUST LOOKS. i've seen some guys with glass and a beard dress amazingly, they've got so much going on that they turn me on instantly. The way you talk, the way you walk, the way you dress, taking care of yourself, are all part of the attractiveness package.
however, if you look like that ugly ass sex offender whats-his-name, then.. just joking. lol.
I'm crushing terminally on a guy that in my opinion, he's a 7. his looks, the way he dresses, and his personality is just my type. Now I find myself more attracted to the way he says things, or other subtle things. I love his smile not because of how sexy he looks when he smiles, it's because there's something in his smile that melts me.
depends.... a personality can be so wonderful that it can totally make up for a lack of looks... then again, the personality can be so awful that the most attractive person on the planet would seem ugly.
looks ARE the first thing that generally attracts you to someone, but if you strike up a conversation, and find the person is really awesome, looks don't matter as much (unless it was something really unappealing)- for me anyway.
Now remember, guys and dolls, a 10 is the sexiest you can think of, and these kind of people are very hard to find as they are very seldom in numbers. 10's are whenever your jaw drops and you can't believe what you're seeing.
I never seem to get a crush on anyone lower than a 7. I typically end up falling for someone who is at least an 8. 10's for me are almost too sexy, and I'd never be able to have a serious relationship with a guy that damn beautiful because it would never go beyond lust and physical. I'm just gonna come out and say it. But guys that are 8's a very beautiful, but not so much to the point that they are almost not human, and I can see them more than just a sexy object. Guys who are 8's look good, and I am capable of developing feelings for this person as well.
someone i just met at least a 7-8 only because i having nothing else to judge you by other then your looks. but if i know you and know the type a person you are looks dont matter you could be really hot but a prick & i would never date you, or you could not be the greatest looking guy but a complete sweet heart & i would at least give you a chance
I'd take the looks. Not because I'm very shallow, but because my criterions are a little different from the the norm and what I expect from my partners is not exactly "be naturally pretty or go home". I just have very strict weight and fitness expectations.
Good looks is really the first thing we are attracted to in someone.
I mean seriously what guy hasn't checked out the hot looking girl walking past them. Whereas the red head/glasses/pimple faced/fat chick usually never gets a second look (I note some people like red heads, no idea why, but this is not important or relevant to my point!)
So 'looks' DO help with the initial attraction (obviously)
But once the relationship turns to love it wouldn't matter if all those good looks went away (age and putting on extra weight comes to mind) As a relationship is built on love, trust and companionship NOT looks.
By the way any hot single girls out there? Oh and no fat chicks Lol
Actual looks are less important than my perception of their looks. Everyone likes different things and I'm often subject to inexplicable physical attractions.
But a mental attraction is always more important to me. The more I come to care about someone, the more I find myself drawn to their looks anyway (however they look). Naomi Campbell is undeniably a very beautiful woman but I find her a complete turn-off just because of her personality.
Assuming we're taking about people who have enjoyable personalities, yes looks still matter. I'm not saying that they have to look great, but even with a great personality as I have dated people that I was not physically attracted to, if I have no physical attraction to them, then I can't bring myself to be intimate with them, physically.
Generally so long as they take care of themselves I'm willing to give it a shot. Attraction for me differs and sometimes hinges on the quality if the relationship.
How good looking they have to be varies depending on their personality. For example, if I'm extremely attracted to someone's personality, then I'm more forgiving then I would be if I were only slightly attracted to their personality. I do have a limit though, I have to like the way they look, even if only slightly.
Haha:D I'm looking at everyone who said looks don't mean anything. Well, I'm just gonna be honest, I just can't see myself with someone ugly. Hell, no! Looks mean a whole lot to me. I'm just gonna come out an say it For me, they gotta be at least a 5 on the attractive scale.
I've dated some ugly ass girls and guys with amazing personalities and talent. None of them lasted though...