When does a person really grow up/find yourself?

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So really I'm not looking for a certain age, I just want to hear your take on what growing up really means.

However if you had to pick an age, around what age were you when you realized you were really an adult.

You can ignore the rest of this if you'd like.

I'm in my twenties and I can say I don't feel like an adult in the slightest. I guess for this poll, I'm asking at what age do you find yourself, and stop conforming to certain trends and groups? Like when do you do yoga because you actually like it and not because you want to take a picture for Instagram or tweet about it. Or when do you stop wearing thrift store finds and smoking cigarettes because you think it makes you look cool and hanging out in shady coffee shops and frequenting Instagram.

When do people stop doing what they think makes them look cool and or stand out? I think a lot of people my age that I know believe they're grown up but I can't help but think everything they've surrounded their lives with is just for show?

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  • shuggy-chan
    9 years ago

    Everyone matures differently, in different areas, and at different rates.

    I mean some people like me can seem and even strive to be a perpetual 12-year-old, but when it comes to important things like work or bills, be on time and thorough.

    And others can try to grow up too fast and think they are mature, but mentally when it comes to others, be immature and self centered in relationship. Scary part is when this type have kids already but brain is still mushy and not fully developed.

    There is no age, its a constant growth as we pass thru life. Dont focus on "feeling like an adult" just work on being the best "You" you can be and present that to others.

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    • Shackleford96
      9 years ago

      That's some sound advice right there.

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      • shuggy-chan
        9 years ago

        I know every once and while I blurt out something useful

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        • Shackleford96
          9 years ago

          Don't get cocky now... Lol

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          • shuggy-chan
            9 years ago

            To late. It has a mind of its own

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  • Lacey101
    9 years ago

    I don't think that realizing you're an adult means you've grown up. You can realize you're an adult when you turn eighteen, but "grow up" much later than that. I feel I'm still immature as I still conform to society's hidden little rules and regulations, (what's "cool", what's "hot", etc) but if you don't conform, does that mean you're grown up? Not necessarily. Anyway, my reason for feeling as if I'm still a child is because I still conform, but not everyone that doesn't conform is grown up and just because you conform doesn't mean that you aren't grown up.

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  • deepthought33
    9 years ago

    I remember this sudden feeling, like a bubble popping, in my early twenties and I was like, "holy crap, I'm an adult!".
    It didn't last though for me. I mean, it's not like I crossed this permanent, point of no return where I forever felt like an adult.

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  • howaminotmyself
    9 years ago

    It takes some a lifetime to figure it out.

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  • my_life_my_way
    9 years ago

    13

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  • ucipher8
    9 years ago

    There isnt a certain age when you are finally grown up and put childish things away. we are who we are. Some of us go into our 40's and still behave the same way we did when we were four, just because something didnt go our way.

    Im in my late twenties and while i want to be "a grown up" ill never be because im still just trying to keep up with everyone else and ill always be trying to catch up to someone else.

    you can call me the nice guy, who is always finishing last. I just want to finish this race.

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  • dirtybirdy
    9 years ago

    I'm like waldo.

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    • shuggy-chan
      9 years ago

      Where is he? I don't see him

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      • dirtybirdy
        9 years ago

        He's lost forever :(

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  • drummerben04
    9 years ago

    I've never conformed to any group yet I still havn't found myself,. I've been wondering this question myself. Who am I? After deep contemplation I realized I follow gods word. What he tells me I trust. The energy of God guides me everyday. Without God I would be nothing. Not bashing other religions, simply telling the truth.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    In a way I didn't grow up, but I never cared about fitting in to begin with. I don't feel much different than I did as a kid and liked most the same things I do now. I am mature with my logic and reasoning but immature in my behaviors and things I like.
    I have always had a good sense of who I am.

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  • anti-hero
    9 years ago

    I don't plan to.

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  • DangerousPotatoGuy
    9 years ago

    I don't take it as being an "adult" in the sense of aging but more in the sense that you've grown to be a decent human being (I believe this may take some time when live in the fast lane)

    I also think that's the time when you stop putting yourself first, when you start accepting responsibility

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