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I would never be happy about being pregnant. I would abort it as soon as I could - I never want kids. I was told when I was younger that I would "change my mind," but I'm over 30 now.
Can you know when you're young that you don't want kids? What age do people generally know by? Are there any women on here that actually did "change their minds"?
You can change your mind any time between now and you lose your fertility. There is no particular age per se.
I think you know when you consider the "why" rather than just "I don't want kids".
There's a difference between not feeling "ready" to have children, and not wanting children. It's normal for young people to not feel ready. They're studying, partying, building careers and getting their lives together, they don't need a kid thrown into the mix to complicate things further.
But I think it's when you have deeper reasons, that's when you can be sure, you just *know* parenthood is not for you.
Personally, I just hate the thought of having to spend so much of my money on kids' stuff, having no time to myself or with my potential husband, and just generally having that degree of responsibility 24/7, which I'm not cut out for. I've also had issues with depression, and other illnesses in my family, and frankly I feel like I just don't want to bring kids into this to experience all the same dark shit I've felt.
When your looks fade, and you are no longer able to maintain the commitment of a man, you'll wish you had kids with one.
Pretty much just women in general.
And men in general.
Basically, anyone that doesn't comform to the ideals of his imaginary world.
Not really. Whoever has that account has a very realistic grasp on what life actually is. Certainly nothing that can even approach being called "idealistic".
You see when a woman's looks fade (if she even had them to begin with) male attention will fade with it. In the really real world this is how it works. And time is against women in this regard.
In the imaginary world a.k.a. the Internet (where you spend most of your time) this doesn't happen I guess. And ugly girls aren't really ugly because they're pretty on the inside and guys see that? And guys and girls are friends without sexual tension, etc...
And whatever other stupid delusions you've convinced yourself are true.
From the excessive number of sock puppet accounts you spend your time creating on here, your claim that I spend too much time online is endlessly amusing in its blatant hypocrisy.
I'm sorry you have such a sad view of the world. Maybe you should try to surround yourself with decent human beings. You'd be surprised.
Are you really sorry Mel? Or are you just typing that because it maybe sounded like a good insult by projecting a "sad view of the world" onto that comment?
Some people live in reality and some people don't. Simple as that. You see reality is very harsh and most people can't handle how harsh it really is, so they convince themselves that it really isn't "all that bad" and surround themselves in delusions.
Those "good people" you surround yourself with are only as good as society forces them to be.
But you already knew this.
But I don't want to start a family. My husband is the best family I've ever had. We give each other much more than just sex and commitment. I'm 32 so I guess I only have 3 years by your standards, and I will spend them with no morning sickness, bloating, weight gain, abdominal pain, breast pain, back pain, labor pain, vaginal tearing, vaginal prolapse, split nipples, lack of sleep, post partum depression, insomnia, hormonal changes, mood swings, lack of energy, financial issues, worry or anxiety, loud noises and many more lovely things that come with a "bundle of joy."
That's a good list, and especially on an economic level, having kids doesn't make much sense. But lonliness isn't that logical. Just be aware that you will need something more than your current love for your husband to get you that daily fulfillment 10 years from now. If you're really focused on your career, that's great.
It's hard starting a business or trying to make it as a painter or novelist. Far easier and popular to make kids instead!
In 27 and after about 4 years with my husband I think I'm changing my mind. I'm at least considering it now. I got told that line a lot as a teen and I genuinely think I decided to never have them just to spite everyone. And I was bitter about having to babysit my siblings. But i was a teen. I mean.... am I going to let teenage me CONTINUE to dictate my life? No I'm an adult. I can change my mind if I want to.