When did you confess to your crush?

***(You can just fast forward and answer the question poll below, reading the whole thing isn't that necessary)***

I over-think stuff. Some might say it's a good thing! I get to answer with the best answers. But others might say it's horrible because I don't have enough time to conclude my thinking.

This girl that I barely knew existed in my class started talking to me. Brake after brake I found her more interesting and before I knew it she was waiting for me after class and I started doing the same. Got her number, texting, talking about cats. You know. The usual.

I am going to be honest with you, Internet Folk, she isn't the hottest person ever. Imagine the stereotypical bookworm girl. Short, braces, shy, quiet.

She is very kind and smart, interesting, unlike the "other" girls I've met who text their phones until their thumbs are sweaty. She's pretty lonely I assume, it makes me happy to give her company, and I'm happy with the company she gives me.

I have a crush on her. That being said - we've only talked for a month'n'half. I don't know if I'm going too fast with assumptions.

College year is ending here in about 2 months, maybe less, and next year we will be separated. Of course we can meet up between classes, but it's complicated. Going on dates isn't really possible, we just hang out.

So when is it the right time to confess entirely? (I've hinted it before, but nothing too shallow)

When did you confess to your love? Maybe your ex? Or are you a meet and mate kind of person?

If you want to add something feel free to add in the comments below, how did you confess? What were the results?

- Thanks for reading.

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dom180

9 years ago

A month and a half isn't too soon to have a crush, I don't think. Crushes can happen at any time for any reason.

Asking someone on a date is a perfect way to tell someone you like them - it's unambiguous, but it's also much more casual than directly saying "I like you". If going on dates and having a relationship definitely isn't possible, why tell her at all? Where do you envisage it going if all you can do is meet up between classes? Sometimes it's fun to just have a private crush.

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KeddersPrincess

9 years ago

Before I stuffed his body in my freezer.

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- SubstationSubCurb111713
  
  9 years ago
  
  That made me laugh.
  
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- 19Iguy
  
  9 years ago
  
  At least you tried being "original", I guess.
  
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Holzman_67

9 years ago

hmm I wouldn't leave it too long.
Think of it as starting a fire. You have to provide a bit of kindling first, smaller twigs and stuff, to get the thing going. This is the part of the relationship where you create interest by being the absolute best you can be, bring out all the fun, humour and confidence you have in yourself.
Then you add the larger bits of wood to keep the fire going. Show that you're also caring, generous, and a good listener. Don't overdo it though or you'll be friendzoned!
Now my friend you have a fire, admit the crush! Ask her out for a drink! Or if she doesn't drink, by now you should know what she's into and can ask her out accordingly.
The whole timeframe of the above advice is 3 - 6 weeks.

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shuggy-chan

9 years ago

Im not sure, you have to ask Anthian when i told her.

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- [Old Memory]
  
  9 years ago
  
  Aww shuggy-chan <3
  
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  - shuggy-chan
    
    9 years ago
    
    Still on my trip, but <3 i love my big sassy anthain Hahahah
    
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    - [Old Memory]
      
      9 years ago
      
      That made me literally laugh out loud hahaha. Apparently I am saucier than I thought :P oops. Aw well. Having fun??
      
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      - shuggy-chan
        
        9 years ago
        
        im finally home, had a long layover, a Pelican comminted suicide in the engine of the first plane
        
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        [Old Memory]
        
        9 years ago
        
        Well damn. Damn suicidal pelicans these days...:/ that's sad. How was the thingy?
        
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- anti-hero
  
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  #UglyBabies
  
  It's a fact* that pretty people make ugly babies.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    We would make adorable 1/4 asian babies! So mleh *sticks tongue out*
    
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    - anti-hero
      
      9 years ago
      
      Wait! You are white? I pictured you as a thick sassy soul sista.
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        9 years ago
        
        Yep haha. Completely white. Whenever I get around to putting my picture up once again you'll see.
        
        I like how my online persona is that of a sassy black woman XD that's too funny.
        
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        anti-hero
        
        9 years ago
        
        Tell me when it is up.
        
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9 years ago

Well...I waited 3 years. But everyone is different, just because I waited longer doesn't mean I'm any more better or successful than you. Everyone is different, right?

You moving quickly might work out for you, who knows? But in my opinion, infatuation is different than love - so you either confess and start dating now, and find out more about eachother along the way, or you wait a while, find out about eachother, and then start dating.

To be honest I would wait a while, but it's your life, your choice. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.

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- 19Iguy
  
  9 years ago
  
  I think it's very important to not dive too deep, the best is to be a good friend and spice it up as you go. As said, I overthink things, I shouldn't worry too much about it.
  
  As corny as it may sound, I like her for her Her. Since she, with no doubt, doesn't like me for my "looks". I owe her my care.
  
  Thanks for commenting ^^
  
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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

You really need to go on a few dates and find out if you enjoy the company of this gal outside of the school environment.
I'm pretty sure you will know when you should "confess" your love to her, and most likely it will just slip out unwanted and unannounced, at the right moment. Don't obsess about it and enjoy the company of this fine lass, without ulterior motives or plans, at this point. "Love is a rose..."

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megadriver

9 years ago

It comes down to how I feel. If I feel normal, I'd like to get to know that girl a bit better, before confessing anything.
However, if I feel cocky, I can just start up the chat and say that I find her attractive. Usually I am cocky at a pub, so chances are something will work out XD

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gummy_jr

9 years ago

Three years have passed and I still haven't done it...

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loopoo

9 years ago

Never. Would be too scared of being rejected.

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Avant-Garde

9 years ago

I fell in love with a friend in '06. I still love him even though, I realize that there is probably no chance of us ever being together. I don't recall ever telling him that I had those feelings for him.

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NeuroNeptunian

9 years ago

No doubt she is into you.
Usually I just give him my number, play hard to get a little... AND PROFIT.

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- shuggy-chan
  
  9 years ago
  
  hahah here is my number and who are you again. oh you want to hang out later, well i really did want to "wash my hair later" sorry
  
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Incomplet

9 years ago

I've only received confessions. All of them were before six or seven weeks of meeting me.

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- 19Iguy
  
  9 years ago
  
  I would say that's lucky for you heh, unless it bothers you to get those confessions.
  
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    9 years ago
    
    Thanks heaps :). All the best for your situation!
    
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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

I don't know if I had a crush on this person or just a fondness for them. In highschool there was a girl I was close friends with, and it turned out she liked me, too. I was going to tell her I liked her, however news that I was moving came about, so I thought to just forget it and get over those feelings.

So, only one person, and never done it.

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- SubstationSubCurb111713
  
  9 years ago
  
  What would have happened if you had not have moved?
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    I'm not sure. I'd like to think I would of said to her, but at the time there was drama with two other girls and drama in another group with mutual friends, and so on. I also doubt relationships would suit my ways. The end possibly could of just ended up being the same if I didn't move, me just getting rid of the feelings.
    
    Sweet girl. She made me feel safe and innocent at a time in my life where some shady things were happening at home and outside of home. I'm not the opposite of innocent, however feelings change, and if we were together and the charade of how I felt with her took a turn, it probably would of caused complications.
    
    I guess it was the better thing that I moved when it came to that aspect of my life in that area, I doubt how I felt with her and how I feel naturally would just cause too much of an up and down ride and cause confusion for me.
    
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    - SubstationSubCurb111713
      
      9 years ago
      
      It does sound like you moving was both a better thing for you and for her also.
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
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        Yep.
        
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        All is good.
        
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  - NeuroNeptunian
    
    9 years ago
    
    She would have gotten the D and then mindfucked into make him sandwiches for all enternity.
    
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    - SubstationSubCurb111713
      
      9 years ago
      
      Why?
      
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    - [Old Memory]
      
      9 years ago
      
      I find that rude and sexist, to assume a woman should make sandwhiches, very sexist. I would never make a woman's place to make a sandwhich for her man, because quite frankly women are just terrible at making sandwhiches, they get it all wrong, and this guy needs his sandwhiches done right, not done some silly woman way. ;) Lol.
      
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      - NeuroNeptunian
        
        9 years ago
        
        This is a point we will always disagree on, Duz. I'm not about to have another long, heated argument with you about this. You know how I feel about the subject.
        
        If given the education and opportunity, a woman can craft as fine of a sandwich as a man. And if not, so what? Surely sandwiches are not the only measure of character!
        
        But they are as far as I'm concerned, HIGH FIVE
        
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        [Old Memory]
        
        9 years ago
        
        -Gives epic high five that results in Michael Bay background explosion-
        
        Pfft, women. Thinking their place is the kitchen. The nerve of them. The nerve of them, I say!
        
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Crusades

9 years ago

Stop dating loser girls. Go for the hot ones!

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- 19Iguy
  
  9 years ago
  
  I know you like the "Douchebag Profile" you created to be the jerk of the Website.
  
  but Bitches are plenty in the Ocean of whores,
  
  Looser girls are the Hard Prize, you can't earn one just by showing them your pisser.
  But I guess some people prefer to stay by the All You Can Eat Buffet and get the cheap meat for free.
  
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    9 years ago
    
    Did you say aLL YOU CAN EAT BUFFET AND cheap meat for free? does that come with an egg roll?
    
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  - NeuroNeptunian
    
    9 years ago
    
    Awh shit. You just earned 10 points.
    
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  - gummy_jr
    
    9 years ago
    
    Slam dunk!
    
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  - Crusades
    
    9 years ago
    
    You suggest that hot girls are automatically bitches and here's where you're wrong. There are all kinds of bitches. They come in all shapes of form. And one's traits doesn't define their character at all times.
    
    And how come you view "loser" girls as the "hard prize".
    As if would be more of a challenge to impress them. You need to do more to stand out to them? Really? I mean, i your case you didn't have to do anything. SHE was the one to approach you, not the other way around. So how can you know what are the requirements to impress a nerdy girl?
    
    But whatever. It's alright. Keep trying to make yourself feel better.
    
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