When did bad boys become misunderstood while nice guys became jerks?

Apparently, some genius on another website I spoke with thinks bad boys can be tamed but nice guys are really mean-spirited souls masquerading as nice guys. She reminds me of my older sister. These women think they can hop into the sack with all the loser guys thinking their magic vaginas will transform them into righteous men. Then they get duped and move onto the next ones. My older sister suffers from this same dilemma. I keep wondering how many sticks of dynamite I'll have to blast into her thick head clears up. She's 44 now, and we were both raised by the same parents. I had a far more troubled upbringing than she did, but I still get it.

I have a long track record of attracting single moms, and I'm not inclined to go that route. They insist on learning the hard way believing their magic vaginas will turn the bad boys into princes in shining armor like in Beauty and the Beast. Then they make me feel guilty for not wanting to take on the headaches of fatherhood without passing on my DNA. They seem to have a hard time understanding I'm not a second string. It's not my responsibility to raise someone else's kids because she fucked up the first time with the wrong guy. I'm sure as hell not going to deal with her dirtbag ex-husband, either. She mad her bed; now she has to sleep in it.

Just recently, some woman propositioned me. She wasn't interested in me five years ago when I asked her out. She gave me that whole speech, "Oh, well you're a really nice guy, but let's just be friends." Then she later got involved with some ex-con and dropped out two kids. Now he's doing time in the state penitentiary. So now she wants me! Yeah, now she wants me! Now that she's a single mom who's waist-high in debt with two bastard kids and no father figure around she's interested all of a sudden. My response to her was, "Sorry, Honey! You had your chance and you blew it!"

So ladies, was my friend Jerry right after all that logic doesn't tie into female psychology until about age 35? Does postpartum trigger the rational part of the female brain or is it hot flashes from menopause that do the trick? Help me understand how even a socially awkward person knows bad boys are trouble and most of them deep down are cowards, but many of these women can't when women are naturally better at reading people than men. Help me figure out how big a sledgehammer I need to hit my sister over the head with to knock some sense into her.

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  • Anime7

    I think there's something that plays into the whole "all girls want the bad boy" scheme that people don't seem to understand. You have to be interesting! If you're a nice person, that's great but sadly there are no sexual rewards for being a decent human being. However, if you are a fun guy to be around then you will possibly attract someone. I saw this a lot in high school, the douchebags got all the girls. But to be fair, they were the ones who threw the parties and had the confidence. Now insert myself, the shy quiet kid. Sure I was nice, but in no way would I consider myself up to their level in terms of entertainment. That's the thing, people want to be around fun people, not boring ones. It's not really sad, cause honestly that's every bodies preference. We want to be around people who make us laugh and smile.

    Now here's where it gets weird, the world is no longer like a John Hughes film. High school stereotypes, such as the dumb jock, are pretty much being destroyed. For instance, there was a D&D club at my school and most of the guys in it had girlfriends. Hell even the ASB president was a part of it. Now I'm not saying they were all nice guys, but they got the girl. Yes, guys who were into nerdy things got the girls. Now we also have the jocks, the ones who played football. I saw plenty of them in my AP classes, nice people most of them. What can you conclude in all this? The world is not so black and white anymore.

    If a girl doesn't like you don't assume that it's because she has a thing for bad boys. Also don't automatically assume yourself to be the nice guy. Granted it sounds like you were screwed over by a few girls, but don't assume that all women are like that. There are plenty of girls in this life-sustaining orb called "Earth" that you will attract, in no way though should you attribute that attraction to one quality. Don't assume that these women like you simply because you're nice, because it could be for a myriad of other things, like your music choice, sense of humor, or hair style. But never assume that people only like you because of one simple trait, like whether you're "nice" or "bad." Just like how you should never assume that on others.

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  • Riddler

    I will explain whats wrong with it

    By the way a Bad boy and a jerk are not the same thing and a lot of jerks pretend to be nice guys to get laid

    Bad boys

    Are mysterious

    Are a project guy

    Are often misunderstood

    Are Artsy and creative

    Often are probably more accepting of peoples issues

    Might be a dick to most people but are nice to the people who care for them

    Are often kind of lonely

    Are not always as tough and scary as they try to act

    Jerks

    Are cruel to people even the ones who like them

    Treat people like crap to look cool

    Are manipulative for selfish gain

    Are controlling and cruel

    Laugh at others misery

    Do not have compassion for others

    Often pretend to be nice guys just to get chicks and when chicks realize they are not nice they treat them like crap "How dare you not love me I was nice to you I deserve to be fucked! SO FUCK ME DAMMIT!" No that is not nice its manipulative

    Nice guys

    Are Shy
    Are kind hearted
    Are probably not going to ask a girl out
    Are often socially awkward
    Are kind of Nerdy
    Are sometimes misunderstood

    Now here is the type of women that go for Jerks
    Girls with self esteem problems
    Girls with mental issues
    Girls who are kind hearted enough to believe they can fix an asshole
    Girls and guys who were this persons freind before they became a jerk
    Family will always support them

    Here are the girls who go for Bad boys

    Girls who have sympathy for them
    Girls who believe hes misunderstood
    Girls who like an adventure
    Girls who want someone exciting
    Girls who like weird guys

    Here are the girls who go for nice guys

    Other nice girls
    Socially awkward girls
    Shy girls

    So NO bad boy does not mean a BAD GUY(Jerk) and not all people who claim to be good guys are good they are just manipulative Jerks who are too entitled.

    I was the person who would always make friends with the rejects. Those people no one talks to that everyone assumes are bad people. They sometimes are nice to the one person who decides to talk to them. I was best friends with a boy in my class. He was the biggest trouble maker. Out of all the student in the class when I had to go find someone to sit with I sat with him. He was alone since everyone thought he was a jerk. When I talked to him though guess who he was always nice to? He was nice to me. He was nice to me since I took the time to be kind to him. Sometimes that is how it is with all these apparent trouble makers. You dont realize it but they are just people.

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  • Thexoutcast

    I guess I'm one of these girls that prefer the bad boy. Its not because I'm looking to get screwed over. I'm not dumb enough to date an "ex con". What I like is charisma, confidence, excitement, spontaneity, and adventure. Good guys tend to bore me. Yes, they are romantic, sweet, with good morals and values, but there's nothing fun about all of that. I think girls are looking for the holy grail. The exciting Alpha male bad boy that also has good guy qualities. At least thats what I wish to find.

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  • handsignals

    Woman are fucked. That is all.

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  • VirgilManly

    Bitches be crazy.

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    • shuggy-chan

      This^

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  • Shrunk

    I guess the rest of my post didn't show up but-
    Nice guys (as in never gets angry) seem phony as hell to me, sorry. Maybe it's because I can't be like that myself. That doesn't mean I go after ex cons or whatever you say these girls are after. There is a nice middle ground that I tend to prefer, that people seem to forget about when doing the whole "nice guys vs bad boys" debate..
    There's even a term for this, (if you're familiar with tv tropes)- "jerkass with a Heart of gold" I love those kind of guys, as Long as we get along.. xD
    Maybe some girls are just wan to find that for their own.. Then they feel more important to the guy, when they are the only one who can see it.

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    • Daugenstein2

      But bad boys DON'T seem phony? For all you know the bad boys you might find attractive are philanderers that are banging two or three other women?

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      • Shrunk

        Lol. I don't find "bad boys" attractive. I was saying that there is a nice middle between being too nice and too much of an asshole. And I don't think philandering is the same as being fake, even if they are dishonest, it'd be much more severe than simply being phony as in acting nice because that's what you think women want to see even though you're actually having other emotions about something.

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  • DangerousPotatoGuy

    tbh I don't think I know how it works, I'm not a frat boy or anything but being nice just means you'll have to follow someones lead into doing something. I think thats why girls don't dig that, they want YOU to take that lead.

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  • Girls like bad boys because they want to be the one who finds the chink in their armor, the one who brings out the best in them. That's what I think anyways. I don't see how nice guys are bad guys in disguise though...

    I really respect your dating beliefs though, that is awesome, and I cannot blame you one bit! Go you :) other than that, Anime7's comment was gold and million times better than what I could write!

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