Whats the difference between being possessive and being jealous?

I don't get jealous but i had an experience recently where i got possessive for the first time and it was not pretty. Since i dont get jealous, i didnt know how to handle that feeling of feeling like i owned somebody and people need to know. Thats what happened. I was messing around with a guy and didnt even like him that much but once these girls appeared, i just felt like he was mine and they better recognize. They could do whatever they want with him just know that me and him were an item and respect that. So i got my first taste of being possessive but jealous? I dont think that was jealousy. TO me, jealousy is when everyone invloved in the situation ties in with the insecurities like if i started hating on the girls then yah but i didnt it was all about my insecurities of losing him to someone else that was pretty and the fact that i wanted them to know we were an item with whatever they wanted to have or do with him. Its kind of confusing but thats why im here. I feel like there is a difference between these two terms so for those who do too what are they? For those who dont think so, why not? Im open to all opinions because maybe ill learn something or two :-)

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  • Tarkio

    Becoming possessive is a control issue. You said you really didn't like him much but you probably liked being in control of him. When the other girls came around, you lost that control.

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  • I'm not bragging like im really serious.Im not like oh jealousy isnt love blah blah blah. Im not saying that. Im speaking for me. Ill try if you want me to but ill fail. ITs not a bad thing by the way if i dont get jealous its actually a good thing.Yah being jealous is something natural in human beings i understand and some think not but it is. But its not like i choose not to be, its just not in me. Sometimes though, people exaggerate when theyre jealous and thats a whole different story, not to mention annoying.
    Like i said, what happened was new to me, never felt that way before and i consider it being possessive and my question is if thats the same as jealous or not. Why or why not?

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  • Echoes

    What you called being possessive is in fact being a human being (greedy being). Try to rise and let go of him for other girls if you don't really like him.

    One more thing, not getting jealous is not really a good trait and it's against human nature, so stop bragging about it cuz those who don't get jealous don't really love.

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