Whats a normal way to deal with life's unfairness?

You've got to grow to accept that life isn't a meritocracy in the sense that what you put in isn't proportional to what you get out. Accepting and realising it is true and you can't prevent it is the key to being okay with it.

However, you clearly can affect it to some extent, perhaps a great extent if you know how to go about it. If you teach yourself a lot about something, by reading or going to classes, you *will* get more knowledge. If you practice a skill often and in the right way, you *will* improve at it. If you keep attempting random events often enough, probability would suggest that sooner or later you *will* succeed. You have control.

You've also got to learn what you won't succeed at by random chance because the odds are too short, and work out what you can actively do to improve those odds. Life's unfair, but as before you still have a lot of control.

You can realise that unfairness isn't a one-way street. If there are truly random events, you will benefit from the world's lack of fairness about as often as you will lose. Unfairness doesn't guarantee negative outcomes, even if it might make trying to get positive outcomes more difficult. Anyone who has succeeded in life (by any measure: raw happiness, money, good looks, fame, friendships, relationships...) has been a beneficiary of positive unfairness to some extent, so it does happen.

Of course, you won't get equal amounts of good luck and bad luck. But it works by Gaussian distribution - the vast majority of people will have about the same amounts of good luck as bad luck over the course of a long lifetime, provided they don't stop trying.

At the same time, some of the defeats in life that you attribute to unfairness probably weren't bad luck at all. They were down to your own failings, and you're doomed to repeat that failure unless you self-analyse and work out what you did wrong and how to avoid it next time. Self-analysing is a scary thing to do sometimes, because not many people like taking an honest look at their flaws; maybe that's why so many people attribute their failures to unfairness in the first place. You can affect unfairness if you realise that often it isn't unfairness at all. I've done it before; hurt people I cared about, screwed up my chances to be part of an academic elite, closed doors I wish I had left open. It would be very easy to blame those mistakes on bad luck, or blame someone else but me, but in every case at least part of the responsibility rests at my door. You've got to work out what *you* did wrong, and not do it again. You can control that part.

That's a way (or several ways really, although they are complimentary) of dealing with it, anyway.

Keep on truckin'...and uhhh...for a lot of people life is as 'fair' or 'unfair' as you make it. I think people just like/want/need to complain about situations they have gotten themselves into. Gotta have someone besides yourself to blame, right. Pfff.

Weed.

Just keep moving on, man. If life were completely fair, it would be boring as fuck.

Take what you have and make the most of it easier said than done I know because I've been trying to do the same.

Shit friends i just eat ma tayters and carry on.

Head bang to some angry rock/metal music

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I like Dom's answer though.

A depressed and suicidal man would say put a gun in your mouth, count to ten and pull the trigger.

But I on the other hand would say.

Quite simply, fuck it, fuck everything!

You learn to bob and weave!, and turn a bad situation into something good. I know this does not sound true, but it can be done with much practice and perseverance. Work on it

Life sucks. You just gotta deal with it.

Personally i like to keep to myself, keep my head down. But recently, since i have joined here and a couple other internet sites, i have made friends and feel that for the first time in my life im happy. I know that makes me sound like a loser, but its true.

If life is really pressing down on you, listen to your favorite music, watch some funny TV shows, talk to your BFF, even take a walk.

I just don't give a fuck about anything... That does help pretty much!

Acknowledge that life isn't made to be fair.

Smoke and try to do things differently next time.

The layout of your post bothers me. It would've been appropriate if you created a poll instead of making your question very inductive.

Anyway, here's my advice: Forgive and forget. Don't bottle up your emotions, instead put your face on a pillow and cry.

Allah tests different people differently. You wouldn't know what kind of problems other people have. You only see the outer appearance. Maybe they are rich, maybe they are more beautiful etc. You also have to think about the less fortunate who would give many things to be in your place.