What would you do if you found out someone was having a revenge baby?

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A girl who was in my year at school is currently about halfway through with a pregnancy that she told me herself was just to get back at her boyfried's ex, who had apparently tried to split them up several times.

She told me not to tell anyone else. However, I have sort of told a few people and her "secret" has been eating away at me ever since she told me.

Before she told me, I would be nice to her and not criticise her/anything she cared about [She's not very mature, and has made some rather interesting choices with regards to relationships]. She told me her boyfriend beat her up while she was pregnant and I tried telling her to get out and how he wasn't worth staying with, but she wouldn't listen.

I've blocked and deleted her three times. Nothing has happened.

Tell everybody that you both know about what she's done 5
Refer to the person as a "Thing/It/That" once you find out 10
Call Jeremy Kyle/Jerry Springer/equivalent and invite them on too 2
Be horrified at how low they've stooped 11
Block & delete them from any socila networks we are both on 2
Be furious that they could ever do such a thing 4
Keep schtum. If mum and baby are happy, I'm happy. 4
Completely ignore them. They're below my contempt. 6
Be nice, make friends with their friends then drop the bombshell 2
A combination of these (Please say which) 2
Passive-agressively bitch about it on a social network they don't use 2
Call them out on their disgusting behaviour and persecute them 3
Make a false call to Social Services to have the child taken away 3
Hope the baby is OK, but that the mother is in pain during labour 5
Hope the baby miscarriages despite yourself 0
Hope the baby miscarries because you're evil 2
Other (Please say below) 1
Keep schtum. The truth will out, hopefully. 3
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  • Jweezee
    12 years ago | pl

    Mommy was i a mistake?

    Not exactly honey.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    only call the authorities if the child is in danger. but remember there's no guarantee they'll take it away from her

    other than that let her live with her own mistakes.

    you can't run her life for her

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    • ariannel
      12 years ago

      This. You make sense.

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    • taciturn
      12 years ago

      This. In the end it's her own stupid, reckless, disgusting, horrifying decision. It's not in anyone's place to meddle unless there's a serious threat to the baby's life.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    Nothing. Not my life, not my kid. Couldn't bring myself to give a f**k.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Hopefully she will love it enough to get away from him!!

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  • PrincessLollipop
    12 years ago

    Where is the "Mind mind your own business" button?

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    • BlueAlice
      12 years ago

      "Completely ignore them. They're below my contempt".

      ....Or doesn't that count?

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      • PrincessLollipop
        12 years ago

        i don't think you have to ignore them, I think you should just mind your business. Not trying to be rude at all, but it's not your life nor your problem. You will only get yourself into trouble when involving yourself in the life/personal problems of others. They will both learn the hard way which is the ULTIMATE punishment ( I say punishment because thats what it seems like your trying to do).

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        • BlueAlice
          12 years ago

          ...That's what I'm hoping, and that's what my boyfriend has said to me.

          Mind you, I wouldn't be too surprised if they deny it's punishment or that it's anything to do with the revenge baby, or they end up "going to heaven" (Not that I believe in such a place, but anyway).

          Eh. On reflection, I should probably have added a few nicer options to the poll.

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  • Dazzie
    12 years ago

    You weren't a good friend yourself letting out her secret instead of helping her. Obviously this girl has no life experience and has a lot to learn. Why not help her? I understand a pregnancy is something hard and she's doing it for the wrong reasons. But you could have gave her some advice. This girl sounds too young to have a baby. She's only hurting herself.

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Why's it such a big deal? I'd just sigh, and try to support her. Surely she's made some bad choices but that doesn't mean you should hate her.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Believe it or not, this happens alot.

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  • BlueAlice
    5 years ago

    Well, guess what?

    She still sees me as a friend. She was made homeless for a time (which I know because she was raising money for a homeless charity that supported her). Maybe that was the karma.

    She recently asked - almost out of the blue - if I could draw her and her friend. I tried to ask for other photos as the one she sent wasn't the best.

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  • BlueAlice
    11 years ago

    Looks like she's starting to get her punishment..... The baby's a month old and her boyfriend has said that he had to do some shopping (When he apparently lives on takeaways), apparently as an excuse not to see the child. He saw it last week.

    She moved out from his place in September.

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  • BlueAlice
    12 years ago

    SIGH - she's had it. A boy born this afternoon.

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  • assh0le
    12 years ago

    Shitty reason for a girl to have a baby - but what else is new?

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  • Ibelievethis
    12 years ago

    I would do any thing as it would be none of my business. See no evil. hear no evil.speak no evil

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Revenge baby? Jesus! That's disgusting. I mean seriously how low are people willing to go for there own selfish pleasure?! Ugh..Well as horrible as it is it's their business. One shouldn't really meddle..However, if there's an obvious threat then something has to be done.

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  • seabird_71
    12 years ago

    That is fucked up on so many levels. Poor future baby.
    If the guy is abusive, that child needs to be removes right away. And that bitch needs her ass kicked for having a baby out of spite, both her and the guy do.

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  • Malaglinir
    12 years ago

    I wouldn't do anything, it wouldn't be my business.

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  • BlueAlice
    12 years ago

    I forgot to add that I unfriended her on Facebook not because of the revenge baby, but because she thought it was OK to bully other pregnant women for having different choices to her.

    We were never close in school and - bad as it is - nobody liked her. She threw tantrums a lot (I remember she threw a pencil case or a pencil once. Luckily nobody was hit).
    She was - and still is - very skittish. She was part-bald through most of school and many of the girls thought that it was gross (I never said anything about that, but I know now it's because she has had/has trichitillomania, which seems like a rather nasty condition to have). She also confided in me that she was at the school because she had ADHD, which I thought explained how she was very well [We were both in a special needs school for girls].

    I was mostly nice to her, but the revenge baby was the last straw for me.

    I often think I should just leave her to ruin her own life and not look back, and blank her if we ever happen to meet again. Then again, I sometimes wonder whether she wants/needs somebody she can confide in who would keep schtum if they thought she was beign stupid and congratulate her on her pregnancy (All of which I did, but couldn't believe/keep such a dirty secret).

    We've not seen each other since we left school and live in totally different areas of the country.

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  • BlueAlice
    12 years ago

    It hurt having to keep such a disgusting secret which a moronic chav told me.

    Don't ask why or how, but it did and still does.

    What hurt more is that she started calling younger pregnant women "babies"... all because they would be going for a Caesarean rather than au naturel.

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